jeffery Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 i was with this amazing girl for 2 and a half years, then she wanted to be single as we are both young at heart, i agreed let her do what she wanted, then she starts a new relationship within 2months of the break up, anyway nearly for months has passed since she is with this new fella and she wont stop emailing me or texting me, sayin how she really miss me,everything about us, and she says i cant not have you in my life, that she thinks about all the time...then i tell her how i feel bac,that i feel the same way then she says i duno what i want because i with tom (her boyfriend) but she keeps texting/emailing me stuff and i have said i'd rather have no contact with her... then she text's my sister saying we should go out for a drink or something and that my ex is always there for her....any advice?
blackbear_703 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Hi Jeffrey-- If she is with another man and says she can't be with you, it's pretty obvious she's either just giving you a little something to chew on and hoping you'll go for it or she's playing games. Or both. The exact reason for her staying in constant contact is hard to say. Maybe she feels guilty over breaking up with you for whatever reason? Or she's keeping you around as the back-up guy?? If I were you, I wouldn't let her play with my feelings anymore. I'd stop playing the game altogether and stop responding to her e-mails, texts, etc. Don't request NC from her; take the initiative and seize it yourself. Otherwise, you'll never be able to find closure and move on from this woman. There's a better woman out there for you and the time spent e-mailing your ex would be better spent on the new woman in your life. BTW, how well acquainted is your sister with her? Your sis might want to go NC with her as well, but if they're good friends or co-workers, that might be hard to do.
hungry Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I would agree with what the above post says...but then again there is something you could add on to do ...find out what would she have to say or better yet find out what she would do if she came to know from your sister that you were with someone else too....do this after keeping out of sight for like 2 weeks ...and out of sight means ...out of touch with your sister too... lte her know only after the 2 weeks pass...and try and see if u can get the info across to this chick u mentioned...
HLP234 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 she says i cant not have you in my life. Yeh thats the same exact line my girl used when she mentioned that we take a break. Doesn't make any sense, because this way they want their cake and to eat it too. Its not fair to us at all, and to you especially if after only 2 months she is with someone else? Some people do that though, they get close with someone else while they are already in a relationship and then they get confused and look for that new feeling each time. Or they just confine in others to make them feel better and then they leave you for them. I would just do NC and forget her. She left you and you don't really owe her any explanations. If you tell her you don't want to talk anymore she will just tear you to pieces. Make her wonder and think about what she did wrong just like she has made you pretty confused.
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