Building YOUR Man

January 4, 2010

Needs

· He must be kick-arse intelligent

· has integrity (I’m assuming this covers honesty)

· He must be crazy about me.

· Has good communication skills

· He is reliable.

· Verbally expressive of his emotions.

· Forever loyal and faithful.

· Smart, magnetic, multifaceted

· Passionate, true to his ideals, principled.

· Fiscally responsible.

· Want marriage and kids

· I have to want to get naked with him

· Is able to laugh about life

Wants

· He has an amazingly sharp, dry wit. Brilliant barbs constantly fall off his tongue.

· He knows you're his equal in every way and are completely capable of providing for yourself, but he still loves pampering you like a princess, just as you love treating him like your prince.

· Flexible, adaptable.

· He makes the effort to master my G-spot and sexual pleasure points head to toe, and consistently does his part to transform me into a wildcat in bed.(bonus points for this guy!)

· My friends like him

· He likes my dog as much as he likes me

· He’s attends the same type of church that I do

· He doesn’t have a wildly promiscuous past

January 4, 2010

While I think it's fine and dandy to have a list of wants and needs, what's the whole "Oh, gosh, he had a ONS, or was promiscuous! It's over!" about? Just because someone slept around BEFORE YOU doesn't mean they are cheaters, or that they will sleep around on you.

January 4, 2010

Hey, CLC, I don't think there's a good or bad list. Figuring out what drives you is what's good!

Have you tried applying your list to past relationships?

Yes.

On LTR's?

1st - he scored 8 out of 12 on "Needs" and 7 out of 10 on "Wants"

2nd - he scored 6 out of 12 on "Needs" and 5 out 10 on "Wants"

I think there are some other needs/wants I've left out, so I will need to ammend it.

January 4, 2010

I see that Tigress and Crazy Magnet have done their lists. Good for you!

I think there are some other needs/wants I've left out, so I will need to ammend it.

I have too and deliberately left off some, but it's good enough for this exercise on LS.

I think back to when I first met my ex-H. The list I kept in my mind, was a helluva' lot smaller, particularly the needs section. Since that time, including the experience with the ex and also, some of the guys I got involved with, taught me that the more filters I put into place, the less time and emotion I wasted.

I even went back to some of my past relationships and found significant failures in each one, not because they were all such horrific individuals but because each time, somethings were off.

These lists aren't cast in stone, in that sometimes, wants become needs and needs become wants, due to stage in life.

A couple more things I do suggest:

Take a look at your needs and try to prioritize them. The ones that fall to the very bottom might not be needs. Looking at my own list, I can see a few that can be shuffled.

Also, flag each need with an S for superficial need. If your needs list is predominantly superficial, it might be worthwhile to consider if you're looking deep enough into what drives you. Perhaps your needs list is an accurate reflection of who you are and if so, that's okay too.

January 4, 2010

I think back to when I first met my ex-H. The list I kept in my mind, was a helluva' lot smaller, particularly the needs section. Since that time, including the experience with the ex and also, some of the guys I got involved with, taught me that the more filters I put into place, the less time and emotion I wasted.

I even went back to some of my past relationships and found significant failures in each one, not because they were all such horrific individuals but because each time, somethings were off.

These lists aren't cast in stone, in that sometimes, wants become needs and needs become wants, due to stage in life.

A couple more things I do suggest:

Take a look at your needs and try to prioritize them. The ones that fall to the very bottom might not be needs. Looking at my own list, I can see a few that can be shuffled.

Also, flag each need with an S for superficial need. If your needs list is predominantly superficial, it might be worthwhile to consider if you're looking deep enough into what drives you. Perhaps your needs list is an accurate reflection of who you are and if so, that's okay too.

