Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 So I saw her today to talk about the living situation. I was strong and felt like I was in control. I took advice off this forum and just showed her that I am the strong individual person she fell in love with. I made the decision to move out of the flat - which I think suprised her a little bit. Truth is I dont want to move out because that really is ending everything. I wish there was something I could do to bring her back!!
gaudi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 At least you were able to show her that you were being strong and level headed, that's only going to work in your favour. I have to say, if I came face to face with my EX at any point, I reckon I would be in tears. I'm not looking forward to returning to work after the hols, she works in one of the same places I do. I only hope I can be strong when I see her.
nobmagnet Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 im sorry for your pain. it shocked her. Thats good. Shows you have a backbone. My ex was shocked when I kicked him out having found out his affaire. I had grown a back bone. Hey it turned right back to jelly when a week later he didnt want to!! but hey......if they dont want you right now you need to heal a bit. get some space to see if actually it is what you wanted. Soul searching and writting my feelings down worked for me. What does she do to enhance you life. What does she have other women dont have? keep strong xx
Author Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Thanks for the advice. I think my reasoning is part of a bigger plan to try and win her back....i know this probably isnt healthy. She enriches my life a lot - hense why I can't see my future without her. I've been writing things down - It really does help. Everytime I feel a different emotion I write it down - as if I was telling her because I know I cant bombard her with all my emtions right now. She told me she doesnt know what she wants - and her head is messed up right now. She appreiates the good times we had together, this may be bread crumbs but I dont think I will let go of that hope just yet. I'm just trying to take each day as it comes....
gaudi Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 You're doing well my friend, you're being honest with yourself, and although you're not yet ready to let go, don't worry about it. I am in the same boat. For all the good advice I've had on here about what I need to do, ie) let go, move on, work on myrself. I am still clinging to hope that she's going to call/text and tell me she wants us to work it out. I have been in NC now since 13 December (she sent a merry xmas text on xmas day, I sent one back but that's it). But unfortunately today it was all too much for me and I broke down, weeping. I haven't got in touch with her but I know it's only going to be a short time before I do. I really want to let go, but I'm finding it extremely hard to do so, I still love her so much. I want to tell her this, but what good will it do me, she doesn't love me and has said so. Hang on in there mate, I'll make a deal with you, you keep being strong and so will I.
Author Heartbrokenandinlove Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 You're doing well my friend, you're being honest with yourself, and although you're not yet ready to let go, don't worry about it. I am in the same boat. For all the good advice I've had on here about what I need to do, ie) let go, move on, work on myrself. I am still clinging to hope that she's going to call/text and tell me she wants us to work it out. I have been in NC now since 13 December (she sent a merry xmas text on xmas day, I sent one back but that's it). But unfortunately today it was all too much for me and I broke down, weeping. I haven't got in touch with her but I know it's only going to be a short time before I do. I really want to let go, but I'm finding it extremely hard to do so, I still love her so much. I want to tell her this, but what good will it do me, she doesn't love me and has said so. Hang on in there mate, I'll make a deal with you, you keep being strong and so will I. Thanks for your message of support - In a strange way its nice to know im not alone (i know how selfish that sounds). Do you think NC is helping you? I don't want to do it because I don't want her to think im playing games or anything - perhaps I should though.... I know it will get better for both of us eventually - its just so difficult when you still love them...
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