alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Anyways so i had a first date with Leslie last nite for NYE. After she got drunk she admitted she's a swinger. She's pretty aggressive and doesn't hold back with the affection. We pretty much started making out from the minute i got to the party and she kissed me first. We're going out for dinner next weekend. So whats the deal with this swinger thing. What should i expect?
Lizzie60 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 My-my... Alpha.. do you only go out with drunks...
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 My-my... Alpha.. do you only go out with drunks... if you meant "party girls", then yes
bwidger Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Dude, personally, that would be a MAJOR turnoff if a girl told me she was a swinger (unless she was kidding about it)... Swinger = whore in my mind = low value = problems = diseases
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Dude, personally, that would be a MAJOR turnoff if a girl told me she was a swinger (unless she was kidding about it)... its not a turn off to me Swinger = whore in my mind = low value = problems = diseases in my mind: Swinger = loose morals = easy sex = possible threesome = happy Alpha
CarrieT Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 So whats the deal with this swinger thing. What should i expect? Ummmmmmm.... Me thinks you answered your own question: its not a turn off to me Swinger = loose morals = easy sex = possible threesome = happy Alpha :p:p
boogieboy Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 its not a turn off to me in my mind: Swinger = loose morals = easy sex = possible threesome = happy Alpha Hopefully not a 3 some with another guy.... If youre not looking for a relationship, youre golden.
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Ummmmmmm.... Me thinks you answered your own question: actually i've never dated a self-proclaimed swinger before...this is uncharted territory for me. i'm sorta excited actually
burning 4 revenge Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Hopefully not a 3 some with another guy.... thats exacly what he means in fact if you look up a MMF in the urban dictionary they call it a happy alpha
D-Lish Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 its not a turn off to me in my mind: Swinger = loose morals = easy sex = possible threesome = happy Alpha Swingers usually "swap" partners I ran into a c-c-crrrazy girl at the grocery store whom I used to work with (but she had a mental break down and left the job). She proceeded to tell me that she and her husband had taken up swinging and attended a swingers bar twice a month for action. Considering she looks like alot like a midde-aged Harry Potter and her husband resembles Peter Griffen- I can't imagine those parties would be any fun.
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Swingers usually "swap" partners i see...well i'm up for that
bwidger Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 i see...well i'm up for that well if you do the whole MMF thing, you may end up swapping more than just partners... if you know what i'm saying...
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 well if you do the whole MMF thing, no no i'm not up for that
melodymatters Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I have not yet seen an attractive swinger. I thought that was the last refuge of the fat and unhappily married..... A single attractive gal who considers herself a "swinger" ? Thats the weirdest part of all. Why not just call herself a bi nympho or something sexy/fun ????
sagetalk Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 So whats the deal with this swinger thing. What should i expect? Expect to not hear the word no when you ask her to sleep with you.
Author alphamale Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 I have not yet seen an attractive swinger.??? no, she's above average looking Expect to not hear the word no when you ask her to sleep with you.
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 i'm goin' out w/ this girl friday night. what if after dinner she suggests a swingers club? what do i do? never been to one
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 Then you can taste all her other partners when you give her oral. YUM! :sick:
Author alphamale Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 If you avoid all form of oral contact with her I am sure you will have a blast! she works for the army so she should be fairly clean
CarrieT Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 i'm goin' out w/ this girl friday night. what if after dinner she suggests a swingers club? what do i do? never been to one Do you feel ready to have sex with and/or in front of a lot of strangers? Some guys can't handle it (having others see him perform). Have you had sex with her alone yet?
meerkat stew Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 Have always heard "swinger" used only for couples, no idea what a single woman means when she describes herself as as a "swinger." Could mean she gets randy and uses the left hand to run the vibrator sometimes, or could mean she stopped having sex with random men just long enough to go out on a date with you with you.