These are all really good points to consider. I know that with each relationship I had, I subtracted and added some needs, and more importantly, my needs became less and less superficial. I was able to learn much more about what drives me. I'm satisfied with my current list. Like you said, due to stage in life, some needs become wants and wants become needs. For example, my want being "He's nice to kids"--might change to a need later in life if I decide I really want kids (I'm undecided as yet). Like "Must love kids/must want kids". I realized that I didn't put down "Must want to be married someday" as a need, or even as a want. I guess while I do want that at some point, it's definitely not an urgent issue now. I'd say by the time I hit my mid-late 20s it'll be featured prominently on the list.

Edit: Haha, I did forget something important on the 'need' list--He must be respectful, courteous and generous to those in the service industry. I have little respect for those who don't tip sufficiently enough without any reason, and no respect for those who don't at least treat service workers kindly. I cleaned rooms in hotels for 5 consecutive summers and you wouldn't believe how many people thought my cleaning up after them was more than enough excuse to be rude to me. I think when you look at how someone treats those who serve/cater to them, you get an inside look at how they'll treat you and others.

Edited January 4, 2010 by tigressA

January 4, 2010

I think my needs list is pretty bare bones. Sure I NEED lots of things, but I tried to pick what I can't live without. When I have more time I think I'll reorder my list because the marriage/kids and fiscally responsible need to be much closer to the top!

January 4, 2010

I haven't seen anything on religion. Is nobody very concerned about that, or is everybody just forgetting?

January 4, 2010

I haven't seen anything on religion. Is nobody very concerned about that, or is everybody just forgetting?

People capable of making 60+ item long criteria lists for a mate are generally not very spiritually deep.

January 4, 2010

Needs:

1. Absolutely must be intelligent

2. Honest, even if it's brutal. I am not easily offended.

3. Articulate, effective communicator

4. Empathetic and thoughtful

5. Passionate, both intellectually, emotionally, and physically

6. Has a naturally optimistic/go-getter-can-do attitude

7. Not ugly

8. Laid-back and not super high-maintainance

9. Loyal and faithful -- absolutely not the type of person to cheat

10. No drugs, period. Alcohol is okay, but not chronically.

11. No smoking.

12. Healthy lifestyle (i.e. takes good care of themselves)

13. A kind heart

14. Willing to try new things

15. Someone who genuinely loves me and prioritizes my happiness and well-being

16. Shares my mindset that a relationship is a sort of team effort where both people ultimately help each other become better people

17. Someone who can love me despite me being a nerd at heart.

18. Reasonably clean (my ex was insanely messy and it drove me nuts)

19. Someone who is respectful to everyone they meet

20. Loves to give, loves to receive

21. A problem-solver who prefers to resolve conflicts rather than yell and/or let things snowball into something worse.

22. Doesn't mind that I am atheist.

Wants:

1. Asian ethnicity

2. Financially self-sufficient

3. Tall

4. I like eccentric/eclectic, quirky people. I find such things endearing

5. Patience (I am not super extroverted when I meet new people)

6. Has a passion either for the arts, the sciences, or both.

7. Someone who I can have fun debates/banters with.

8. Well-educated

9. Someone who knows how to cook (and could teach me how to improve, myself!)

10. Has an adorable voice

11. Classy dresser

12. Dainty features

13. Somewhat territorial/possessive

14. Is okay with PDA

15. Shares a common love of foreign languages, computers, or art.

Edited January 4, 2010 by Vertex

January 4, 2010

some needs become wants and wants become needs. For example, my want being "He's nice to kids"--might change to a need later in life if I decide I really want kids (I'm undecided as yet). Like "Must love kids/must want kids". I realized that I didn't put down "Must want to be married someday" as a need, or even as a want. I guess while I do want that at some point, it's definitely not an urgent issue now. I'd say by the time I hit my mid-late 20s it'll be featured prominently on the list.

You might want to consider putting something like "Isn't afraid of marriage and wants children in the future", so that you cover that aspect. If you end up in an LTR with someone, which spans over 5 years, your needs will more likely change over the course of the relationship. Imagine investing so much time with someone who drops the bomb on you 5 years later, that he never wants kids or ever wants to be married.

