OceanTropic Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Long story short, the 3rd time I saw this guy (at a party) we got intimate on the dance floor and I took him by the hand to a corner where we kissed. I was surprised he was so into it, because I practically had to work for his attention. I never caught him looking at me, he never initiates anything, and I always have to approach him. Eventually we went up to my hotel room (only hardcore making out, nothing else). He stayed the night cuz he was too drunk to drive, so eventually we just ended up in bed with our underwear (when we were getting ready to sleep). He kept asking to have sex and I kept saying no. He eventually asked if it had something to do with him, and I told him no, that I'm just not the kinda girl that sleeps with men I barely know. In the morning, to my surprise, he began to cuddle. Held me like I was his wife or something, and snuck kisses on my shoulder or my forehead. Whhatt???? I thought he only liked me sexually since I never saw him interested in me otherwise. He asked for my pin (for cellphone messaging, not the number itself) and went on his way. That same day, I ended up writing first, it was casual and friendly, and that's it. He did compliment me a few times and mention how even though he was drunk, he remembers everything. So is he interested? Or was he only being romantic for the fun of it? I don't get it because if a man only wants sex, he wouldn't cuddle and be intimate...right? Or do they do this now too? To get you hooked?
Author OceanTropic Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 Thanks for the reply It's nice to have someone straight up tell me how it is, that's why I like mens responses, they know what they're talking about and they don't sugar coat anything lol. Thank you!
Left in a Lurch Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) If he texts you and asks you out and doesn't try to sleep with you when you go out, he might be interested. If he texts you for a late night call or when he is drunk, or if you go on a date where he tries to get some he sees you as someone interested in him that he knows he can bone if he pretends to show a little interest. It's probably more likely he was into you for the moment, drunk and horny, but I wouldn't say it is set in stone. He would have done the same thing if he is into you. It sounds like he did show some interest in the morning. Edited January 3, 2010 by Chat Room Hero
Author OceanTropic Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 I agree. I thought he showed some interest when he reminded me in the morning that he didn't forget the night, and when he smiled and gazed at me. He was sober in the morning...and he asked for my phone messenger. So I dunno, I guess I should wait and see..fingers crossed!! Thank you for your reply
dazzle22 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 You pulled this guy off the dance floor to make out with you and he was someone who was not showing a lot of interest initially. Most guys will go for this one, they are opportunists, and you pretty much gave him a great opportunity, and it means absolutely nothing. If you want something meaningful, you need to actually get to know the person to see if you even like them or have anything in common. Oh, and this means, when he is sober.... You know, if YOU make the moves on a guy like this and bring him up to YOUR hotel room and he is drunk, you are lucky he took "no" for an answer. Some guys would call this "c...k teasing". and you could end up date raped....you don't know him at all, so that was a big chance. Right now all you have with this guy is hormones and limerance.
Author OceanTropic Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 You're right. What man would pass up the opportunity? I feel foolish... and it's my mistake. I know he wouldn't rape me, we were all there in a big group of all mutual friends, so I was not afraid of that. But I'm just surprised why he would be so intimate!! That's the only thing that threw me way off!! Maybe I am just over-analyzing and he just did it to seem less of a jerk. I wish I didn't like him. Thank you for your response I appreciate the direct honesty.
dazzle22 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 How old r u? I need to suggest some great books written by men about men for women.. Men are capable of saying and doing almost anything to get sex. A little cuddling during a hangover is meaningless.
Author OceanTropic Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 I would really appreciate your recommendations
boogieboy Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 You're right. What man would pass up the opportunity? I feel foolish... and it's my mistake. I know he wouldn't rape me, we were all there in a big group of all mutual friends, so I was not afraid of that. But I'm just surprised why he would be so intimate!! That's the only thing that threw me way off!! Maybe I am just over-analyzing and he just did it to seem less of a jerk. I wish I didn't like him. Thank you for your response I appreciate the direct honesty. You are overanalyzing. Everything he is doing so far are player moves. He knows he has you where he wants you, you made it too easy. Besides holding off sex, the only way you can tell if he is into you seriously is if he is curious about you as a person. BTW he could still ask about you and play the game to sleep with you and then you dont hear from him again. So really you wont know until you sleep with him. I suggest you take that off the menu for now.
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