Throne Of Lies Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 she works for the army so she should be fairly clean ? What? Being an Army-employed contractor doesn't mean that you are healthy in the least. It isn't like the screen you for STDs so you can do admin for some regiment somewhere, if you aren't a combatant. Even if she was, the real deal Army only tests you for AIDs, and even then only once every 12 months. As for swingers, I have only been in that situation once, and it was WEIRD. This dude watched me take a shower and then get a blowjob from his wife. She wasn't that good looking, but I rarely turn down bjs from married chicks. Anyway, do it to have the experience, but don't be suprised if it gets weird.
sxyNYCcpl Posted January 8, 2010 Posted January 8, 2010 OK, time for some actual experience from an actual swinger. First off, swingers are not all old, fat, and ugly. Some are, of course, as swingers come in all shapes, ages, and sizes though I would say 30- and 40-somethings in decent (but not underwear model) shape are the "norm", if there is one. Many, though certainly not all, 20-somethings aren't really mature enough for it, and while I am sure there are 50-something (and beyond) swingers, either they don't hang out at the places we do (and indeed, some of the parties my wife and I go to screen for, amongst other things, age), or perhaps they're not into the party scene so much and it's more about two-on-two couples events. I guess I'll figure that out in about 15 years or so. Swingers tend to be (but again, not always) long term, established relationships (married, more often than not) who begin swinging after a period of "normal" monogamy. It has been said that usually it's the man who brings the couple into swinging, and the woman who keeps them there, but I'm not convinced of that. Women, DO however, run the lifestyle. They are the gatekeepers, and for the most part, they determine whom is playing with whom. IME roughly 80% (or more) of women swingers are bisexual to some degree. Most successful swingers have really good relationships before swinging, and find it enhances those relationships. Some attempt to use swinging to "fix" a damaged relationship, and while that has on occasion worked, more likely it'll blow it up if used in this way. It is not about having "loose" morals, it's simply recognizing that consensual recreational sex is possible, and fun, and does not require an emotional bond to be so. If she's taking you to a swing club, here's what you will encounter. There are two types of swing clubs, on-premise and off-premise. It's just what it sounds like, on-premise events have open sexual activities occurring "on site", whereas off prem does not, though things are certainly sexier (and sometimes nakeder) than "normal" clubs. That said, we are starting to avoid off prem events, while they can be good in our experience you are too likely to run into people who are at a swingers party, but who aren't really swingers, and that can lead to drama. We hate drama. YMMV. You will find that most swingers are extremely friendly, that they're fun to hang out with, and you may even find some folks who will be your friends for life. If you are going to an on prem event with a group room, be prepared for something you never would have expected: ED. You would think the idea of being in an orgy, of seeing live, attractive (or not) people having sex or watching real live girl-on-girl action for the first time would have the opposite effect but many male swingers find they have stage freight and Mr. Happy simply refuses to come out to play. It's natural, it's normal, we're simply not used to having sex in front of a room full of strangers and it can be intimidating. It has happened to me, but I have become more used to it so it's generally not an issue anymore. Most swingers insist on condoms, if a partner proposes foregoing it be very cautious... if they'd skip it with you, they may have done so with many others and could be risky. HPV is a virtual certainty at some time, in men it presents no symptoms and goes away on it's own, in women MOST of the time it has the same effect but in some rare cases it can cause cancer with the "right" strain. HSV (Herpes) is a risk too, mostly because condoms offer limited protection and the fact is that MOST people who do have it don't get any symptoms and don't even know they have it. The good news is that, medically speaking, it's nothing more than a nuisance, but it can be a bad nuisance if you get it. It can be great fun and introduce you to a slew of people you'll be proud to know. Every once in awhile you'll run into drama or a problem (the one I hate the most is a couple where it's obvious that the woman is participating under duress, fortunately they may as well have a glowing neon sign to that affect as it's obvious, and rare) but that is very much the exception, not the rule. Go in with no expectations. Have fun, and whatever happens, happens. Sometimes it does, sometimes it don't. Good luck and enjoy!
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