scenester Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I feel like it's so hard to meet girls my age. It's like if you don't have a mutual friend they don't want anything to do with you, or think you're a creep or something. I'm 19 btw. Idk maybe I'm not trying hard enough, or putting myself in more socially accepted places. I just got rid of most of my friends cause they really betrayed me and I don't want people like that in my life. I go from times of everything being great - where I'm doing something almost everynight to where I'm doing nothing for weeks at a time. I recently ended things with this girl a few weeks ago and now I'm back to square one. Suggestions?
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Be comfortable with yourself and be ok with being alone. You are your own best friend. Dig deep into your hobbies and your work/school. when you feel like it, get out there and make some new friends. Get out of your usual routine and find new places to go. Become part of new groups..dance clubs, jam sessions, cooking classes, yoga classes (hot women guaranteed!), the gym, etc. There are nice, genuine people out there you just have to find them. And it will take patience and perseverance. Good luck my friend.
bwidger Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I feel like it's so hard to meet girls my age. It's like if you don't have a mutual friend they don't want anything to do with you, or think you're a creep or something. I'm 19 btw. Idk maybe I'm not trying hard enough, or putting myself in more socially accepted places. I just got rid of most of my friends cause they really betrayed me and I don't want people like that in my life. I go from times of everything being great - where I'm doing something almost everynight to where I'm doing nothing for weeks at a time. I recently ended things with this girl a few weeks ago and now I'm back to square one. Suggestions? No, no, no... Your age is like prime to meet girls. Well, maybe 21 is best but who's counting?
LostInLA Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 You are in the prime of life! You should be having fun and you should also choose your friends wisely. Get out there and make new, quality friends. Sure, try to meet a lot of people but really be selective about who you trust. Trustworthy people usually know other trustworthy people, and girls. You are still young and have a lot of living to do, you will definitely meet a girl, but you won't meet anyone sitting at home! Funny how I was thinking the same - that it's hard to meet someone at my age - but I'm 34. hah!
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 No, no, no... Your age is like prime to meet girls. Well, maybe 21 is best but who's counting? Age 19 was the best year of my life! Young, dumb, and full of cum! At 19 it shouldn't be difficult at all to meet girls your age, but of course, I don't know your situation. Do you work? Are you in school?
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Funny how I was thinking the same - that it's hard to meet someone at my age - but I'm 34. hah! Hey LostinLA - I hear that. Seems most people our age are married and poppin' babies, and/or working all the time. This seems to be the age where it's hard to meet people...;(
bwidger Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I'll tell you right now, you don't need friends to meet women. All you need is yourself. Friends are good to have but don't count on them to help you find girls because that is up to you when the time comes. Have you ever considered dating older women? Say 24-30? I think if you high your sites a little higher you'll be surprised how wide your options really are! Not to mention, by the time your my age (24) you'll have a very good idea of what you want and what you can have and the type of women who you fancy. Try new things. Experiment now with stuff you wouldn't otherwise and you'll be 100xs better off and mentality prepared when your in your 20's...
cognac Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Yeah I too find it easier to talk to and meet older women. It seems older women are more interested in me and think I'm more attractive than women my own age. Women between 18-25 get too much attention they don't want to meet any more guys, go get yerself a MILF.
LostInLA Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Hey LostinLA - I hear that. Seems most people our age are married and poppin' babies, and/or working all the time. This seems to be the age where it's hard to meet people...;( Exactly! Luckily I've met a group of people who are about my age and some of whom are single - although I wouldn't date any of them, at least I know there's others out there. Hopefully I will meet someone through one of them or something...
Green Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I did miserably with women until I was 22 seriously I would sabotage any chance I had with them. But when I was 22 and graduated college started working a real job I just became more confident and bam I had a series of serious relationships. I'm currently dating the love of my life and have been with her for over a year. The point I'm trying to make is confidence is the key. For me I just got lucky and with age came the calm state of mind I needed to get women. I no longer cared if a woman thought I was creep, heck getting rejected by women was almost funny, and for the first few months of dating I realy wouldn't care if a girl decided to dump me because I knew I could just meet a new girl. Your 19 years old, just have fun, say silly things to girls for your enjoyment. Plan things and do things that seem fun to you, not caring and enjoying yourself is the key, and you don't need to be with a girl to be happy. When you find the right girl it will be great because you can share your happyness with her, but seriously don't be lonely because so many people out there feel the same way you do and want to be your friend and talk and laugh with you and go on adventures with you
Author scenester Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 Age 19 was the best year of my life! Young, dumb, and full of cum! At 19 it shouldn't be difficult at all to meet girls your age, but of course, I don't know your situation. Do you work? Are you in school? I'm 19. And don't go to school currently. Going next fall. And I work in a male dominated environment.
dazzle22 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Hold relationships very "loosely" when you are in your 20's. I am 53, and about 90% of all the people who mean one fig to me I hadn't even met yet when I was 19. I think older women (if you pick the right ones) could teach you a lot and you'd probably have a good time and they are much more interesting than vacuous young things. And they have the means to do fun things. ( they are not silly young skittish self absorbed fillies flicking their tails at every stallion in the pasture.) By the way, I am a rich successful "cougar" I guess you'd say... Married a gorgeous man 12 yrs younger, and believe me he isn't complaining..
Author scenester Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) I frankly just don't know where to start. It's not that I'm afraid to meet women or don't know how to get them, it's just I never actually took the 'meeting' process into my own hands. Most of my girlfriends I've met through mutual friends. I'm thinking of maybe starting at the mall, but I think it'd be awkward if I went alone. And once it gets nicer out I'm going to start walking my puppy around the lake. I kicked most of my friends out of my life because of my self respect. I don't need friends like that. I have plenty of confidence and have no problem attracting women but wheres the best place to do so and make new friends? Edited January 3, 2010 by scenester
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 wheres the best place to do so and make new friends? Please re-read my original post. It sounds like you are off to a good start with ideas with the puppy walk.
Green Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I frankly just don't know where to start. It's not that I'm afraid to meet women or don't know how to get them, it's just I never actually took the 'meeting' process into my own hands. Most of my girlfriends I've met through mutual friends. I'm thinking of maybe starting at the mall, but I think it'd be awkward if I went alone. And once it gets nicer out I'm going to start walking my puppy around the lake. I kicked most of my friends out of my life because of my self respect. I don't need friends like that. I have plenty of confidence and have no problem attracting women but wheres the best place to do so and make new friends? best place to make new friends is through sports... if you like basket or soccer or what ever join a team.
Goodin Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Exactly! Luckily I've met a group of people who are about my age and some of whom are single - although I wouldn't date any of them, at least I know there's others out there. Hopefully I will meet someone through one of them or something... I find the best way to meet people is through friends. You can have sort of 'mini-dates'; when you are just hanging out together with friends it's easy to get to know each other without the pressure.
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