confusedmuch Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I met this guy online and he seemed really cool so after a little we exchanged numbers. We texted and talked a little and I really liked him so we agreed to meet up. After an hour or so he turned into a bit of a jacka*s by twisting all my words to make me sound like a total ass. Afterwards, he was saying how he knew he fell flat on his face and wanted a second try at a first date. At first I told him it was okay and I'd give him another chance. I later realized I was an idiot and shouldn't bother giving him another shot. Over the next few days he would text me and I ignored him, hoping he'd get the idea and leave me alone. It's been a couple weeks now of him texting me, me ignoring most of the texts but responding to a couple of them like the merry christmas ones and happy new year. He texted me again asking for another first date since he fell flat on his face last time. After the first one, I'm not sure if I want to give him a second chance. But he was pretty cool before that first meetup. I'm sure he was very nervous but his behavior was very immature. How can I know if I should give him a second chance? I mean, people make mistakes right?
ordinary_girl Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 he was just nervous. people do all sorts of stupid things on a first date, especially when they are inexperienced. give him a chance, he obviously feels really bad about it
Author confusedmuch Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Really? I don't think he's aware of the fact that he was being an ass. I think he thinks he fell flat on his face because he was "unable to impress me" (that's what he said) - I kept beating him at pool. Should I tell him I didn't like how he had been acting or should I just give him another chance and hope he doesn't act the same way?
Vintage79 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 It sounds like he was attempting the cocky routine, as twisting words in cirlces is one of the typical tactics. Of course, that means he was likely trying to play you a bit, but at the same time, likely realizes that he needs to be at least a bit of a challenge to keep you interested. It's tough - if you thought he was an ass, and moreover, that that's an intrinsic part of who he is (ignore early correspondence), then I'd say don't bother. I'm usually a fan of giving people the benefit of the doubt, but don't think I could stand spending more time with some one who I thought was annoying and rude to me. If it came across as nervous, with a few too many awkward silences, etc., I'd give him another whirl, but it doesn't sound like he was nervous, it sounds like he was trying to bust out his "A game", and that his "A game" doesn't mesh with what you like. Since he fails to realize that he was an ass to you, chances are he will be again, maybe even moreso, as he would likely realize another meeting would be his last shot to impress, so his "A game" that you dislike, would probably present in full force. I'd likely say no.
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