not again Posted December 23, 2003 Posted December 23, 2003 Help please.... not sure what's going on.... My boyfriend and I have been on/off for 20 months.. in the past there have been issues with his ex-girlfriends; he pretty much keeps in touch with all of them. I have been jealous in the past, especially when I found old love letters he kept showing, that while he lived with someone for over 5 years he was cheating on her with two women, one married whom he works with and one out of town who was actually going to move her and her 4 kids to be closer to him (even though she knew he was living with someone). Long story short he was keeping in touch with the one who wanted to move... and not telling her that I even existed. He said I was being insecure... whatever... he knew I called off an engagement because of cheating. Anyway, we broke up for 2 months and then got back together agreeing to talk things over and he agreed that he wouldn't hide things from me... Now there is another ex who happens to be his best friend and who thinks nothing of asking him to take her to concerts, dinner, spend the holidays with her family, etc. okay, but when asked where he was spending his holiday he didn't say with me, he said he had to work? Again we have had this discussion before... am I insecure or is his lack of public acknowledgment of me a sign that I am destined to be yet another ex.
moimeme Posted December 23, 2003 Posted December 23, 2003 None of the above. He is chronically dishonest, which is the worst of all. Dump this guy and run as far and as fast as you can away from him.
jmargel Posted December 23, 2003 Posted December 23, 2003 Nope, not being insecure. You have every reason to have doubts on what's going on. Him going out with an ex is a huge NO. If my gf wanted that, I wouldnt hestitate to leave her. Without communication, trust, love & respect you don't have much to a relationship. Out of those four things, how many do you two have between each other?
mjk Posted December 23, 2003 Posted December 23, 2003 I agree with everyone above- "What you see is what you'll get" In this case I'd "GET" out.
brashgal Posted December 23, 2003 Posted December 23, 2003 I was married to a guy like this. Kept in touch with all his ex-girlfriends, cheated on more than one of us at a time. Will do just about anything for you in a crisis except be faithful. I think that once the pattern is established, they don't change and you are probably destined to be an ex. Sounds like he'd be willing to stay friends with you though and even take you out. Good escort material, lousy boyfriend/spouse/significant other material.
AllyKat Posted December 24, 2003 Posted December 24, 2003 He is a liar. I think some people can look you in the face and using charm could sell you a rock. The signs are there...he is lying about you to other women! Please dont stay with someone like this. He doesnt sound like he will ever change!
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