octopus Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I am thinking about doing the online dating thing. I was just curious about other peoples experiences. Were you or someone you know able to find someone to have a meeningful relationship with, through online dating. Thanks
tkgirl Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I am thinking about doing the online dating thing. I was just curious about other peoples experiences. Were you or someone you know able to find someone to have a meeningful relationship with, through online dating. Thanks I did match.com and met someone the first hour that I fell too hard for... two years later we still manage to be connected somehow... was it meaningful? define "meaningful" I have a friend that did match and had better luck... she is now married to the guy! I think online dating should just be another tool to meet people... not the only tool. I refuse to do it again because of my experiences with it... and no, not because of that one guy.
Marek Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Why do you go online to find dates? If you have a decent social circle dating should become natural. Why are you looking into cyberspace for dates?
DustySaltus Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I've dabbled in the online dating world from time to time. I sent emails to around 75 women on different sites. I would say that I've gone on about 25 dates over the past couple of years when I was single (most of them up until recently this year). Of those 25 dates, I probably went out on second dates with 5 of them. Of those 5, I've had a relationship with one which is actually someone I'm with right now. I've gone out with people who looked nothing like their picture, people into voodoo, other religious fanatics, girls with baby momma drama, career students, serial texters, people STILL in a relationship with someone else and a few other winners. The biggest thing is that people can represent themselves as whatever they want to be. So issues that you would see right away with someone you meet in person now occur in a date setting which probably shouldn't have occured anyway. So based upon my #'s you have a 1.3% chance of meeting someone worthwhile online. If you compare this to people I've met in person I probably had between 20-30 times more of a success rate, so that's always the best option.
Vasto_Lorde Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I met my ex-girlfriend on match. I also met the girl I'm pursuing on another prominent dating site.
tkgirl Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I've dabbled in the online dating world from time to time. I sent emails to around 75 women on different sites. I would say that I've gone on about 25 dates over the past couple of years when I was single (most of them up until recently this year). Of those 25 dates, I probably went out on second dates with 5 of them. Of those 5, I've had a relationship with one which is actually someone I'm with right now. I've gone out with people who looked nothing like their picture, people into voodoo, other religious fanatics, girls with baby momma drama, career students, serial texters, people STILL in a relationship with someone else and a few other winners. The biggest thing is that people can represent themselves as whatever they want to be. So issues that you would see right away with someone you meet in person now occur in a date setting which probably shouldn't have occured anyway. So based upon my #'s you have a 1.3% chance of meeting someone worthwhile online. If you compare this to people I've met in person I probably had between 20-30 times more of a success rate, so that's always the best option. exactly! well put... when it comes to online dating, my motto is "quantity over quality!"
confusedmuch Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I've gone on probably 10-12 dates off of pof alone. Of them, only 2 were even close to being a keeper. One of them turned out to be a religious fanatic (and I mean FANATIC) and the other was still a bad boy who thought he was ready for a relationship but really wasn't... So I took down my pof profile and would only consider putting it back up if I was a cold hearted bitch who was just looking for one night stands.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I started this whole online dating thing about 6 weeks ago. I've been out with about 10 guys. Some have been tragic, some have been good, but I haven't felt the spark, and just ONE leaves me all giddy. I'm sure by the end of the process I'll have a new boyfriend. It takes a lot to scare me or make me all jaded and cynical. I can see how online dating isn't for the faint of heart. It's a lot of rejecting people and being rejected in return. My thought is nothing ventured, nothing gained.
sagetalk Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Your gender makes a big difference. If you're a guy, good luck, you're gonna need it. If you're a girl, and you are remotely attractive, you are gonna get flooded with messages. Be very careful with guys who have sexually aggressive profiles, or chat/message you in that manner. There are nut jobs on those sites as well as decent guys.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I've met people in the past- 2 that stand out as making the experience worth it. I agree with others, don't use it as your only tool. I have a large friend circle- but they are all couples, some with kids. Most social gatherings include intimate gatherings at someone's house, so meeting single guys is harder than it used to be when we went out much more often. That is why I like online dating. Give the online dating a try! Just be cautious and screen people before you meet them. I had some scary dates in the beginning when I was more naive about meeting up with someone.
