aloneinseattle Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Well it has been a while since I last posted. And a bad way to start off the new year I know, if you read my past posts you will know the history about my relationship. So about 4 months past with complete NC. I felt like I was finally over my ex. Then out of the blue she calls me, we spoke for 2 hours on the phone, then I asked her for her number. I waited a few days and called her back, the first time we spoke I asked her if she was involved, she told me no, then when I called her back she told me that the truth was she was seeing some one. I told her it did not matter and I wanted to see her, she kept saying no. I insisted and drove to where she was living. When I seen her she gave me a hug and kiss on the lips then with in minutes we started making out and grabbing each other. She said she did not feel it was right what she was doing. Because she had the other guy, and he was on his way over and she did not want problems. She said she wants to spend the day with me on Monday(her day off) but did not want her room mate to know she was talking to me again. I texted her happy new year and she called me back, telling me thank you for the text and tomorrow she said she will interduce her new bf to her family. It really made me mad and kind of upset. And now I have real mixed feelings about her and feel like I want her back again. I really need some guidance and help thank you. (signed Angry,hurt,confused)
singlegirl Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Aww bless you.....You must feel so confused....here's my take on it she has a new guy who she is going to introduce to her family so that would apparently mean they are getting quite serious? Could it be that she's a bit scared of this new relationship and is using you to "test" these feelings? No matter what she is using you for one reason or another....You must back off because she will rip your heart from your chest and leave you bleeding whilst she plays happy families with this man..... Take a step back, tell her you need time to work out how you feel and sit down somewhwere and think of all that youve been through the last few months....Do you really want to do that all over again?
Author aloneinseattle Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 (edited) Yes, I can see it coming, but I don't know why I keep going back to her, for some reason in my mind I don't think that "we will hang out on her day off" day will come, I feel like she said that to me to blow me off. And about her guy friend I mean it should not really matter to me either way, but I asked her how long she knew him (she said she met him on the bus) for she said 1 month, so I dont know how serious she can be in that amount of time considering she was telling the truth. Which she lied to me twice in our phone conversation, first lie was where she was living, second lie was she said she was not involved. So could she be lying about having the bf as well ? And if she was so serious about him why would she have her tongue down my throat and her hand down my pants? These are things I can't figure out. I really like to be around her and she seems to be like a magnet and I am metal getting sucked in again Edited January 1, 2010 by aloneinseattle edited spelling
LovelyDaze Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Yes, I can see it coming, but I don't know why I keep going back to her, for some reason in my mind I don't think that "we will hang out on her day off" day will come, I feel like she said that to me to blow me off. And about her guy friend I mean it should not really matter to me either way, but I asked her how long she knew him (she said she met him on the bus) for she said 1 month, so I dont know how serious she can be in that amount of time considering she was telling the truth. Which she lied to me twice in our phone conversation, first lie was where she was living, second lie was she said she was not involved. So could she be lying about having the bf as well ? And if she was so serious about him why would she have her tongue down my throat and her hand down my pants? These are things I can't figure out. I really like to be around her and she seems to be like a magnet and I am metal getting sucked in again This is self-destructive on both your parts. You will never work out if you continue to conduct yourselves this way. How the hell do I know? I have been there...um just weeks ago! My ex kept breaking NC and I kept talking to him in the hopes he saw the light. My ex got engaged to another and dumped her for another chance with me just before Xmas. I refused because I KNEW he hadn't changed. I was right, because the next day, his ex called him and they got re-engaged! My ex is not genuine and your ex isn't either. Sounds like she is using you as a default boyfriend in case things don't work out with the new one. Don't be anybody's "I guess he'll do." You're worth more than that.
Author aloneinseattle Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Ty for the reply LovelyDaze, I have read your post's and your situation is quiet interesting. In my situation you may be right but mind you this is the first time we have spoke or seen, each other in 4 months. And the second time we spoke she was saying, she only called me to see how I was doing, she said she did not expect I would want to see her. So I guess I dont really know whats going on besides the fact it is driving me mad, knowing that she is with another guy.
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