boogieboy Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Also DG dont forget that guys and gals (why did I type that? I HATE the word "gals") that have options will call backups just in case the dates they really want dont work out. So if you have a date planned and they guy doesnt call, well you were a backup.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Also DG dont forget that guys and gals (why did I type that? I HATE the word "gals") that have options will call backups just in case the dates they really want dont work out. So if you have a date planned and they guy doesnt call, well you were a backup. Well not me, but my friend. He said today, she said he had to work, he said he had something going on until a certain time tomorrow, gave a time, and then ignored her. Me on the other hand, haven't had any dates I wanted to call. In fact I had a NYE date that didn't comb his hair, was 32 and acted 23, wore a dirty smelly jacket, and was swinging lights around above the tables at the pub we were at
Author dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Like how I am, she wants to know. She could have other options for tomorrow, but doesn't want to make plans if they are still on. She wants to know if she should call him or text him today to make a final attempt. I don't know if she should.
boogieboy Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Like how I am, she wants to know. She could have other options for tomorrow, but doesn't want to make plans if they are still on. She wants to know if she should call him or text him today to make a final attempt. I don't know if she should. She should call him and get a feel for whether or not he's into her by hearing his words. Tell her to make alternate plans because she is a backup.
alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Well it doesn't even have to be put out in a mean way. A simple "I just don't think it will work out" or "I'm not interested" would be great. Then one person isn't making time for a date that isn't going to happen. If you can't do it face to face, then said a darn text! have u ever seen the look on someones face when you say to them "thanks but i'm not interested due to blah blah blah..."?? its not pretty
Author dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 have u ever seen the look on someones face when you say to them "thanks but i'm not interested due to blah blah blah..."?? its not pretty You don't have to see that look if you text them or call them though.
Yukikazi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I agree with dreamer.. I'd rather know... I had this pulled on me.. Girl practicly jumps me at a convention.. then spends the next 4 days and 3 nights in my hotel with me.. keeps saying she wants to continue the relationship when we get back home.. I've already given her the option of continuing or "what happens in vegas stays in etc.." She kept saying I knew how she felt since she said she wanted to continue. Once we got back.. it was like pulling teeth trying to get together with her.. sure she would answer her txt but nothing else.. after about 3 weeks I gave up since I realized she wasn't putting forth anty effort to keep things moving. Guess she went the vegas route.. w/o actually telling me.. she just didn't bother. Its cruel to leave someone wondering wtf they did wrong if anything..
and.then.some Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 (edited) "Some thing better came along" all seems a little silly to me. I guess I say this because a date or two does not and should not mean anything major. You never know which direction life will take you in. The only time I'll ignore a guy's calls is if he's been a jerk or psycho-calling. Yes, I've even smiled and agreed to the possibility of us seeing one another again when I didn't really mean it, when the guy did something he should have known better than to do. In retrospect, that might not be entirely fair as we're not always aware of our own jerky behavior. But let's say I've met mister wonderful and random guy number 1 or 2 calls. I take the call, I chichat. If he tries to make a date, and I have other plans i let him know. If I won't be able to make a date with him because I've been busy with mister wonderful, I'll tell him maybe some other time as I've had a busy week. If things pick up with mister wonderful, I'll let them know. "Hey, I'm seeing this guy, and I want to see where things go with him." If I have time to see random guy 1, even though I've just met mister wonderful yesterday, I'll still make time to hang out with him. What's the harm? As many guys claim that men and woman can never be "just friends" I can see how some guys might cower at the thought of something like this. A lot of times, better seems better in the first week or two, but turns out not to be. Edited January 2, 2010 by and.then.some
sagetalk Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 The answer is simple. Those men are low quality.
Author dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Thankfully I don't have this problem right now. I have a guy taking me out Monday night, and he stays in contact. We text back and forth too, and like I sent him something NYE, I got a text back the next day saying he was sorry he didn't get back to me that night. I like a guy who stays in contact
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