nolagurl07 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 So ive been dating this guy for about a month and a half. Last week he asked me to be his gf. A couple days later we ended up going out one night for drinks we slept together that night. it seemed all kinda fast since well we are still getting to know each other. We talked about it and he claims he wants to take back the title of gf and just continue dating. While I dont expect us to be serious because its too soon. I mean its not like we are in love or anything. He wants to try to go back and continue from before me apparently being his gf. My concern is weve already had sex . We havent had sex again since that one time but he wants to have sex and I just feel like if i do itll just turn into friends with benefits and hes not really dating me just making me believe that. Is it wrong for me to want to be his gf. I mean the guy doesnt have to confess his love to me. I just feel like in this situation now if I move further im screwing myself over. Do I cut my losses? Do I continue dating him? I mean is that stupid to want to be his gf this soon? I dont think hes seeing anyone else. He just keeps saying he doesnt want to be exclusive its too soon yet he wants to have sex. What should I do?
gtrguy Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Sounds like he gave you the gf/bf title to make you comfortable enough to have sex with him. Now the deed is done and he took it back. Grade A player. Get out while you can.
New Again Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 What a douche! I'd say take his rescinding the "title" as a break up and don't have anything more to do with him.
Vertex Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 "Be my girlfriend!" *sex* "Just kidding, let's just date." I'd move on.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 That's brutal- how old is this guy? It's just plain disrespectful for him to do what he did. If you keep "dating" him, it's tantamount to saying you are okay with his treatment of you. Don't keep seeing him- he's a total douche.
boogieboy Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 He will only do a FWB thing with you, you will get nothing more from him. Kick him to the curb.
sagetalk Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 We havent had sex again since that one time but he wants to have sex and I just feel like if i do itll just turn into friends with benefits and hes not really dating me just making me believe that. Smart thinking, you are ahead of many girls. I've seen so many posts in the short time I've been here ripping on guys who are shy in the beginning of the relationship and how unattractive they are. Well, here is the other guy in many cases. You're very fortunate he messed up and said you weren't his girlfriend, if he was really skilled at this he could be unbelievable cruel. I would suggest going slower with guys and sex in the future to help you weed out losers like this guy. A guy that is really into you (and not a scumbag) will wait if you want to, and he won't get mad about it. This guy has no right to be called a man, he's just a scumbag. This guy has 0% respect for you, remove him from your life to prevent any further damage.
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