mx1998 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I had a question about a friend of mine a few weeks ago, now i have one for me. Can you have too high of standards or 'taste'. I am a single guy and have chosen to be that way for 2 years. I'm feeling that I kinda want to get back in the 'game' this year. Does anyone think that you can have too high of standards. I mean i think mine are pretty high but I like what I like, and i think I am a pretty good looking guy not to sound cocky but I've had my fair share of compliments, so... do you think your type can be too good for you? thanks
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I'm the same way. I don't think you should ever settle.
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 When you find the right woman you won't even think about standards.
Yukikazi Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 You like what you like.. if you only shoot for your type.. sooner or later you will find one. If you are picking up a girl based on looks alone to determine if you are going to approach.. may as well go for broke and aim for a 10
CaspianDreams Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 There's nothing wrong with having a type, but at least for me, it's usual what I'm not expecting that fascinates me the most. The only point is, don't settle, but don't be scared to branch away from what you think you should like...take the occasional jaunt into the unknown...worst case scenario you likely will learn something new.
temple Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Expect the best and you will get it. There is absolutely no point in settling for someone when your heart isn't with them. You're cheating both parties.
and.then.some Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I don't believe in standards being too high, as that suggests one being "lower" than another. I do, however, believe in expectations being unrealistic. I honestly believe that people in this country watch entirely too much TV. The common scenario: Very low-maintenance earthy chic is a pretty boy chaser. Pretty boy is chasing the women who are only interested in high rollers. Both parties are whining because they're not being noticed by the objects of their affections. Both parties feel they should be "good enough", but they just don't make the cut. It's really quite comical to me. Sometimes opposites do attract, but some people believe that just because they're "cute" they should then be the type of a wide variety of different people. This is not so... Yes, the earthy chic might pull the pretty boy, but for what reasons? Likewise, the guy with the shallow pockets might temporarily hold the attention of the ladder climber, as it gives her something to do and she enjoys the attention. Social circles have just as much, if not more, to do with what you get than mere natural beauty. The "cool kids" wanting to hang out with someone "cooler". Honesty, when it comes to the so-called high standards, that's the biggest problem I see among my peers.
b52s Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 It all depends really, but I think some people should be realistic in their standards, some people have gotten so unreasonable in their expectations that's it' crazy. Just an example: (ie -5'2" woman want's a 6'0" guy and won't "settle" for less)
temple Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 It all depends really, but I think some people should be realistic in their standards, some people have gotten so unreasonable in their expectations that's it' crazy. Just an example: (ie -5'2" woman want's a 6'0" guy and won't "settle" for less) Yes that is very silly - I'm hoping the OP isn't thinking along those lines though
Green Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I don't like the word standards. If you are going around saying the girl needs to have boobs atleast this big and hair this long, and talk in this way ect... yes your standards are giving you problem. For instance I find rating a girl in you mind 1 out of 10 is silly, what does that even mean, like do you say to yourself I would not go out with a 7 but I would go out with an 8.... Instead just ask yourself am I attracted to this girl, if you are then talk to her, flirt with her, touch her, get to know her and if your still attracted continue. Once you have the initial attraction you should take the time to get to know them and not just write them off for some superficial fact you learn. If you walk around town and every single you see is physicaly unattractive to you then you may or may not have a problem...
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