Lost-n-confused Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Yesterday I wined and complainted and acted like a beotch. It was a complete waste of energy. I went on two dates back to back. The first online date wasn't so hot. She was in her own words a "hot mess". She said I look exactly my photos and didn't expect me to be so very cute. She was so nervous on the date she told me so. That really boosted my confidence. She told me she had no idea why I would be doing online dating. So as I drove home I met up with a friend who has been trying to set me up with this really hot employee of his. She ended up riding with me and she asked about my date. Turns out she had saw my profile online we had a good laugh. She too told me she didn't understand why a handsome guy like myself would do online dating. We ended going to movies with my firend and there was a bar at the movies that had a dance floor and played salsa music. We went to the bar while my firends sat for 30 mins in the theater. I felt confident and asked her to dance and she was a bit shy, so I got slick and grabbed her hand and said come on, what you can't dance? She said I could go dance with someone else and I said I want to dance with you. She said she can't dance and I said don't worry your a girl you follow the guys lead and she gave me with look and made a sound as if to say "damn look at you mr confident" After a few shots we did a little dancing before the movie. I had a great time with this girl and felt and acted confident maybe too confident. She talked about us going out dancing, going for drinks and dinner in the future. I didn't setup a time becuase I didn't want to seem despret or interested. I wanted to seem somewhat mysterous. I took her home and we talked about ourselfs. As I dropped her off she told me she owed me for tonight and I said she did. She gave me a kiss on the cheek. She told me if she had her own place shed let me crash on her couch. I think the fact that I just got done with one date made me look desireable to this girl. What an amazing night for me. Two dates in one night on the second day of the year! I finally did what everyone has been telling me. I had fun and I forgot about trying to find a relationship. I just want to go out and have fun with women and drink, dance and have a fing great time. I'd love to go out with the second girl again and have a great time again. If I don't who cares there will be others. Finally learned dating can be awesome!!!
Yukikazi Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 ...and the truth shall set you free... YAY the light bulb has finally gotten some wattage
sagetalk Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Keep a level head about it. Don't get too high (expect too much or this kind of stuff all the time) and don't get too low (if these don't work out). That is the key. Stay level headed, keep your emotions under control, and dating can be great.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 im not sure I understand the whole "you're hot, why are you online dating" deal. makes me feel like i'm a loser and ugly for doing online dating. is this a common outlook of women? like something is wrong with people who do online dating?
MyNameIsJonas Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) im not sure I understand the whole "you're hot, why are you online dating" deal. makes me feel like i'm a loser and ugly for doing online dating. is this a common outlook of women? like something is wrong with people who do online dating? I wouldn't read too much into that. It's one woman's opinion that may have just been said to flirt with the OP. Edited January 3, 2010 by MyNameIsJonas eh.
