Serious life question about jobs and love

[sonicranger]

So here is a different kind of question than what is typically asked on this particular forum.

 

I am in the unique position to "choose" where I want to work when I am done with school. I am in a very specific skilled trades program and the company putting me through school has locations all over Ohio, Pennsylvania and New Jersey. This is where my gf comes into the equation. She wants to go back to school to get her masters degree or another B.A. She is not afraid of moving, mostly and neither am I. So here is the deal.

 

A) I choose job close to where we are at now and she has 2-3 choices for her masters or B.A. for school. We both have family, friends and she has part-time jobs here etc.

 

B) I choose job further south where; I can get paid more (go figure), it's warmer, there are equally as many nice places to live and she has 2-3 choices of much BETTER schools (i.e. The Ohio State University)

 

 

I truly, honestly don't care where I end up as long as it's with her. So I told her that BUT I told her to not be stressed out about it which is almost impossible. So how do I approach this more in the future? Although that future is only about two months until I have to CHOOSE.

 

Of course she is going to be thinking; "If I move south with this guy and go to school I'm dependent on him for shelter, if we breakup I'm screwed!"

 

I am aware of this as well, admittedly our relationship is new and there is still a lot to learn but I'm comfortable saying that all signs point to a solid long-term relationship, she is too.

 

 

Wheeew, thats a lot to wrap your head around, thanks for any advice you might have from a similar situation, even if it's from being married and relocating or whatnot.

[Left in a Lurch]

Well if it is a new relationship, what if you go somewhere you don't want to and break up? You'll be left making less money and in a place you don't like.

 

I'd say go where you will be happiest, otherwise you might regret her, or decide you want to move after a year and she won't want to transfer schools etc. That will be a long lasting fight where no one will win.

 

When it comes to your job, make sure you are happy first instead of possibly being miserable and trying to date someone. Your job is such a big part of yuour life, it's hard to be happy if you are not happy with your job and surroundings.

 

I think the wise choice is to make the decision for yourself, not based on a new relationship that might seem amazing today but might dissolve tomorrow. If the relationship is going to work it, it would work no matter where you go.

[temple]

Go to the place where both of you have the most potential to succeed in career/education. Be careful to choose a place you both feel is right - otherwise you're setting yourself up for a whole load of resentment later in life.