slyfox Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 My Lady say that she love me and care deeply, But because she don't feel sexuality and physical attraction to me like a woman should feel to her guy. We I will explain I once had a lot of weight since than I have already lose a great amount of the weight, but like she put it I still have much to go for. She also has a problem when we make love it seem that I can keep it up long enough or hard enough after I cum. But I can make her orgasms at least 5 to 8 times on a bad day and 10 + times on a good day. I been told by friends that I made be intimidated by her hurgary of sex. She is always wants to have sex no matter what we are doing, we always have sex or better make love. Now she have told me that she need to date others because she is unsure of what she wanted. can you help me. I'm feel lost with out her, she is my best friend and I miss her. I already tried: Well I have started a daily workout program and also cut back on different types of food. When we meet she saw me over weight and she was great about it all. But we later broken up for stupid reason that I did. It was all my fault and we was distance for 10 months and than we stared to talk and see each other again, but the weight issued was there but I had lose more since the first time. We later went always again and than stared seeing each again as friend w benefit to see what happen , but since than she told me that she is unsure of her feeling because of the lack of physical and sexual attraction. She also said that she loves and care for me and our friendship. But the unsure feeling is there, because she is not in love with me. I have been told that : Her hystory may perhaps be suggestive of nymphomania and may be wanting to explore other males. I would advise counseling to get to the root of this. Can anyone help me
boogieboy Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Theres nothing you can do but let her go. She wants to date other guys and she means it. Cut her off, dont talk to her, let her see what life is like without you. It will hurt like hell, but you must do this, and get fit for YOU not her. You dont want a woman in your life that isnt physically attracted to you. You feel that void now, but you have to to get over her. She will not come back, especially if you keep in touch with her. DOnt let her use you for friendship. Cut her off completely, and go to the gym and take your frustration out on the weights.
Author slyfox Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Thank you boogieboy,for your reply. I will do just that and let her go as you say, and yes it will hurt as hell. but I must do what need to be do. Oh no I'm have been getting fit for me and only me, but since I let my self go for such a long time, the result are taking longer than the avg person. So far I have lost a great deal of weight and I'm still working harded to drop the weight even more. The problem is that she don't see the tone or define in my abs and she feels that physically and sexual attracted is one of the most important part of a relaltionship. and yes I feel the void right now and I guess with time I will get over her. I will not let her use our friendship and I will Cut her off completely. Every time I go to the gym I think about her and take my frustration out on the weights. Thanks for your help SLYFOX
pricillia Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 no woman should make you feel less than average, she should lift you up not make you feel insecure about yourself with that said yes everyone should want to feel the best and look the best that they possibly can and everyone is attracted to certian aspects of thier lover. I hope that you don't blame yourself for her needs and desires it really has nothing to do with you at all it seems that she is trying to back off from the relationship and using your weight as an excuse. Don't be hard on yourself and keep up the good work when it comes to improving yourself it is a journey and I know that you will learn alot about yourself along the way.
Author slyfox Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 pricillia, Thanks for replying. I will not blame myself for her needs and desires. It very possablie that she can comment to our relationship and using my weight and other physical and sexual attracted as an excuse. The problem is that she is my best friend and I love her. Too bad she can see me or love me the way I do. I will use this as a stepping stone to work even hard and improving myself. Becuase life is a long journey and if you can learn something about yourself along the way, then I have gain more than anyone can or will image. Thanks for you reply, SLYFOX.......
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