CaspianDreams Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I just got back from a two week trip. Prior to the trip I went out with a girl a few times - things were both good and bad, as some times the sparks were flying, other times I got mixed signals. Anyhow, much to her chagrin, she had a fully packed schedule while I was gone. When away I shot her a quick note and call, unfortunately, neither mentioned that she should respond...and she didn't. At this point, I'm thinking it's a lost cause, but she knew I was out of town, neither of us are phone people, and she was pretty darn busy, so it may have been easy to just ignore. That said, i was thinking about trying to contact her one last time - it's been about a week since last attempt...is this a definite no-no? If I get no response this time, I certainly wouldn't try again, as I have to pay more attention to the people I'm actually going out with. My gut tells me that I'd get silence, but if I try, is it better at this point to try via e-mail or just call, taking note of our general aversion to the phone? And for the ladies - how would you perceive another attempt at contact, given that it has never been over kill or smothering?
mutemath Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Hmm... good question. The fact that she hasn't responded to your note or call sounds like she has little to mild interest. If she was really interested, she would respond with something. With that said, you could always try one more time just for the heck of it. You never know, and if you get no response (or a vague response) then you'll have your answer. Hope that helps
Author CaspianDreams Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Yeah, it's hard for me to think that there's extreme interest, but there's definitely something there - I'm trying to figure out if it's worth nurturing, or just toss it out and start from scratch (or from date 3 with some one else I'm seeing). Unfortunately, it's the cliche, she's difficult, so there's more interest...grrr.
mutemath Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Ha, I know how you feel about feeling interest when there is difficulty or lack of interest on the other end. Honestly what has helped me get over those situations is just to let go and move on right away as soon I sense they aren't interested, then you get over it quicker and easier and spend less time dwelling on it. It may be in your best interest to just let this one go and who knows maybe she will contact you. The important thing is how you feel and your general peace of mind, and that usually comes in letting go The more times you do it, the easier it gets. Then you'll find you lose interest in people that aren't interested in you, and become interested in the ones who are.
Author CaspianDreams Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 I haven't really spent much time thinking about it - it's more like, I'm finally back and trying to figure out plans for the next week or so, and I've got 2 dates lined up and I'm trying to figure out if I should give her shot as well. Definitely spent a lot more time trying to figure out the actual dates, at this point it's more of a curiosity...certainly won't lose sleep over either a yes or a no.
scenester Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 If someone is truly interested there is no such thing as too busy. I'd just move on. If you disagree, you can try e-mailing her.
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