Fitness Dude Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Just a thought I had. Here I'm spilling my guys about all the &^%$ I'm going through and what if she would stumble upon my rants and dietribes, read them, realized the similarities are uncanny and make that connection. Has this happened before here, are there any threads on the subject. Has there been on specific case that was notorious that some of you long-time members know about. I'm just weighing my odds, and maybe deciding to strip out some of the finite details in my anecdotes.
imagine Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Yes. It has happened. Is there anything on your thread that you are ashamed of?
nobmagnet Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 you dont name her. You dont name yourself. Its an annonomous site of interaction.If or indeed my ex stumble apon this site there is nothing to tie us to it. If she sees similarities then so be it but she cant pin them on you. In some ways i wish my lowly could see the pain hurt and upset he has caused myself and is chilren but my money is on him never questioning his behaviour enough to come onto a wonderful site like this!!!! nob xx
RedDevil66 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I've thought of that also. I know my BF looks for which sites I am on and I need to delete my history when he's at my place using my PC. I have said enough here to make his head spin and would freak if he found my posts
LisaUk Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Yes it's happened. One member it happened to is still here, so i will let them tell you about it if they so choose. The other member, his w started posting in her defence on his thread! I think they worked it out in the end, reconciled, people were mediating between them! LOL
carhill Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I know of a couple married's who post here under separate accounts. My stbx knew/knows my handle and that I post here but thought it was 'stupid' so I doubt she reads/has read here. There have been a few contentious threads, probably deleted, amongst WS/BS's who've brought their drama here.
tojaz Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 My now ex found me here when we where in the thick of it. Scared me off for awhile until I realized that I was being completely honest in my posts and probably more honest then I could be face to face with her. She only brought it up once and I don't think shes been back. If that worries you i would stress doing what you can to remain anonymous. I made the mistake of using the same screen name I have used since highschool, but in the end, this is me, why hide. If you search for DigitalWizard you'll find an LSer whos wife found him here and started posting herself. Seemed to be pretty beneficial in the end although I don't think that would be true for everyones case. TOJAZ
Author Fitness Dude Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 I'm not ashamed or embarrassed for anything I've posted, however, I'm not sure I would want my stbxw see how much I'm pining for her. This would certainly lessen the effect of NC, in my opinion.
mikeymad Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 yes it would, but if she is out there in "cyberland" looking for answers herself, instead of thinking she knows it all and has it all figured out, like many WAS's do...and happens to stumble on this, that might be a good thing. and like some people posted, she might get some advice that would put things in perspective and actually make things better. just my 2c
FeelingLonely98 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 you dont name her. You dont name yourself. Its an annonomous site of interaction.If or indeed my ex stumble apon this site there is nothing to tie us to it. If she sees similarities then so be it but she cant pin them on you. In some ways i wish my lowly could see the pain hurt and upset he has caused myself and is chilren but my money is on him never questioning his behaviour enough to come onto a wonderful site like this!!!! nob xx Hear hear!!! (I 2nd that!)
FeelingLonely98 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I know of a couple married's who post here under separate accounts. My stbx knew/knows my handle and that I post here but thought it was 'stupid' so I doubt she reads/has read here. There have been a few contentious threads, probably deleted, amongst WS/BS's who've brought their drama here. Thought I read somewhere that threads are never deleted on LS.
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