I think my needs list is pretty bare bones. Sure I NEED lots of things, but I tried to pick what I can't live without. When I have more time I think I'll reorder my list because the marriage/kids and fiscally responsible need to be much closer to the top!

Amend at will and need. Glad you're thinking long-term though.

I haven't seen anything on religion. Is nobody very concerned about that, or is everybody just forgetting?

Good point.

I'm an atheist who's tolerant of religion, as long as my partner is also tolerant of my atheism. As long as he's not a fundamentalist or someone who tries to ram it down my throat, it's all good.

I did get lucky though. My husband is also an atheist so there wasn't anything to be concerned about. Back when, for my first marriage, the ex was RC. Back when, I was also a Christian "believer", but converted to RC since it was more important to him and his family, than it was to me, albeit bothered my parents.

I don't know if your gender, due to an ambiguous username, but if you're a woman, feel free to post your own list.

January 4, 2010

Needs:

1. Absolutely must be intelligent
2. Honest, even if it's brutal. I am not easily offended.
3. Articulate, effective communicator
4. Empathetic and thoughtful
5. Passionate, both intellectually, emotionally, and physically
6. Has a naturally optimistic/go-getter-can-do attitude
7. Not ugly
8. Laid-back and not super high-maintainance
9. Loyal and faithful -- absolutely not the type of person to cheat
10. No drugs, period. Alcohol is okay, but not chronically.
11. No smoking.
12. Healthy lifestyle (i.e. takes good care of themselves)
13. A kind heart
14. Willing to try new things
15. Someone who genuinely loves me and prioritizes my happiness and well-being
16. Shares my mindset that a relationship is a sort of team effort where both people ultimately help each other become better people
17. Someone who can love me despite me being a nerd at heart.
18. Reasonably clean (my ex was insanely messy and it drove me nuts)
19. Someone who is respectful to everyone they meet
20. Loves to give, loves to receive
21. A problem-solver who prefers to resolve conflicts rather than yell and/or let things snowball into something worse.
22. Doesn't mind that I am atheist.

Wants:
1. Asian ethnicity
2. Financially self-sufficient
3. Tall
4. I like eccentric/eclectic, quirky people. I find such things endearing
5. Patience (I am not super extroverted when I meet new people)
6. Has a passion either for the arts, the sciences, or both.
7. Someone who I can have fun debates/banters with.
8. Well-educated
9. Someone who knows how to cook (and could teach me how to improve, myself!)
10. Has an adorable voice
11. Classy dresser
12. Dainty features
13. Somewhat territorial/possessive
14. Is okay with PDA
15. Shares a common love of foreign languages, computers, or art.

Hey, welcome Vertex! You're the ground-breaker for the men. Who says you're shy!

January 4, 2010

Whoops! I didn't even really realize this topic was about "building men" -- I just saw the list format and thought it was an interesting exercise. XD

January 5, 2010

Maybe with your ground-breaking list for a woman, other thoughtful male members will also post their lists.

I do ask that the lists be tasteful and respectful of both genders. Posturing or agenda-based lists are not welcome.

January 5, 2010

I see that Tigress and Crazy Magnet have done their lists. Good for you!

I have too and deliberately left off some, but it's good enough for this exercise on LS.

I think back to when I first met my ex-H. The list I kept in my mind, was a helluva' lot smaller, particularly the needs section. Since that time, including the experience with the ex and also, some of the guys I got involved with, taught me that the more filters I put into place, the less time and emotion I wasted.

I even went back to some of my past relationships and found significant failures in each one, not because they were all such horrific individuals but because each time, somethings were off.

These lists aren't cast in stone, in that sometimes, wants become needs and needs become wants, due to stage in life.

A couple more things I do suggest:

Take a look at your needs and try to prioritize them. The ones that fall to the very bottom might not be needs. Looking at my own list, I can see a few that can be shuffled.

Also, flag each need with an S for superficial need. If your needs list is predominantly superficial, it might be worthwhile to consider if you're looking deep enough into what drives you. Perhaps your needs list is an accurate reflection of who you are and if so, that's okay too.

