Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 So my name is Ryan and I live in Orlando Fl. I have recently gotten involved with a woman and we had sex. After a couple days pass by she tells me she married. So i think to myself well thats it. Not that easy. She fires back with she is falling for me as I am her. She says that there are a lot of things she is lacking in her marriage sex not being the main issue. I have developed feelings towards her and she has to me as well. I guess what I am asking is for someone to guide me to the right thing to do. Do I continue to see her or let her be in her marriage ? Someone help please!! Ryan
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 All this I understand. Truth is she did tell me she was married. I met her on a website which I will not name. She is an extremely smart woman with a lot of issues in her marriage. I just dont think 2 people that feel the way we feel about each other should just walk away..... I could and may be wrong about that Ryan
Spoiled Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 All this I understand. Truth is she did tell me she was married. I met her on a website which I will not name. She is an extremely smart woman with a lot of issues in her marriage. I just dont think 2 people that feel the way we feel about each other should just walk away..... I could and may be wrong about that Ryan PLEASE rid yourself of the future headache and stop seeing her. I agree with BB07, read the other posts and change directions. When she leaves her M, then continue.
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 You know what, I think your right. I have done some reading and I am seeing it over and over again. I think it would be in my best interest to end things and walk away and never look back........
fooled once Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Can I ask how old you are? How old is she? Ryan, she is MARRIED. You can continue to have sex with her all you want; but she is MARRIED. Leave her alone and find a single girl. It will save you a lot of heartache. IF she really cares for her, she will let you go. She is committed to someone else and lying and deceiving him. That isn't fair to him. And if you aren't using condoms, that isn't fair to him either as you may bring to him an STD. If it is meant to be, it will be. She will, on her own, get a divorce instead of cheating.
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 I am 24 she is 25. We have gotten tested so there is chance on her part or mine. As I said I think I am gonna cut it off.
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 She is used to it is what she has told me. She is considering a divorce so she can pursue the person that fulfills her needs but I dont know how accurate that really is.....
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 She has been with him for 7 years. Married for 5 of those years. There are no kids involved in this at all. Im stuck. The woman I want is not available so it is what it is. I am meeting her tomorrow for drinks and I will tell her then......
Author Ryant34231 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Really thank you everyone. I have been beating myself up for 3 weeks as what to do. Now it is clear..... thank you thank you thank you thank you
tiredofit Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Ryant.... End it . Now. I just got home from work and am heading out(alone ) for a New years drink. I was with a MW and ended it just b4 Christmas. Who do you think she's spending NY's with ? Listen to these people on here. I am riding a rollercoaster of emotions everyday and I know all the things you are thinking. You are young, there's many single girls out there for you. I have to go for now. I can't sit here and think about it . Sometimes coming here helps, most times actually. But right now I need to get off and try and enjoy the New year .
WhereToGoFromHere Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Run!!! And run fast and don't look back. Take heed to what we are saying. We know from experience!!! Save yourself!!! This is quicksand and WILL suck you into a life of pain and suffering!! I mean it! GET OUT NOW!!!
tiredofit Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Went out for my NY's drink. Ryan u there? Home alone with my dog, and can't get her out of my head. You are not alone my friend. But you must get out of this. Read stampdaddy's posts. He was my inspiration. I still try to justifie her lies but bottom line is that you can't believe anything she tells you. I'm trying NC but is impossible because I work with her. For all I know she is on this board . Sometimes I think she is because of the way she acts the next time I see her. I don't know. I know this roller coaster sucks though
jennie-jennie Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 All this I understand. Truth is she did tell me she was married. I met her on a website which I will not name. She is an extremely smart woman with a lot of issues in her marriage. I just dont think 2 people that feel the way we feel about each other should just walk away..... I could and may be wrong about that Ryan There is truth in the sentence I bolded above. That is the reason I stayed with my MM, and the reason I am still staying with him 4 years later. The thing is you don't know how long, if ever, it will take her to leave her marriage. Are you prepared to be the other man meanwhile?
pureinheart Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I am not saying this happens to everyone in this situation....mine was an extreme....I paid a heavy price, and it was only an EA in which I always was on the run, looking and demanding the exit door....always reminding him he was MARRIED....it was horrible for me. I't like a bad spirit that surrounded me continuously as not a single man would touch me with a ten foot pole...it's as if they could tell or something, who knows....exMM/exBF went home to his W EVERY night and they did what they did, whatever that was....they shared a life, house, grown kids, dog, cat ect. ect....what did he share with me... A LIE, I WAS THE DIRTY LITTLE SECRET SCREW HIM!
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