jw90063 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 My friends sister is a swinger. She also is bipolar, bisexual, suicidal, and is married to guy, but also has a GF on the side. She is very mentally unstable. Hopefully not all swingers are like this. Good luck Alpha;)
sxyNYCcpl Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 She also is bipolar, bisexual, suicidal, and is married to guy, but also has a GF on the side. She is very mentally unstable. IME, a description such as this is rare, even amongst us wicked swingers. In fact, I have never, to my knowledge, met such a person. Bisexual, yes, as I previously said that's very common amongst swinging women. The rest? Not so much.
pyroguy Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I actually think it would be easier to do this with a girl who is not the love of your life/wife. I've always thought that. So, go for it, but be careful. I've done my due dilligence and research on swinging. While I agree with them on all the moral stuff and recreational sex, I just see the scene as eventually affecting the relationship sex, not the relationship itself, although swingers insist otherwise. In particular, it seems to eventually humiliate men. Then again, these men simply don't feel that way, so be it. They will call me insecure, and I will say that they convince themselves of lots of things to stay sane and remain in the lifestyle. There are too many revelations that you don't want to find out about. In the case of the OP, I don't think you would really care. She is not your wife, the person you have sex with on an on-going basis, and her opinion and satisfaction with you, while important, is not paramount. So, again, go have fun!
New_Life08 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 If you develop feelings for her expect to be hurt. Unless of course you are a swinger too.
donnamaybe Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 IME, a description such as this is rare, even amongst us wicked swingers. In fact, I have never, to my knowledge, met such a person. Bisexual, yes, as I previously said that's very common amongst swinging women. The rest? Not so much. I SERIOUSLY doubt anyone could classify people as mentally healthy based solely on the fact that they're swingers.
b52s Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Anyways so i had a first date with Leslie last nite for NYE. After she got drunk she admitted she's a swinger. She's pretty aggressive and doesn't hold back with the affection. We pretty much started making out from the minute i got to the party and she kissed me first. We're going out for dinner next weekend. So whats the deal with this swinger thing. What should i expect? So she's married??
carhill Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 And, perhaps, another person molesting your phone number
Malenfant Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Have always heard "swinger" used only for couples, no idea what a single woman means when she describes herself as as a "swinger." Could mean she gets randy and uses the left hand to run the vibrator sometimes, or could mean she stopped having sex with random men just long enough to go out on a date with you with you. I knew a guy who was into swinging. The clubs he used to go to would allow single women to 'join in' but not single men. Obviously you cant have random men turning up for some action but apparently women are safer. The term for a single person who swings is a 'swingle'
sxyNYCcpl Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 I SERIOUSLY doubt anyone could classify people as mentally healthy based solely on the fact that they're swingers. Upon what bit of wisdom do you come up with this judgmental codswallop? Swingers, but for the fact that they swing, are as mentally healthy and normal (or not) as is the general population. We come from all walks of life, I know cops, teachers, computer programmers, models, business owners, insurance agents, politicians, military (a good friend is currently serving in Afghanistan) even the occasional preacher (seriously!) We have jobs, homes, families, children, and lives just like you do. Sheesh.
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Go in with no expectations. Have fun, and whatever happens, happens. Sometimes it does, sometimes it don't. Good luck and enjoy! that was very informative, thanx
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 My friends sister is a swinger. She also is bipolar, bisexual, suicidal, and is married to guy, but also has a GF on the side. She is very mentally unstable. Hopefully not all swingers are like this. Good luck Alpha;) i should fit right in So she's married?? not that i know of At minimum, herpes. And, perhaps, another person molesting your phone number
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 man now i'm starting to picture my date tonite will go down like the movie blue velvet
grogster Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 My last GF was a bit of a swinger. She had a few threesomes, went to some sex clubs and otherwise let it rip sexually. She was a lot of fun, and a very sweet person. Also, very, very good in bed. It was very exciting to listen to some of her sexcapades.
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 It was very exciting to listen to some of her sexcapades. maybe this chick tonite will start singing like a canary after i pump her full of booze
grogster Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 maybe this chick tonite will start singing like a canary after i pump her full of booze One can only hope. You've earned it after your dealings with the bunny-boiler!
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 maybe this chick tonite will start singing like a canary after i pump her full of booze Alpha dude I think you and I should get together and go pickup
donnamaybe Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 (edited) Upon what bit of wisdom do you come up with this judgmental codswallop? Swingers, but for the fact that they swing, are as mentally healthy and normal (or not) as is the general population. We come from all walks of life, I know cops, teachers, computer programmers, models, business owners, insurance agents, politicians, military (a good friend is currently serving in Afghanistan) even the occasional preacher (seriously!) We have jobs, homes, families, children, and lives just like you do. Sheesh. You've been the one proudly proclaiming the - um, what was it? - "judgmental codswallop" that swingers are all fun loving, wonderful, mentally stable people, not me. In fact, when one poster pointed out their experience of the opposite, you apparently got defensive, defining yourself as a "wicker swinger" for dramatic effect. I never said swingers were all mentally unstable. I merely said that, by mere virtue of someone being a swinger, you can't state they ARE stable. Edited January 8, 2010 by donnamaybe
Art_Critic Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Hopefully not a 3 some with another guy.... Yeah... Nothing worse than crossing swords with some guy you don't know
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Yeah... Nothing worse than crossing swords with some guy you don't know don't think that'll happen at this nice italian place we're goin' to tonite
donnamaybe Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Yeah... Nothing worse than crossing swords with some guy you don't know Is it better with someone you do know?
Yukikazi Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Is it better with someone you do know? Probably not... The Devils 3some is never an option for me...
jw90063 Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 maybe this chick tonite will start singing like a canary after i pump her full of booze Your selection of women I have to say is truly fascinating. Perhaps, pursuing better partners, would benefit you. It's either been an issue with their stinky vajayjay,or whackos who won't take hint to stop calling or stalking you. I eagerly will await to see what your next dilemma is with this swinger, because she seems like a real good catch. It's going to be fun.
gopher Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Anyways so i had a first date with Leslie last nite for NYE. After she got drunk she admitted she's a swinger. She's pretty aggressive and doesn't hold back with the affection. We pretty much started making out from the minute i got to the party and she kissed me first. We're going out for dinner next weekend. So whats the deal with this swinger thing. What should i expect? Bro, I mean this with the utmost respect....I think you need to take a look at yourself to see why you're attracting these whacked out women....
CarrieT Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Alpha, here's a whole other take... Because you are not involved with the lifestyle, she might not make any suggestions whatsoever in that direction. Personally, I have partaken in such activities but only when I know the guy and I are on the same page. I would never invite someone to one of those "events" who had never been to one -- but mostly because I'm not a teacher. Just don't be disappointed if nothing happens, okay?
Recommended Posts