yanks09 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Hey Guys, I have a question.. If you partner of two years tells you that they dont love you and not sure If they ever did? Would you try to make It work or, would you just end It right then and there.,, Its more to my story so I will post it lata.. But I also want to add that she and her daughter are currently staying with me at my place.. So, would you tell her to leave knowing that she doesnt love you? Like how can someone fix that.. I dont think you can
bluestraps Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Is the relationship working . After 2 years you would think there would be some sort of feelings of love. So if she is questioning this, is she wanting out. And what other problem Maybe you havent done the necessary things for her to develop thoes feelings you having in this relationship.
Zeegagge Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Please don't make the same mistakes many before you have made. If she doesn't love you after two years she's not going to. Please get her out of your place soon too. You are being used, and don't give me a bunch of 'well it may seem that way but she said blah blah blah' She might not be using you on purpose or maliciously but she is still using you. Reserve that space for someone who does love you. Please!
bluestraps Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Need more info to help you out properly . We dont know that she wants out .
name witheld Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I think you know the answer to this question.
lesoiseaux Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 My ex never loved me. Every time he said he did was just as a response to me in a terrible attempt to prevent me from being sad. Of course in the long run that didn't work out! Everyone deserves someone who will love them. 2 years is a long time and it's really not fixable...
LovelyDaze Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Hey Guys, I have a question.. If you partner of two years tells you that they dont love you and not sure If they ever did? Would you try to make It work or, would you just end It right then and there.,, Its more to my story so I will post it lata.. But I also want to add that she and her daughter are currently staying with me at my place.. So, would you tell her to leave knowing that she doesnt love you? Like how can someone fix that.. I dont think you can I honestly got mad reading that. NO, you can not fix it. She has to leave your home, go get her own place and fix herself. And don't feel sad because she has got a daughter and all. You are being used. Let her go. I'm sure she has friends or relatives she can stay with. Now, if she absolutely has no friends or family to help her on her feet, give her a short alotted time to save money (God, I hope she has a job!) and then she must go. This IS not living. She is just making herself a charity case and bringing you down in the process. Disgusting.
Author yanks09 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Thanks you guys... As far as our relationship, we get along very well. No fighting or agruing just the usually who taking the garbage out or washing dishes type stuff.. Of course the question of Is she interested In someone else comes along but she never gave me a reason to believe that.. But anything Is possible.. She said that she doesn't want to live a lie and that I deserve someone who will love me the way that I love them. I really do care and love this women and her daughter.. I can accept that she doesn't love me.. But why mislead and lie for two years? I have build a father daughter relationship with her daughter.. That's what's upsetting and hurtful about everything.. I didn't see this coming.. So for the past month In half we been trying to make It work as per her request but I didn't see any change In her.. Living with her has been miserable and stressful.. I'm like an emotional roller coaster with her. I can be fine one day then the next day we are fighting again.. So I decide to part ways with her. Last week I had told her she has two weeks and she said fine. But yesterday, I just couldn't take it any more.. lol, After another one of our fights about what's going on, I had told her she Is no longer welcome In my home and to get her stuff. At the time we had this discussion she was at her mothers home to bring in the New Year so she hasnt been home since . She text me at midnight to say Happy New Years and havent heard from her since.. She told me not to do that to her and give her time to get evething together.. Whats crazy about this Is the now her daughter Is going to have to be xfer to a different school because she attends right across the street from my home so she ask for some time to get everything together.. I refuse.. Told her I been nice long enough, and done everything I could for her and your daughter but Its about me now..Told her to stay at her mothers or sisters and figure things out from their and her issues are no longer my concern.. I feel bad cuz I really didnt want this to end this way and would love to be with her.. Dont want to put her daughter through that but its not my fault and Im not going to blame myself or allow her to use that against me. I just cant be unhappy In my own home any longer with somene who doesnt love me.. I wasn't going to give her the pleasure to take her time and leave.. New year, fresh start... She hasn't been here for the last two nights.. All her stuff Is still here so she should be coming for them probably tomorrow In the morn when I'm at work and through out the week.. So should I waited and gave her two weeks or did I do the right thing? and once everything Is said and done, str8 N.C? P.S we do both work together but I coul manage a way to not make any kind of eye contact with her and avoid her.. Is it possible that with time, she might realize that maybe she does love me and Im what she wants? Once again thanks you guys
Author yanks09 Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 She would like to be friends as she says I mean alot to her and would like for me to continue her relationship with her daughter as her father isnt In the picture.. But as soon as she finds someone new, then I will be out the picture again. So I think its best not to remain friends and wish her and her daugter the best.. Cant be mad at her for the way she feels just cant accpet that you let two years go by and pretend something that you already knew wasnt there.. The reason I didnt see this coming Is because like a mention we have a great relationshhip.. She Is a wonderful person to be around with.. We both very silly so we are always having fun doing nothing.. Just sad that this couldnt be
LovelyDaze Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Good job, yanks09. Sorry, it just isn't your problem where her daughter has to go to school. It's not like her daughter is going to Riker's Island or something, a lot of kids have to move from school to school for even the most mundane reasons. Your ex told you she doesn't love you? 'Nuff said.
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