Avena Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Hello! I'm new at this loveshack, found it and thought it was quitea good forum. So, I know there are a bunch of this topics but I bet every one of them is different and I could really read some thoughts I met my friend about 2 years ago, I liked him the first time I saw him but left it there. Then I met my ex about 1 month after I met this friend of mine they came from another city to work here in mine, they were co-workers, to make a long story short my ex and I hooked up and my friend became my best friend, my friend and I would go out every weekend whenever my ex wasn't here, we always had a great time, he had a girlfriend back then and I would even go to her house to play some poker, it was all fun, whenever my ex was here we would go out to play pool, to the movies and everything, even the 4 of us... Anyway, my ex and I broke up on feb this year, my friend really was with me, I cried with him and all, he's really amazing, he has taught me so many things (they are both around 9 years older than me), we became really close, we traveled together, he broke up with his ex and now he cried with me, he would come to my house in the middle of the night and I would just listen to him. Well, in October things just came along, we kissed, we slept together and I must say it was amazing, the feeling of kissing this man who has been there for me whenever I needed him. He has come to see me and we've slept together. It just feels right!! The sad part, he's not here anymore, he lives in a different city. That's not a problem, he has come to see me and I've gone to see him, it's been a month since I went there and he hasn't come here which makes me wonder if he wants to see me, I told him I would go but I guess it's not good if I'm the only one that travels to see eachother, I know he would come if he had a job... The saddest part is that my parents found out about us and they don't like it, I know it looks bad that I'm dating my ex's friend and that the fact that he's older is not nice for my parents... But then, I know him and I know he wouldn't hurt me, he has told me that and I trust him, we really love eachother and it feels right, I know my ex doesn't care because he was the one that broke up with me. I'm all messed up because we really love eachother and I've always looked for my parents approval for so many things, but this time it's my feelings and I don't know what to do... Should I be with him just because it feels right even if some things tell me it's not right?? Heart vs brain/society??
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 You know your heart better than anybody. You're old enough (I assume...you're not underage, are you?) to make your own decisions about your love life. My mom is very vocal about mine, and I've learned to just quit volunteering info to her and do my own thing. You have to live your own life. Because when it comes down to it - who's going to have to live with YOUR choices? Your parents or you? Make sure you'll be happy with whatever results you choose. There isn't much you can do in life that is not a risk. But you never know until you take that leap. Not every risk turns out bad.
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