hrtbrknx1000 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 :(I am separated from my husband of 4 years now for almost 3 months. During these 3 months he met someone..moved her in and she is now pregnant for about a month now. We have recently stopped talkin for about a week now. Before this we would talk, txt how much we missed and loved each other to fighting with each other...back and forth. When he told me the girl was pregnant..he was upset that I was upset and told me he loved me and later on that night we fought about it calling each other names and he tells me that he's happy now about to start a family and that all this wouldn't be happening if I didn't leave...blaming me for everything. My question is how can he just pick up with someone else and not even go thru the pain I went and am going thru. We were in love so I don't understand. I know that he got with her to ease the pain of our break up but is it possible for him to be happy? I can't ven think about being with someone else yet. Even though I could never forgive him, is this something he will regret?
acac2323 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Dont fall for the its your fault routine. I am sorry for the hurt u feel. There r many that will be here soon with great advice...
whichwayisup Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 He may or may not regret it.. Do yourself a HUGE favour and file for divorce. Be the one to end it completely and walk away. He chose to be with someone else during your separation and now he has consquences - A family, a woman who probably expects/hopes to marry him. I know this hurts and I am sorry you're in pain..But he is gone. Even if he does regret it, could you take him back, knowing that he has a child with another woman? Are you willing to be step mom to the OW's child? NONE of this is your fault. He is a grown man and noone held a gun to his head, telling him to get involved with someone else while you two were separated. You, just like him, are responsible for problems IN the marriage, but not his choice to go be with someone else. Don't let him make you feel bad, the above poster is right, don't fall for his crap..
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