theizz Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Ok, so I posted another thread a little while ago about a girl I went on a couple dates with. She was really into me and we had a great emotional connection, but when things got physical I realized I wasn't attracted to her. Now I really liked her personality so I was thinking maybe we can just be freinds. Am I asking for trouble if I ask her to be friends with me? Is it possible to be friends after this or is this a mistake? We did some crazy stuff in bed that neither of us has done before, so there's that between us too. I don't know, what are your thoughts?
ordinary_girl Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 you can ask her but if she has any self respect she will tell you to get lost
Author theizz Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 you can ask her but if she has any self respect she will tell you to get lost I see. But don't girls do this to guys all the time? Not that I'm trying to be mean to her. I just like hanging out with her.
boogieboy Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Yeah but you will be stringing her along. If you tell her you only want to be friends, she might want to wait for you to come back around to dating her. She will tell you she's ok with just being friends, but she will be lying. Just let her go, and find someone youre attracted to.
mortensorchid Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 People say "Let's be friends" when they break up not because they mean it, but just for something to say. Chances are if one or both parties genuinely want to be friends, the other does not. Give them a call and say "Hey wanna go do this?" they will reject you or just ignore you eventually. Best you both move on.
Author theizz Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Yeah I guess you guys are right. I don't want to string her along, and I also don't want her to tell me to f*off. So I probably should just not talk to her again.
harmfulsweetz Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 The problem is, if she wants more, then friendship won't work. It's a shame when this happens, but you can't help who you are and who you aren't physically attracted to. It may be best to put this on the backburner, and maybe in the future, you could try to be friends?
SoulSearch_CO Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I agree with Ordinary Girl. If the girl has any decency, she'll cut you out completely. The other thing that really must go through her mind with you telling her (AFTER SEX) that you just wanna be friends is that you used her for sex. And "just friends" means FWB. I hope she runs.
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