lovesparis Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 it's been a long time since i posted on here, i recently logged in for a relationship issue unrelated to breaking up... and thought i would check back in here and thank everyone who gave me advice and hugs when i needed it. after 2.5 years i have finally FINALLY "gotten over" the "ex-who-got-away". a lot of things, including good old fashioned time, have helped me get to this point. but it can happen. i woke up the other morning and realized how happy i was, how little i've thought of EX and said to myself "ex who?" i know that i will probably think of him fondly from time to time, regret a bit about things, and even feel weepy, but I AM OVER HIM. it does happen!!! it won't always feel like it will ever happen.... to all the people who listened to me when i needed it, who told me these same words when i said "but he was "the one"-- THANK YOU. i do still think he was right for me, but i wasn't right for him.. and the unthinkable has FINALLY happened and i'm happy. :)
Howitzer Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 OMG I have to go through 2.5 years of this?? Lol sorry that was probably really inappropriate for this forum. I'm glad you found your happiness again. I know that everyone else here will do the same at some point. Goodluck to you!
curiousnycgirl Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 OMG I have to go through 2.5 years of this?? Lol sorry that was probably really inappropriate for this forum. I'm glad you found your happiness again. I know that everyone else here will do the same at some point. Goodluck to you! How funny this was my reaction exactly - almost verbatim!
gaudi Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 2.5 YEARS??? AAARARRARRGGGHHHH !!!!! I was hoping for a few months at the most, but whatever it takes I suppose. Was it NC all the way then or what ??
Author lovesparis Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 LOL it takes different times for everyone. i just wanted to share that even though it may take a long time, it CAN happen
Author lovesparis Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 gaudi-- yes, it was almost totally NC. we broke up in aug, i spent the first month trying to get back with him. then i called him 1x in dec and it was NC from there. but i work with his mom, so that made things all kinds of weird, LOL. and once his fam and my fam (with our new SO's) were all out to dinner at the same place on the same night, seated at tables next to each other. we both feigned ignorance and moved along. BOY WAS THAT UNCOMFORTABLE THOUGH.
Catseye8 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 It really does happen! Worst breakup I've ever had I was actually the dumper - it was with my fiance of 5 years, who turned out to be a lying, thieving, abusive son of a [insert prehistoric monster of your choice here]. And it was awful. I left him in September. He sidled back into my life a few weeks later, and we had this weird pseudo-relationship in which he'd threaten to kill himself if I didn't take him back/say I forgave him/hang around him more, and I put up with it because he was getting psychiatric help and he had an awful lot of issues, poor baby. I cut him off for good in January (this involved, literally, stepping over his curled-up crying self and walking away as he yelled "Would you like an invitation to the funeral, then?"), was hugely miserable, and saw a counsellor. By April, I realised that I was happy with most of my life; by July, I'd stopped crying about him ever, and realised that I didn't really feel anything for him any more except vague pity. He also got over it, didn't kill himself, sorted his life out and was in a much happier place by the end of the year. He's now married and long, long since over me.
bananaboat11 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Good for you =) if these is one thing I've learned... (and I may be young, but experienced) that time doesn't change things as much as we want to believe it does. Doing things changes things... do what's best for you. change negative aspects of your life and fill them with positive things you love to do/be around... be it hobbies, places, or people. Congrats on the new you. I hope I get to that stage soon =)
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