tincanman99 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 Your experience ultimately depends 2 things IMO. Your gender and you. I did them a few years ago when they were better IMO. Now there are lots of issues. If you are a 1/2 way attractive female you will be saturated with hundreds of guys with many just looking to hook up and have sex. Because of the volume of emails, women have a hard time weeding them out. Women initially will be flattered by all the attention and its good for the ego but the sheer volumen of flakes and freaks makes it tough. For guys you have a couple of things going against you. The sheer volumen of guys versus women. Dont let anybody kid you, there are far more men on these sites than women. So it makes for a buyers market for the women. Getting yourself noticed is 1/2 the battle. Typically women will not respond to you for a variety of reasons including the volume of emails, they dont like what you wrote, what you look like or anything else for that matter. Ever submit your resume on a job that was posted online? Well its basically the same thing. For women hundreds (it not thousands) of men are applying for the job of boyfriend. Than there is the problem that all the dating web sites dont like to talk about which is FAKE profiles. There are tons and tons of fake profiles of women. These are done by scammers for a variety of reasons. In the last few years the scammers have dramatically entered the dating web sites. The sheer volume of them is incredible. Realize the dating web sites are there to make money. They will do anything to keep you paying. I have read many stories about guys sending emails to hundreds of women without a single response and than a few days just before their subscription runs out an attractive woman contacts them. Of course the guy signs up again and so the cycle continues. I think you are better off joining some clubs or going to classes or even bars than the dating web sites. They can get pretty expensive after a while. Some charge as much as $25/month. Good luck.
Crazy Magnet Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 If you are a 1/2 way attractive female you will be saturated with hundreds of guys with many just looking to hook up and have sex. Because of the volume of emails, women have a hard time weeding them out. Women initially will be flattered by all the attention and its good for the ego but the sheer volumen of flakes and freaks makes it tough. Yep, that. I have found most guys try to get in my pants a lot sooner. Hilarious that they don't think I'm smart enough to figure them out. Still though, I get to go a lot of fun places around town. My thought is the sheer volume of guys will eventually lead to a genuine one. In the mean time, I shall beat off their sexual advances with a stick and continue to hope for the best.
EnglishMuffin Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Met on Eharmony. I contacted him first. He did not respond at first for he did not think I was his type, from looking at my profile. Nudged him a few weeks later without expecting him to respond, I had nothing to lose anyway. Somehow he responded, and a month and a half later we met up for tea. He kissed me on the second date. Dated for two months. He asked me to be his girlfriend on the New Year's day. Cannot say what are our futures, but so far so good However, I don't endorse eharmony. Had only four guys who reached the emailing stage, had only two actual dates, for a month of use, out of 350+ matches. And I ran out of matches after a month.
b52s Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I am thinking about doing the online dating thing. I was just curious about other peoples experiences. Were you or someone you know able to find someone to have a meeningful relationship with, through online dating. Thanks Oh man, dont' get me started....I had been doing online dating when the PAID sites were free (Remember Love.aol.com...that was absorbed by Match.com) And American singles used to be free. THis all during the dial up days. What's sad is, even until this day, I have still seen the same chronically single women (their faces) till this VERY DAY. lol. And of course, I had emailed these women already, only to be ignored, and I find it funny that they're still on here, some currently expressing their frustration at online dating and the "kind of guys" they've been meeting right in their profile. I was thinking, "Hey, if you didn't turn me down for coffee, we could've had something great, but you blew it!" I don't do online dating as MUCH as I used to, don't pay for it, and kind of dabble on the free sites. There's been times where I got sick of the, "Well, I'm not ready to meet just yet or give out my #" after a couple of weeks of chatting. Got sick of that. And....when you do (as a guy) FINALLY land a woman who ANSWERS you and talks to you.....you'll run into this..... Even got stood up and it's great when they say, "Well, I was trying to get a hold of you" when they never made the attempt, it's amazing the kinds of excuses they come up with. Or typically canceling at the last minute, because "something came up" It's kinda funny, I met this single gal online....and I contacted her, and we talked back and forth. I asked for her #, to go out on Friday and she said, "Well, I don't know what I got going on this weekend, so give me your number and I'll call you" A whole week goes by....hadn't heard from her....figured she wasn't interested......then like right on Fri night, she calls me up......says if I got any plans....and I go, "Nope" And she says, "Would you like to go out" Apparently she was sick that day, but finally "got better" at the END of the day....weird, huh? Anyhow, I go to show up at the venue....probably like 15 mins early....we were suppose to meet ON the hour.....and it goes 15 mins past the hour, I call her on her cell. Goes to voice mail I wait another 15 mins....I do the same thing again, it goes to Voicemail...I left TWO voicemails on her phone. Then, she has audacity to "TEXT" me saying something came up and she couldn't make it. She's so pathetic, she doesn't have the nerve to talk to me verbally, but she has to TEXT me to stand me up . Unreal. So that's what you ahve hto deal with...to summarize. 1. Email back and forth then you realize your just a pen pal 2. You finally DO get a woman to go out with you, and she pulls some crap
Crazy Magnet Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 Oh, I forgot to mention I've had two friends get married off eHarmony. One a few years ago, one got engaged this past summer and is planning a wedding for summer 2010. Another one of my good friends has been with her current bf for a year, they met online. Yeah, success is possible.
ladyjane83 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 im dating someone from online. only had 2 dates so far though. My freind met her bf on POF and they have been together 6 months..never seen her so happy or in love. My sisters friend met someone on Match who since move over to our city and they have bought a place together. My friends dad met his new wife online too. So yeah, it does work
pandagirl Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I'm no online dating veteran, but I've had pretty good luck. I've met nine guys through sites over the last five years (yeah, I said I'm not that active on these site!). I hit it off with three guys, all very short term things, but fun none the less. The guy I'm seeing now is one of these guys!
