Ms. Joolie Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm tired, frustrated and not getting better at all. I keep making the same mistakes over and over. I'm about to give up. I'm never going to get a girlfriend or loss my virginity. 2010 is starting off bad, lifes to short to care and complain. I'm done. It's only January 2! Don't shoot down the whole year yet!! Chin up! Hey, you're 24.... dating is suppose to be fun. If it's not, then you just need an attitude check. Sure you're trying to get in a relationship, but that will happen on it's own. YOU just have to love your life, enjoy your 20's.... the rest will come to you. It seems like you are trying way to hard to date, to evaluate these women, to get into a relationship, you're getting lost with all these calls back and forth and falling off track dizzy and frustrated. Step out of that mental box and get a new look on things. Enjoy life again, enjoy your 20's, and invite females to enjoy it with you. Then they won't cancel.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Going to text her to see if the date is still on.
Brightmoon Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Step out of that mental box and get a new look on things. Enjoy life again, enjoy your 20's, and invite females to enjoy it with you. Then they won't cancel. Yup! So true.
paddington bear Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm looking for a relationship not sex. I want to be in love first. I'm working and on an iPhone no time to edit. Ok, well if that is what you are looking for it is probably that that is not the impression that you are giving out to these women. Your words and actions are not matching your intentions. I agree with Ms. Joolie - the more pressure you put yourself under the worse, you then put pressure on the girls and then the whole thing gets weighty and not fun and frustrating. Just go on a few dates with girls that you are not repulsed by. If they stand you up, cancel on you, don't work out after the first date see each experience as a learning curve - it's like a free dating school, getting you closer to what you want, but also learning how to act on a date, how to get a date, what works, what doesn't and so on. Treat each date as 'fun' a surprise and don't put too much expectations on them. In any case, online dating is hazardous - blind dates can often just end up weird, nothing (in my mind) beats meeting someone and clicking with them in person and you can surprise yourself with who you end up being attracted to, whereas dating sitses are all about the pics (yours and theirs) - when the date comes or the phonecall the personality can ruin that perfect photo.
allina Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 While the OP sounds like a bit of a shallow ass, he can be because he is tall, handsome and muscular, so women will love him no matter what (then complain when he bangs them and moves on shortly after). You'd probably go weak in the knees if he messaged you Ick! No me. For me, intelligence is one of the sexiest, and most important traits in a man.
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Ick! No me. For me, intelligence is one of the sexiest, and most important traits in a man. You mean, you wouldn't giggle like a school girl if he asked you for a bikini shot because he thinks your pictures show you as too fat for him?
Yukikazi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Ick! No me. For me, intelligence is one of the sexiest, and most important traits in a man. But I believe the type of women the op is shooting for don't have enough IQ points to rub together to form a half wit
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 I'm am who I am.. Everyone knows people don't change. I hate dating it has never been fun. Maybe I'm doomed to be asexual. Going to text this girl "Hey did you get my last text? We still on for our date tonight? Plz let me know."
paddington bear Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm am who I am.. Everyone knows people don't change. I hate dating it has never been fun. Maybe I'm doomed to be asexual. Going to text this girl "Hey did you get my last text? We still on for our date tonight? Plz let me know." No NO! Don't do that. Lost cause. Move on. If she was on for your date she would have answered or responded by now. When she doesn't reply to this text you are going to send, you'll just get more pissed off. Onwards and upwards to the next one.