dreamergrl Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Yesterday I wined and complainted and acted like a beotch. It was a complete waste of energy. Duh I went on two dates back to back. The first online date wasn't so hot. She was in her own words a "hot mess". She said I look exactly my photos and didn't expect me to be so very cute. She was so nervous on the date she told me so. That really boosted my confidence. She told me she had no idea why I would be doing online dating. So you went out with someone that YOU made nervous to give yourself an ego stroke? So as I drove home I met up with a friend who has been trying to set me up with this really hot employee of his. She ended up riding with me and she asked about my date. Turns out she had saw my profile online we had a good laugh. I really hope the laugh wasn't over the girl you were demanding a bikini picture from because you were worried she was fat. She too told me she didn't understand why a handsome guy like myself would do online dating. We ended going to movies with my firend and there was a bar at the movies that had a dance floor and played salsa music. We went to the bar while my firends sat for 30 mins in the theater. I felt confident and asked her to dance and she was a bit shy, so I got slick and grabbed her hand and said come on, what you can't dance? She said I could go dance with someone else and I said I want to dance with you. She said she can't dance and I said don't worry your a girl you follow the guys lead and she gave me with look and made a sound as if to say "damn look at you mr confident" After a few shots we did a little dancing before the movie. I had a great time with this girl and felt and acted confident maybe too confident. And you got your ego stroke yet again here. By the way confident and cocky are two different things. She talked about us going out dancing, going for drinks and dinner in the future. I didn't setup a time becuase I didn't want to seem despret or interested. You don't want to seem interested? I wanted to seem somewhat mysterous. I took her home and we talked about ourselfs. As I dropped her off she told me she owed me for tonight and I said she did. She gave me a kiss on the cheek. She told me if she had her own place shed let me crash on her couch. I think the fact that I just got done with one date made me look desireable to this girl. You told her she owes you?? What an amazing night for me. Two dates in one night on the second day of the year! I finally did what everyone has been telling me. I had fun and I forgot about trying to find a relationship. I just want to go out and have fun with women and drink, dance and have a fing great time. I'd love to go out with the second girl again and have a great time again. If I don't who cares there will be others. Now if only you can work on your social skills. Seriously OP, I'm glad you finally had a 'date', and I say it loosely because the second one was a last minute thing, not really a date. But quit being superficial, don't tell a girl she owes you, don't go out to stroke your ego, don't go thinking your better then the rest like you've displayed here and you might continue to have some success.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) It wasn't like hey you owe me money. She was like you showed me a good time and I owe you for it. Me agreeing was just me saying yea I had a great time too and yea you owe me a great time too. She said she had a great time and I said I did too. It was 4 am we both had some drinks and were tired. She did mention about going out again. So I some how signaled indirectly that Im interested. I'm going to message her Wednesday and ask her out. I was trying to play it cool and be confident. I may have been all right and mighty but this girl is also very confident. Also I may common off as stroking my ego but while I may have been very confident and cocky at some points, I also showed my shy side too. I'm no players just trying to have a bit of swagger. Some girls like cocky. Isn't there that whole niceguy thoery vs cock jerk? I'm a mix of both. Edited January 3, 2010 by Lost-n-confused
cognac Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Just be moderately cool OP, and your looks and muscular body will carry you all the way to her bed.
DustySaltus Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Don't let the highs get to high or the lows get too low. I'm glad you got your confidence back however you shouldn't let other people's validation of you define who you are.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 By no means did anything fantatic happen last night. It was a step forward into the world of dating. I am good looking, I am confident and I can do this. I like being a little cock. I've seen my best firend do it and it works like a charm for him. Dreamergirl do you hate me?
cognac Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Dreamergirl do you hate me? You probably remind her of her ex-boyfriend (s) and past hook-ups, don't take offense
dreamergrl Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 You probably remind her of her ex-boyfriend (s) and past hook-ups, don't take offense You use that line on everyone, get some new material OP I don't hate you, but I think your attitude on certain things is quite poor. You claim to want love and such, but your attitude doesn't match that. I think ego stroking is a negative trait, I find cockiness and arrogance revolting. But that's just me.
carhill Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 You know what they say about a complacent pilot, right, OP? Glad you had a good time. I think, as long as you value the experiences and the people you interact with, your head is in the right place.
Awesome Username Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Aw YAY! I hope everything works out for you! I'm glad you had a good time!
Ms. Joolie Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 OP, it seems when you put your mind in the right place, you have AWESOME dates! That's what dating is all about.... that's great. I'm really happy for you. Keep on having a good time with her, or with any people you meet. It can work with your guy friends, too. (or in making guy friends..) You just open up, enjoy life and have a good time together. Listen to these people, too. Don't be totally arrogant and think YOU are the bomb. It's not all about you. It's about sharing an awesome time together. I've totally been doing this, and my relationships are improving significantly. I've been so self-absorbed, you know? But just opening up and having a good time.... it rocks. Hope you bring this same energy into all your dates, with all your friends and throughout all your life!
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