Okay this list business is starting to get complicated.

January 5, 2010

Okay this list business is starting to get complicated.

Do whatever works for you. Just throwing in some fine-tuning suggestions!

January 5, 2010

You might want to consider putting something like "Isn't afraid of marriage and wants children in the future", so that you cover that aspect. If you end up in an LTR with someone, which spans over 5 years, your needs will more likely change over the course of the relationship. Imagine investing so much time with someone who drops the bomb on you 5 years later, that he never wants kids or ever wants to be married.

Yes, that's true. Alright, my list has been amended. Thank you for the suggestion

January 5, 2010

These are not listed by order of importance, I just put numbers to see how many I have in each.

Needs:

1. Honest

2. Kind heart

3. Somewhat educated

4. Reasonable

5. Accountable (this covers financially as well)

6. Not super high-maintenance

7. Non-smoker

8. Believes in and lives a healthy lifestyle

9. Willing to try new things

10. Shares or accepts my agnosticism

11. Emotionally stable

12. Has a desire to start a family one day

13. Physically attractive (in my eyes)

14. Physically affectionate

15. Sexually open and regularly available

16. Isn't offended or bothered if I look at porn sometimes

17. Can communicate and talk openly about problems or issues in a calm and rational manner

18. Willing to make compromises

19. Does not expect me to read her mind all of the time

20. Loves me and is loyal to me while we are involved

21. Adaptable

22. Is not a bitter and spiteful person

Wants:

1. Big boobs

2. Not a big drinker

3. No kids

4. Has a balance in her work and life

5. More of a homebody than a social butterfly

6. Independent thinker

7. Enjoys cooking

8. Not an idealist

9. Somewhat clean

10. Makes me think and teaches me new things

11. Someone who prefers finding natural remedies to health problems rather than using pharmaceuticals

I was gonna give you ladies a hard time about your long lists, but mine has ended up being pretty long as well.

Looking at my current GF, at the start of our relationship I had questions or thought there were (or might be) issues with about 5 of the 22 needs I listed. At the current time I still think there are 2 or 3 of my needs that are still in question. I have to say, though, it's a drastic improvement from the previous girl I dated. She only met about 4 of my 22 needs listed . That's probably why our relationship was so short lived.

January 5, 2010

Do whatever works for you. Just throwing in some fine-tuning suggestions!

This was a good thread you posted, for both genders.

It also helps to see things more clearly.

I think most "wants" though, can teeter on the line of superficial (not including the PMS one ).

January 5, 2010

Yes, that's true. Alright, my list has been amended. Thank you for the suggestion

You're welcome.

This was a good thread you posted, for both genders.

It also helps to see things more clearly.

I think most "wants" though, can teeter on the line of superficial (not including the PMS one ).

Thanks. It's nice to hear that it's not only me that it's helped to clarify issues with. Writing something down can also be cathartic.

I'm not suggesting that some needs can't be superficial, just questioning whether people are looking deeply enough into what drives them, if the superficial is predominant in needs.

Hey fral, welcome! Good lists.

January 5, 2010

After reflecting on what didn't work in past relationships and reading the lists of others, I've added a few to mine and amended some items. TBF, I agree with others that this is a productive thread!

Needs:

He's either very intelligent or he's reasonably intelligent and very talented at something that I value
He has integrity and he's principled.
He's crazy about me
No major baggage or man chip
Must never have cheated or slept with an outrageous number of women
Has a strong sense of self. No wobbly identity.
He has a good heart
He is reliable and consistent (not flaky!)
Passionate about his career
Verbally and physically affectionate (within reason)
Supportive both emotionally and practically, a man who can give as well as receive
Goal-oriented, ambitious, capable of getting things done
Handsome to me
Reflective, observant, has depth
Reasonably well-cultured
Assertive, expressive of his needs. If somebody crosses his boundaries, he'll let them know. No passive aggression.
Sane
Some cynicism is ok, but not excessively negative in how he views others and the world
Has the ability to grow. Not stubbornly set in bad habits or unhealthy beliefs.
Believes in marriage, no commitment phobia

