seanlovestihana Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 So i have created a petition at care2 to try to win some love back from my wife before we actually start paperwork for the divorce. Please help me and sign it here http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/seanlovestihana Thank you very much!! Sean:(
imagine Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 A petition wont work. Meet her emotional needs. Do not lovebust. Discover radical honesty. Do these things and you are ahead!
hopesndreams Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 You have only been married a short time. You need to investigate what/who is the real threat to your M. Being gushy and writing up petitions will not work.
JaneDoe35 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Hey Sean, I notice that your petition to save your marriage/family is closed........is this good or bad news?
Gunny376 Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 This is a form of begging / imploring another to "be with me" or "stay with me" ~ another form is attempting to rationalize or spell out the logical reasons that you should be or stay together. None of this works, especially if we're talking about a woman. A woman leaves mentally and emotionally long before they do so physically. It just takes most women longer to do so in reconciling the three. A lot of men think that the same thing that attracts them to women is the same thing that attracts women to men. They think if they have material belongings, wealth, financial status, career status etc they can get and keep a woman. Nothing could be further from the truth. The single thing that attracts women to men, (and keeps the attracted) is P E R S O N A L I T Y With that comes Psychological Projection ~ that is to say how one feels about themselves and their world and the world around them. If you've a gloom & doom, negative perception of yourself and the world around you along with the people in it? You unknowingly are going to project that outwards to others ~ both men and women. If your stressed out about yourself, your life, your job? Your going to project that out toward others ~ and your going to repel others ~ both men and women away from you. If you on the other hand project a positive, outward going, gregarious, (Ill save you a trip to Mr. Webster ~ means you naturally like other people) fun, "I feel good about me and all things in my life type attitude your going to attract people toward you. If you can get to a place to where you could literally give a damn if you ever got laid again, was ever in another relationship, ever was married again (and not because of bitterness nor animosity toward the other sex) In short you've got to learn to "like" and "love" yourself and your life before you can expect others to like and love you. The whole Homer McDonalds and DivorceBusting thing is about and stems from a book from the 1970's titled "I OK, Your OK, We're OK! Its about getting to know yourself, who and what your are, and all the more importantly accepting who and what you are. That's not to say that its OK to be who you are if your mentally, emotionally, sexually disfunctional. It then becomes a understanding you've got problems and need professional help. (Child molestors, raptists, serial killers, pyschopaths, ~ i.e. ~ I'm seriously not normal.) Not to drift here too much ~ what you need to do is to "Identify my weaknesses and seek self improvement" That is to say that you need to become the best "you" that you can become! Quit worrying about trying to get her back! She gone, done and over! All you can do is work on becoming the best "You" and living the best possible life that you can live. If people choose to be a part of that? That's their choice. If they choose not to? That's their choice also. Quit thinking that you can make someone love you, be in love with you, want to be with you. Either it is? Or it isn't! Quit thinking that you can "win" someone's love, affection, or devotion toward you. You can't! Either you have or you didn't! People change ~ that's what people do. I'm not the same person that I was at 18 when I initially joined the Marine Corps. I'm not the same person I was when I got married. I'm not the same person that I was when I got divorced at 33, I'm not the same person when I retired from the Coros fourteen years ago. I'm not the same person I was 10 years ago. I"m not the same person when I first went to college. I'm not the same person I was once I became a parent. I'm not the same person I was ten seconds ago.
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