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm am who I am.. Everyone knows people don't change. I hate dating it has never been fun. Maybe I'm doomed to be asexual. Going to text this girl "Hey did you get my last text? We still on for our date tonight? Plz let me know." If a person realizes he has some very unattractive personality qualities that offend others, they can change. You just don't want to. I think you believe you are perfect regardless. I think you are getting frustrated because you think your looks should get you what you want. it does suck not knowing what is up, but if you were grading her body and letting her know it, it should be a surprise. You are killing your dates before you go on them. I'd only say yes text her if you had been out with her, didn't ask for the bikini pictures, and what not.
jerbear Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Going to text this girl "Hey did you get my last text? We still on for our date tonight? Plz let me know." Don't use that line, seems so well you know. Try this one: How about I pick you up at 6 for our date tonight? You're giving her a choice in time and she thinks she has some control but not really.
allina Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 You mean, you wouldn't giggle like a school girl if he asked you for a bikini shot because he thinks your pictures show you as too fat for him? I actually might giggle, because that is pretty funny
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm curious OP, did you leave up your shirtless picture?
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Don't use that line, seems so well you know. Try this one: How about I pick you up at 6 for our date tonight? You're giving her a choice in time and she thinks she has some control but not really. Going off topic slightly, does this work when a woman does this with a man, or something similar?
paddington bear Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 If a person realizes he has some very unattractive personality qualities that offend others, they can change. You just don't want to. I think you believe you are perfect regardless. I think you are getting frustrated because you think your looks should get you what you want. it does suck not knowing what is up, but if you were grading her body and letting her know it, it should be a surprise. You are killing your dates before you go on them. I'd only say yes text her if you had been out with her, didn't ask for the bikini pictures, and what not. This pretty much is spot on. I have a very good looking male friend that initially all my female friends say 'why don't you go for him? He's gorgeous!!' then they get to see the very similar attitude to the OP's and realise why not. Good looks are great, charm with the good looks is much better.
RedDevil66 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 People can and do change but more importantly, people grow. As you get older, you'll realize there is more to a person than their shapes. I'm also a gym buff in great shape and I would find it hard to date an overweight man, but having said that, I've still gone on dates with men I didn't find physically attractive because just maybe I can make a new friend or maybe he will be a great person. If some hot buff gym dude wanted to date me and had a bad attitude, I would be turned off and not reply to his txt's either. Oh man, dating SUCKS!
Yukikazi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Everyone knows people don't change. Bull****. I did it.. people can.. are you that much of a sad unadjustable lil person then other guys that you can't adapt? Are you actually admitting that you are a lesser man then others who have improved themselves? Going to text this girl "Hey did you get my last text? We still on for our date tonight? Plz let me know." I wouldn't expect a response
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 No, she saw it on facebook. She said I look yummy. I really didn't mean to come off superfishal I'd still like to meet her. I'm supposed to call her at 6. Going to text her and say just say "hi, how r u today?" We also been chating on yahoo on our iPhones so it's not 100% reliable.
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 No, she saw it on facebook. She said I look yummy. I really didn't mean to come off superfishal I'd still like to meet her. I'm supposed to call her at 6. Going to text her and say just say "hi, how r u today?" We also been chating on yahoo on our iPhones so it's not 100% reliable. What do you think of what everyone has said about change?
jerbear Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Going off topic slightly, does this work when a woman does this with a man, or something similar? The ones I pursue yes, most of the time. Plus I've know their personality after 1-2 dates, promptness, personality, etc... I will still honor their counter choices but looking at my words, I was not wishy washy. I didn't mention: "did you get my text" "are we still on" "please let me know"
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 What do you think of what everyone has said about change? I think I'm starting to hate myself more and more. I really hate that I have to be something else for someone to like me. I hate having to put up a front and live a lie.
Yukikazi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I think I'm starting to hate myself more and more. I really hate that I have to be something else for someone to like me. I hate having to put up a front and live a lie. I find your whining and your signature phrase ironic...
dreamergrl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I think I'm starting to hate myself more and more. I really hate that I have to be something else for someone to like me. I hate having to put up a front and live a lie. You really are full of yourself if that is what you got out of it.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Just messages her "Hey what's up, how are you today" I want to see what happends or doesn't happen.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 She replyed right away. "hey" "cold but good, how about you." Going to continue with the small talk. Till I deside if I'm going to mention tonight.
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