Wants:

I really like his eyes
We generally agree in our observations about the world, we often finish each other's thoughts
He comes from a good family that he's close to
He shouldn't expect me to be perfect, and shouldn't be perfect himself
Literate and well-educated
He has a sharp, dry wit
He is tall and trim
His face is very handsome, but not so ridiculously perfect that he gets oodles of female attention
Good at something creative (particularly art or music related)
I'm the only woman he has and will ever be fully in love with, because we're perfect for each other
Is nice to kids and makes my heart melt when he cuddles them or plays games with them
Has a deep, sexy voice and big, strong hands
Despite whatever job he actually does, he is also good at fixing things
Multifaceted
An excellent conversationalist
Financially self-sufficient
Good with people
Fiscally responsible
Not superficial
Shares a common passion/appreciation for film.
Not depressed.
Wants kids. (This isn't a need because I'm still not 100 percent on whether I want them, but I'd like keep my options open)

Edited January 5, 2010 by shadowplay

January 5, 2010

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Needs:[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]1)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must enjoy deep conversation as a form of intimacy and be knowledgable on a wide range of subjects.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]2)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be adventurous, willing to try new things, sometimes at the spur of the moment.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]3)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must share a similar sense of humor with me, make me laugh, enjoy my humor.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]4)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must have multiple personalities (Yes I said it, and no Im not talking schizo’s) I just want a man who can chill with the hippies, act classy downtown, be nerdy with the college students, superficial with the flakes and a total goofball around kids. I want a man who won’t shun any group of people.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]5)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be open-minded (this sort of goes with 2 & 4)[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]6)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be outgoing and know how to break me out of my shell.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]7)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be the confident aggressor in the relationship [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]8)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be good with (and hopefully eventually) love my daughter.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]9)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be intelligent both socially and academically[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]10)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must share SOME (not necessarily all) cultural interests as me (music, movies, art, etc)[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]11)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be attractive.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]12)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Must be passionate about life.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Wants:[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]1)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who is taller than me (I’m 5’10”)… and thick and muscular[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]2)[/sIZE][/FONT] [sIZE=3][FONT=Calibri]Someone who is not a picky eater. I like to cook at random without a recipe so you better be hungry and willing! [/FONT]J[/sIZE]

[sIZE=3][/sIZE][FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]3)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who likes to better themselves.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]4)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who does not mind that I prefer to sleep alone (even tho I won’t if it’s the right person…I just think I’m claustrophobic, honest!)[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]5)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who can be verbal both emotionally and sexually [/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]6)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who can help me clean[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]7)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]Someone who loves a 50/50 give/take relationship.[/sIZE][/FONT]

[FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]8)[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Calibri][sIZE=3]A British accent never hurts.[/sIZE][/FONT]

January 5, 2010

LovieDove, I took the liberty of cleaning up the tags from your list:

Needs:
1) Must enjoy deep conversation as a form of intimacy and be knowledgable on a wide range of subjects.
2) Must be adventurous, willing to try new things, sometimes at the spur of the moment.
3) Must share a similar sense of humor with me, make me laugh, enjoy my humor.
4) Must have multiple personalities (Yes I said it, and no Im not talking schizo’s) I just want a man who can chill with the hippies, act classy downtown, be nerdy with the college students, superficial with the flakes and a total goofball around kids. I want a man who won’t shun any group of people.
5) Must be open-minded (this sort of goes with 2 & 4)
6) Must be outgoing and know how to break me out of my shell.
7) Must be the confident aggressor in the relationship
8) Must be good with (and hopefully eventually) love my daughter.
9) Must be intelligent both socially and academically
10) Must share SOME (not necessarily all) cultural interests as me (music, movies, art, etc)
11) Must be attractive.
12) Must be passionate about life.

