scenester Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 It's not that I'm afraid to meet girls I just don't know where to find them. I'm 19, where's the best place to meet women my age?
Yukikazi Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Well assuming you are in college... have you thought about starting there?
alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 house parties are the best places to meet chicks
Author scenester Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Well assuming you are in college... have you thought about starting there? I'm not going to school until Fall.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 School! College or University. Uni was the most active social periods in my life:love:
Vintage79 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 School's definitely a great place. I've also had decent luck at the more everyday type places as opposed to Bars/Clubs, as it's more natural. Target, grocery store, whatever - pick a store that targets your demographic and style...basically let the store do demographic selection. This scenario makes it pretty easy to just casually start talking to people as well, be it both looking at the same T-shirt, or picking out oranges. Otherwise, various social/group activites/teams - co-ed Volley Ball is great, and self selects for active and fit women...
alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Target, grocery store, whatever - pick a store that targets your demographic and style...basically let the store do demographic selection. This scenario makes it pretty easy to just casually start talking to people as well, be it both looking at the same T-shirt, or picking out oranges. dude, no one meets chicks at target or in the produce section of kroger
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 dude, no one meets chicks at target or in the produce section of kroger Some gross dude came up behind me and sniffed my neck once in the freezer ailse:eek: That's the only cold approach I've had:p
Vintage79 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I'm not saying that you should specfically go to Target on a pick-up mission - basically, keep your eyes open and don't be shy...in particular if they're looking at things that you're interested in, like in the music section. Yes, going to Target on a pick-up mission would be a bit creepy. That said, I've met some great people at the places I've mentioned. Just a couple of weeks ago I met a totally cute girl in the music section at Target. She was looking at a disc I had been curious about, so I asked her opinion. It quickly launched into a 10 minute discussion about emerging bands. At that point, got her number and went out with her about a week later - to surprise, surprise, one of the bands we had talked about...it went pretty well. The take away is you can meet people anywhere, just don't treat it like a pick-up mission, just be genuinely nice to people and see how the verbal chemistry plays out. If she's into you, it's not hard to turn a 15 second blurb about oranges into a 5-10 minute dialogue followed by a number...just don't treat it like a pick-up game...repeat, don't treat it like a pick-up game.
alphamale Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 there are places where it is socially acceptable to approach chicks and there are places its not. trying to meet chicks at DSW shoe store falls in the latter category
Vintage79 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I thought I said you don't go to the place with the explicit intent of trying to pick-up women, it just kind happens when you're genuine, curious, and nice to people. And yes, walking up to a woman at a DSW and asking if you can help take her boot off would be strange, in particular when she follows it up with, "do you even work here?" and you answer, "no, I just wanted to touch your leg". You have to be realistic about it...the natural environment is the way to go, as they aren't guarding themselves the same way they are at the bar/club...it turns the bitch shield into low hanging fruit.
bwidger Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I ask myself this question all the time, and even when I was your age, and probably until I'm 60 if I'm still looking to date... The best answer would be anywhere. Like someone else said above me, some places are more socially accepted than others though, which in turn will account for a lot of success.
Author scenester Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 I find that most of my ex girlfriends I have met through mutual friends. I haven't actually took the "meeting" process into my own hands and do it myself. Any tips?
bwidger Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I find that most of my ex girlfriends I have met through mutual friends. I haven't actually took the "meeting" process into my own hands and do it myself. Any tips? You going to need an attitude: 1) Be open 2) Honest 3) Upfront 4) Polite If you have this attitude down when talking to women your golden. So when you see someone you like you simply go up to them and be open, be honest, be upfront and be polite (don't forget to get the number). That is really all there is to it... Your 19, so try online dating sites, dance clubs, the mall, 18 and older hang out spots (any), dances, myspace/facebook (who gives a crap), parties, get to meet people and meet their friends/throw a party and invite your friends and tell them to bring their friends, etc... I've even tried walking around campus when I wasn't really going and talking to girls (but this can be exhausting and frustrating)... Just don't exhaust yourself. Try picking the most socially accepted places like dances, dance clubs, popular 18+ hang out places, or through friends, etc...
Author scenester Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 You going to need an attitude: 1) Be open 2) Honest 3) Upfront 4) Polite If you have this attitude down when talking to women your golden. So when you see someone you like you simply go up to them and be open, be honest, be upfront and be polite (don't forget to get the number). That is really all there is to it... Your 19, so try online dating sites, dance clubs, the mall, 18 and older hang out spots (any), dances, myspace/facebook (who gives a crap), parties, get to meet people and meet their friends/throw a party and invite your friends and tell them to bring their friends, etc... I've even tried walking around campus when I wasn't really going and talking to girls (but this can be exhausting and frustrating)... Just don't exhaust yourself. Try picking the most socially accepted places like dances, dance clubs, popular 18+ hang out places, or through friends, etc... I need to work on good starters when approaching women, even if they're completely false, just something to dismiss the awkward approach.
Awesome Username Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Learn tarot cards, and bring them to a party. Obtain a puppy and go anywhere Become a musician and play open mic nights go to church do something for charity. Women are always doing charity work.
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