Artist Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I am having a hard night. I keep thinking about her with her new guy. Here is my story. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t215515/ Any encourging words are welcome or tell me if you are struggling.
HLP234 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I think all of us are struggling but you have to look forward to new things. I'm stuck in a limbo and I don't like the pain anymore. I saw her facebook saying she is spending new years with her "friend." Didn't make me feel any better either. There was no talk of its over thats it, it was just I want my own time and need to figure stuff out while I'm home. So we haven't said anything to each other for almost a month now. Seeing that stuff online doesn't make it better. But if she is taking her time and having fun than why shouldn't I do the same. Not so much a new year for me but we can only hope things get better..all i can say is hang in there buddy.
Vampire Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Right with you brother. Went out on my own to watch fireworks, but came home feeling even worse. And I also made the stupid mistake of looking at her Facebook page. Since I found out about her collection of ex boyfriends, she made it private, but one of her albums was open via somebody elses page. She was at a party looking like the cat that had got the cream - not a care in the world. Kinda weird when you look at photo's taken after you've split up; they almost seem to take on the look of a complete stranger. Hold in there brother - that ledge you're standing on? Look either side and you'll see us balancing the same pain. We can get through this. Law of averages say that the tables will turn one day, so be prepared to be smug when you come out on top.
bluestraps Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 10 months does seem like a long time when you're right in the middle of it.I'm not diminishing your pain ,but you didnt waste too much time on her . Try 10 years like me. My ex also has a new guy and he happens to have been a friend of mine. She does'nt sound like a match for you. You will keep getting better once you get to some months just stop facebooking ,that thing is evil. Let her get married.
lostboyuk Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Thought I was doing ok but just lost it completely! Sure it'll get better, just miss her so much. Agree, stay off facebook, I've resisted for 5 days. Even if there's nothing on there it will remind you, right now do nothing but think about YOU. Stay busy
Tasha1675 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I deleted myself from Facebook when my ex and I broke up, I just wanted to avoid seeing anything that was going to hurt me even more. My ex ended it saying he loved me but wasn't ready to settle down and thought he'd hurt me one day. We both cried and it was awful. It's now 11 weeks of NC and it still hurts but it gets a tiny bit easier each day. New Years Eve was tough. I spent it with lots of my friends and it was fun up until midnight. Everyone was kissing and saying happy new year and it just made me feel sad that I am entering a brand new year without him. My friend's husband wished me happy new year and said 'maybe you'll meet someone special this year' and i tried so hard not to cry! I just spent the rest of the night feeling sad and I feel a bit sad now but that's just how it is. It really is a rollercoaster of emotions!
blackbear_703 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 For me New Year's has been good. Sure I've missed my ex, but I would've missed her anyway since at this moment she's out at her parents' house, which is waayyyyyyy out in the middle of nowhere (with no cell phone or Internet access). She'll be back Sun. night and that's what I dread the most. Either I won't hear from her again or if she does contact, it'll most likely be something I don't want to hear...such as news about a new bf/fiancee or more of her ambiguous "miss you/love you" messages. I'm just hoping she's spent the past week or two getting sober and getting her head straight while she's at home.
Charmaine_Champagne Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 in the weeks leading up to new years i was feeling positive thinking it'll be a new start for me, leaving my ex behind in 2009. but christmas and my birthday on the same day left me feeling down. for new year i decided to party. oh what a mistake. i drank far too much, can barely remember my night and i know i made a fool of myself. i lost my phone early on in the night when i was already stupidly drunk and i'm upset because 1) that number was the only way my ex had of contacting me 2) i am now anxious because i don't know if he sent me a happy new year text 3) i was so drunk i dunno if i texted him and now i won't know because my phone is gone. i got really upset last night because it was the 1st new year without my ex in 6 years, we always celebrated it together. the phone thing is killing me tho with anxiety, now i'll never know if he text me to wish me happy new year
HLP234 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 For me New Year's has been good. Sure I've missed my ex, but I would've missed her anyway since at this moment she's out at her parents' house, which is waayyyyyyy out in the middle of nowhere (with no cell phone or Internet access). She'll be back Sun. night and that's what I dread the most. Either I won't hear from her again or if she does contact, it'll most likely be something I don't want to hear...such as news about a new bf/fiancee or more of her ambiguous "miss you/love you" messages. I'm just hoping she's spent the past week or two getting sober and getting her head straight while she's at home. Mine is coming back too sometime soon, I found out through facebook but she has never said anything to me so I can just continue to ignore it I suppose. I'm not looking forward to what may happen. I can only hope time at home has helped her to figure stuff out but I doubt she did any of that because it had seemed she was just spending too much time with her friend over there...while I've been here by myself trying to straighten myself out. She even put on there that she was spending new years eve with that guy once she saw I was online..but never said anything to me and neither did I to her. Oh well, who knows what will happen I will just continue NC because I don't think she is planning to even say anything to me if she hasn't let me know when she is coming back.
blackbear_703 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Mine is coming back too sometime soon, I found out through facebook but she has never said anything to me so I can just continue to ignore it I suppose. I'm not looking forward to what may happen. I can only hope time at home has helped her to figure stuff out but I doubt she did any of that because it had seemed she was just spending too much time with her friend over there...while I've been here by myself trying to straighten myself out. She even put on there that she was spending new years eve with that guy once she saw I was online..but never said anything to me and neither did I to her. Oh well, who knows what will happen I will just continue NC because I don't think she is planning to even say anything to me if she hasn't let me know when she is coming back. Yep you're doing the right thing by continuing NC. At this point in time there's nothing more that can be said and she hasn't contacted you in weeks, so I'd just let it be. If you do go ahead and meet up with her, I wish you all the best of luck and hope everything works out for the best.
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 yeah my ex is with her new boo this holiday too i found out through fb...we stop being friends on fb i really dont know if we are really friends anymore i hurt tremendously sometimes i hate love
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