SadKitty78 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 It's simple for me, I'm feeling all of the above but the deepest pain is that a piece of me has been taken away, I am not me right now. When you are so closely in love you really do become one. How do you cope when you are not who you were any more? Yes, my body is literally in shock right now! You merge and than it is torn away from you. It's as if you're not yourself anymore because they own a part of it and took it away from you!
SadKitty78 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I start to miss her and think about her and everything that I try to do brings back a memory of something we did together. Even eating at some places, brings those feelings back. I went out the first time in 2 days and when I saw a Thai restaurant, and not even the one he and I went to, I thought of him. Passing a bookstore, I saw a book he was reading and thought about him. Someone said they were going on a Southwest flight and I thought about him because we took a trip together last week. Everything is reminding me of him!!!!!!
SadKitty78 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I know this is probably so trivial and nonsensical, but I went through the initial shock again when I saw that he had changed his facebook status! It was like that "bullet through the chest" feeling another poster had described! I broke into tears again!
muse08 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 It sucks real bad and it seems like it does not want to go away no matter how busy you try and keep your mind. So true. This supports the saying about "the harder you resist, sometimes the more you think about it." Yet people always say stay BUSY. The fact of the matter is that you know why you're trying to stay busy...to avoid thinking about the EX. So each time I'd think of the Ex while BUSY, I would take deep breaths and my eyes would blink slower than usual. There's something most people have in common during breakups, i.e. the "breathing". Break ups are hard and the pain often lingers.
HLP234 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I'm not sure weather its just keeping busy, its keeping your mind off of the idea. Like some what erasing everything that is there and just starting fresh. Its hard to do by yourself and i noticed even if I hang out with people as much as you can, nothing makes it go away. I'm not the type of person either to just try and find someone else right away either..thats not healthy and its what my ex has been doing.
xpressyaself22 Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 For me the biggest thing was anxiety and second guessing every last thing in the relationship, unfortunately I didn't get a direct reason as to why we were breaking up, other than that he couldn't handle a relationship at the time, but that things wouldn't change because we'd still be friends, but of course, they changed completely, so I've been going through a period of constant anxiety and stress, to the point of getting sick. But they say that each day gets easier, so thats what I try to remember.
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