Wants:
1) Someone who is taller than me (I’m 5’10”)… and thick and muscular
2) Someone who is not a picky eater. I like to cook at random without a recipe so you better be hungry and willing!
3) Someone who likes to better themselves.
4) Someone who does not mind that I prefer to sleep alone (even tho I won’t if it’s the right person…I just think I’m claustrophobic, honest!)
5) Someone who can be verbal both emotionally and sexually
6) Someone who can help me clean
7) Someone who loves a 50/50 give/take relationship.
8) A British accent never hurts.

January 5, 2010

WOAH WOAH WOAH!!

Sorry Loveshack! I wrote it in Word first and then copied and pasted. Here is my revised list:

Needs:

1) Must value intelligent conversation as (one of) the highest forms of intimacy.

2) Must be spontaneous and spur of the moment.

3) Must have multiple personalities, and no I don't mean a schizo. I just want someone who can chill with the hippies, act classy downtown, be nerdy with the dorks, superficial with the flakes, contribute with the intellects and a goofball with children. In other words, I want someone who won't shun any group of people.

4) Must be confident, confident, confident.

5) Must be a stable, rational man but also able to show emotion from time to time (No men who are mushy round the clock please!)

6) Must be socially and intellectually intelligent.

7) Must be sexually attractive (in my opinion of course).

8) Must be passionate about life.

9) Must share a handful of similar interests as me.

10) Must be outgoing

11) Must be kind hearted

Im just going to stop there, anything else would be a wonderful bonus!

Edited January 5, 2010 by LovieDove24

January 5, 2010

Amendment #2 (and these are in no order of importance)

Needs:

-He must be loyal

-He must be kind & considerate, not mean spirited

-Someone with integrity

-Someone who is reliable, I can count on him when the chips are down

-He must be supportive, someone who will stand beside me

-Someone who is positive and always tries to see the good in situations

-He should have a touch of humbleness

-Someone who is not overtly materialistic

-He is not overly rigid, but instead, someone who is flexible

-He knows not when to push but rather help lead me in the right direction

-Someone who accepts me for me and doesn’t make me feel bad for my shortcomings

-He must be my best friend

-He’s not a drug-addict, alcoholic or addicted to gambling and/or porn

-He must be verbally expressive with his feelings towards me, to a degree (not overly sappy)

-He must be responsible fiscally, but does like to splurge from time to time

-He must be not only intellectual…But intellectually stimulating

-He must be a good/safe driver

-He must have a good relationship with his family

-He’s not overly flirtatious with other women, especially if he’s in a relationship

-He can perform manual labor

Wants:

-Someone who is HOT

-Someone who is quirky

-Someone whose sense of humor, compliments my own

-Broad shoulders, sexy arms and masculine hands

-He doesn’t expect me to go to every single sport event with him, especially if it’s really cold out

-He's a romantic at heart, and has the ability to bring out that side of me

-If we disagree or get into an argument of some sort, he doesn’t blame it on “PMS” (I have yet to meet a single guy who doesn’t make some sort of reference to that).

-Someone who says nice things to me (i.e. compliments me verbally), not because he thinks it’s what I want to hear, but because he WANTS to say it.

-Someone who doesn’t snore like a lumberjack

-Someone who likes to sleep in on occasion and likes to just lay in bed watching TV with me

-A man who can give me the big O like no one ever has before

-He wants marriage/children, if/when he finds the right partner and decides that I AM that gal

-He understands that part of what arouses me in the bedroom, is my desire to arouse him and please him sexually as well

-Someone who enjoys listening/singing corny sappy love songs (hint hint – Peter Cetera)

-Someone who doesn’t need to talk 24 hours a day (I spend a lot of time interacting with people on the phone, email, etc., at work as is + my mother talks forever!)

-Someone who will pick me up, throw me over his shoulders, and say “into the bedroom now woman”!

January 7, 2010

LovieDove, I took the liberty of cleaning up the tags from your list:

Haha thanks, I think I like that list better than my ammended one!

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