MyNameIsJonas Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 I've been through the match gauntlet twice: once for a month, then again for three (they lured me with a 20% off discount). I've been on a number of "meetups," since I don't consider the first date a real "date," and a few have graduated to a second date. None have progressed further than that. I intended to use match as a way of meeting new people since a lot of my friends have left the area for various reasons (school, work, etc). Plus I think trying to meet anyone at a bar or a club is wasted energy, at least in my area. I really have no problem with the service. I've just had the misfortune of running across a lot of women who insist on playing the same stupid games that they would play if the online element didn't exist. I have little patience for a woman who has that mentality so I normally cut it off and walk away if I sense I'm being played. This, unfortunately, has happened a lot recently and doesn't make me want to put down the extra $$ for additional months of service.
xxxheartbrokenxxx Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I met my wonderful boyfriend online and feel so happy and blessed right now! So yes, it can definately work.
Star Gazer Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I did, and very happy! 1+ year and goin' strong!
Holding-On Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Yes. I met someone too. I've been on about 5 dates in the last 7 months. Good luck. Though I think if you are single looking for a traditional sort of relationship, real life is probably better.
stevejohnson1976 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 i've 'met' plenty. dated 6 girls in 5 weeks, 2 made it to a 2nd date - jury is still out on those 2..... ask me in a couple months if anything came of it, because im HIGHLY doubting it will. back to the drawing boards....
alphamale Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 I am thinking about doing the online dating thing. I was just curious about other peoples experiences. Were you or someone you know able to find someone to have a meeningful relationship with, through online dating. i found a bunch of chicks for casual sex but no LTRs...i have not done online in at least 5 or 6 yrs
sb129 Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 As said in the other thread- met my husband online, we celebrated our one year wedding anniversary yesterday and we have a 2.5 month old baby girl (a honeymoon baby!) Very happy, the dating site joining fee was the best 5 quid I ever spent!
bwidger Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Oh man, dont' get me started....I had been doing online dating when the PAID sites were free (Remember Love.aol.com...that was absorbed by Match.com) And American singles used to be free. THis all during the dial up days. What's sad is, even until this day, I have still seen the same chronically single women (their faces) till this VERY DAY. lol. And of course, I had emailed these women already, only to be ignored, and I find it funny that they're still on here, some currently expressing their frustration at online dating and the "kind of guys" they've been meeting right in their profile. I was thinking, "Hey, if you didn't turn me down for coffee, we could've had something great, but you blew it!" I don't do online dating as MUCH as I used to, don't pay for it, and kind of dabble on the free sites. There's been times where I got sick of the, "Well, I'm not ready to meet just yet or give out my #" after a couple of weeks of chatting. Got sick of that. And....when you do (as a guy) FINALLY land a woman who ANSWERS you and talks to you.....you'll run into this..... Even got stood up and it's great when they say, "Well, I was trying to get a hold of you" when they never made the attempt, it's amazing the kinds of excuses they come up with. Or typically canceling at the last minute, because "something came up" It's kinda funny, I met this single gal online....and I contacted her, and we talked back and forth. I asked for her #, to go out on Friday and she said, "Well, I don't know what I got going on this weekend, so give me your number and I'll call you" A whole week goes by....hadn't heard from her....figured she wasn't interested......then like right on Fri night, she calls me up......says if I got any plans....and I go, "Nope" And she says, "Would you like to go out" Apparently she was sick that day, but finally "got better" at the END of the day....weird, huh? Anyhow, I go to show up at the venue....probably like 15 mins early....we were suppose to meet ON the hour.....and it goes 15 mins past the hour, I call her on her cell. Goes to voice mail I wait another 15 mins....I do the same thing again, it goes to Voicemail...I left TWO voicemails on her phone. Then, she has audacity to "TEXT" me saying something came up and she couldn't make it. She's so pathetic, she doesn't have the nerve to talk to me verbally, but she has to TEXT me to stand me up . Unreal. So that's what you ahve hto deal with...to summarize. 1. Email back and forth then you realize your just a pen pal 2. You finally DO get a woman to go out with you, and she pulls some crap Dude, wtf? There is no ****ing hope! Jesus, is dating like an impossible thing to do for guys or what!?
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