Found out she cheated 6 months ago. Broke up and slept with many women since...

[Bleed Internal]

and I'm still not over her. Of course, it's been clouded by the fact there's been no real level of NC. I didn't talk to her for maybe 2 weeks after I found out. Then we started semi-regularly sleeping together again. We were never officially back together, but there were good times mixed in with the inevitable drama.

 

We both love each other VERY, VERY MUCH. In fact, I'm convinced that she was the one, but I can never get over her sleeping with another man, so I'm willing to lose the one if she was it. For the past month or so, our contact has been a lot more limited, thanks to holiday breaks and not being on the same campus, a few minutes away from each other and satisfying sex whenever we want it. Even better, I'm going on a 2 week vacation today, so we won't be in the same metro area at all.

 

I've slept with several women since finding out she cheated and breaking up. I even confessed that I cheated during our relationship in hopes that she would be through with me and leave me alone. Not the case. She even knows I've been with many women since our break-up and it doesn't matter. She loves me very much and wants nothing more than to be with me. I have the same level of love for her, but I just can't handle knowing she's been with someone else. I stand that ground firmly and I thought sleeping with new women would help, but I really love her and she's the one I want forever. I know for a fact that she learned her lesson and would be 100% if we got back together. But it's impossible. There's just no will in me to be in a relationship with her after she's slept with someone else.

 

I'm doing my best to cut her out of my life. Every attempt has proved unsuccessful and we've wound up back in bed together. I'm hoping the New Year mentality and this vacation helps, because as much as I want her, and as much as her love is there for the taking, I'm too proud and too stubborn and I refuse to be with her. I'm hoping for the strength to completely move on and close this chapter of my life, but I don't know what to do. Please help if you can.

[Darth Vader]

and I'm still not over her. Of course, it's been clouded by the fact there's been no real level of NC. I didn't talk to her for maybe 2 weeks after I found out. Then we started semi-regularly sleeping together again. We were never officially back together, but there were good times mixed in with the inevitable drama.

 

We both love each other VERY, VERY MUCH. In fact, I'm convinced that she was the one, but I can never get over her sleeping with another man, so I'm willing to lose the one if she was it. For the past month or so, our contact has been a lot more limited, thanks to holiday breaks and not being on the same campus, a few minutes away from each other and satisfying sex whenever we want it. Even better, I'm going on a 2 week vacation today, so we won't be in the same metro area at all.

 

I've slept with several women since finding out she cheated and breaking up. I even confessed that I cheated during our relationship in hopes that she would be through with me and leave me alone. Not the case. She even knows I've been with many women since our break-up and it doesn't matter. She loves me very much and wants nothing more than to be with me. I have the same level of love for her, but I just can't handle knowing she's been with someone else. I stand that ground firmly and I thought sleeping with new women would help, but I really love her and she's the one I want forever. I know for a fact that she learned her lesson and would be 100% if we got back together. But it's impossible. There's just no will in me to be in a relationship with her after she's slept with someone else.

 

I'm doing my best to cut her out of my life. Every attempt has proved unsuccessful and we've wound up back in bed together. I'm hoping the New Year mentality and this vacation helps, because as much as I want her, and as much as her love is there for the taking, I'm too proud and too stubborn and I refuse to be with her. I'm hoping for the strength to completely move on and close this chapter of my life, but I don't know what to do. Please help if you can.

 

 

How is anyone who cheats, "the one"? Evidently she's not the one, because she exposed you to STD's, and so did you when you slept around. Really, you need to get away from her, try attending IC (individual Counseling). Both of you need to get tested for STD's.