IronWinged Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Well our story goes like this... We met at an airshow. We're both in JROTC. We're young. I asked him out. I made him happy. He told me all of his secrets. I took him for granted, (but I wasn't mean about it... I humored him). He went out of state for the summer. His grandma died. He came back. Didn't even say hi to me. Didn't call me. ignored me. I fell in love. (I fell in love with him during his '*******' phase, don't ask me why, but I did) Days, weeks, almost a month goes by and I never hear from him. I call him, in tears, asking him if he wants a relationship. He broke up with me. Weeks go by. We talk. I ask him out. We go out. He doesn't even hold the door open for me, but he buys me movie tickets. At the end of the date, I give him a t-shirt, 2 necklaces and taffy I bought for him. He ignored me the entire time, but kissed me at the end. I was having a rough time at a party near his place and I call him, and tell him some guys were trying to make a move on me, and I wanted him to be there. Before I could even explain my situation, he hears these guys in the background and cusses me out. Hangs up. He deletes me off his facebook. Ignores me again. Couple weeks go by, he invites me on a date. It's supposed to be a double date. His friend's girlfriend didn't come. So he ends up bringing his friend to a date. He drives fast, with music blaring, and when we get to the theater, he doesnt say a word to me. We drive back in the same fashion. Comes around me again. Tells me he likes me. Tells me I deserve better. We have a 4 hr long conversation. This time I tell him my secrets, and my feelings for him as well. I ask him if he wants to hang out, casually, and he told me 'I'll call you after I get off work' Never called me. I guess the reason why I'm still stuck on this jackass is because I'm in love. When he comes around me again, what should I do? Forgive him? Be nice? carry on a conversation? Spit in his face? Seek shelter? Ignore him? We have to face each other every Tues. we're both in JROTC. Its not optional. ***UPDATE*** Now hes tryin to call me!! My dad picked up and gave the phone to me, and I found out it was him. He told me he wants to come over my house on the weekend and 'have a good time'. (Oh and I really appreciate how he ignored me over the holidays, when I needed someone most) I guess I'm on here asking for advice is because I want to plan the biggest revenge imaginable. I want to totally, completely and utterly crush him. I want to lure him in like he did to me (he knew what he was doing). It felt like my heart was grinded in a blender and fried up as mincemeat. I never thought I could stoop so low and allow someone to trample all over me like he did. I couldn't live with myself unless I did his emotionall well-being in. I want to ask you pros and experienced people because I am no pro at this love bull****. I thought it was about finding one human being you could trust and they could trust you, but all I see is a series of games of who can outlast each other without calling and who can make the other one more jealous. And all I see is 10 more years of feverous research on bull**** articles like "What does his body language say about him?" And "If he calls you first, does that mean he's marriage material?" And loads of unnecesary bull****. Leaving him alone is not an option. I want to totally ruin him.
nobmagnet Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 ooooooooh did you get out of bed the wrong side honey?????? welocme to loveshack. Revenge would be to ignore him and move on. Dont contact him. Dont answer his calls. delete him off facebook and any other form of commincation. The mature way of dealing with this is to move on. He sounds bad boyfreind material. Just be happy in the knowlege he isnt going to mess with your head anymore. Doing mean things will not apease your anger you will most certainly regret it in the longrun. He dignity and grace my love.........walk away with your head held high x
TheLoneSock Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Neither of you are good for each other. It sounds like both of you were being immature, you most of all though seeing as how you want revenge over an ended relationship. Grow up. You're in JROTC - you're supposed to be the future of the United States military, and you can't even get past a summer love without vying for vengeance? Get over it.
simonsez Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Start dating someone new and hang all over the new guy. Be seen out and about with the new guy hanging on him. Wait for your ex to call. Then avoid his calls for a few days. When he finally contacts you, then you tell you that you "kinda" met someone. Tell him that you have realized that you two were not right for each other and you only want to be his friend. Then politely tell him that you are really busy and don't have time to talk and you have to go but you wish him the best. Then hang up.. They usually start chasing you and begging you to take them back after you do all that. That is what works the best. It is excellent revenge. Men want what they can't have. You have been way to easy for him and offered him little or no challenge. Men get bored with women easily if the woman doesn't offer some challenge of her own... That's it.. That should get you your revenge. Don't worry. He will find out that you are with someone else. Don't call and tell him. Wait for him to contact you. Then do what I said.
DustySaltus Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Revenge? How about not speaking with him and let him feel what he lost. You need to brush a guy like this off. You're going to be in charge of 30+ soldiers on the battlefield in situations a lot worse than this. Focus on yourself and your goals, ROTC is no joke. You need to be focused on that...
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