ladymistique Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 That's how I feel. Survived New Year's night thanks to the advice from all the wonderful ppl on this forum. Still, I feel melancholy and in love with the ex, 6 months since the breakup. This sucks. When does it stop?
curiousnycgirl Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 That's the $64K question. No clue, but wanted to tell you you're not alone (which you probably already knew)
Vampire Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Still, I feel melancholy and in love with the ex, 6 months since the breakup. Right there with you. 6 months and I'm still crying like a baby at the thought of her. When does it stop? When we're all cried out I hope.
gaudi Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Currently going through a breakup, my heart is well and truly broken. i have been unfortunate to go through it once before, with someone else. Don't know what this says about me, but the initial hurting, feeling of dying inside, lasted, approximately six months. Who knows, this time may be longer/shorter. I would probably say it helps that I've experienced it before, as I already know it doesn't last forever.
lostboyuk Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Me too I've had mine broken 3-4 times in the last 4 months (same person), I thought and said out loud to people that if it happens again I won't be that bothered, I've had enough, etc, etc.......boy was I wrong!!! So I'm expecting a good 3-4 months of varying hell from 28th Dec when she left again + 3 months = 7 months in total. That is assuming nothing major happens in the near future of course. Oh and if you factor in that the 3-4 months were torturous up and downs I reckon I'm allowed to call it 6 months, therfore a TOTAL of 9 months, with a 3 month cooling period giving a GRAND TOTAL of 12 MONTHS Oh hell who asked this question?!
Author ladymistique Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 Well, I guess we can all refer to lostboyuk's formula except.... A year? I won't be able to take these feelings for a year so how about we negotiate ? I'm cool with 7.5 to 8 months, lol.
lostboyuk Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Lady, I'm cool with that. Anything I can tell myself to make the pain shorter or more bearable is music to my little ears!!!
D-Lish Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 There is no timeline that everyone adheres to when it comes to healing. I've been with someone for three months and mourned longer than someone I dated for 3 years. I think a lot of it has to do with what you do to help yourself. Cutting off all ties and contact IS the best way to heal faster. That means no texts, calls, facebook viewing, listening to updates from mutual friends. You can prolong your healing process or you can take control of the situation and begin the steps of letting them go. No contact is very painful at first, but once you make it to 30 days, 60 days, etc... you'll find yourself making progress.
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