bwidger Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 What is a healthy way to go about dating someone who is dating multiple people? How can I look at it so that if rejection does occur, or if I'm not picked from the bunch, it won't hurt me so much? Any good ideas or things I should consider -- anything? I realize it's a high probability I may not get picked if a girl is dating multiples so how does one prepare him/herself for this type of situation? What should I accept/man-up to?
sumdude Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 What is a healthy way to go about dating someone who is dating multiple people? How can I look at it so that if rejection does occur, or if I'm not picked from the bunch, it won't hurt me so much? Any good ideas or things I should consider -- anything? I realize it's a high probability I may not get picked if a girl is dating multiples so how does one prepare him/herself for this type of situation? What should I accept/man-up to? Well I've made a decision that 2010 I will try multi dating myself. So that's probably the best plan for you as well. The more options you have the better.
mansquito Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Unless you're totally not in to doing the juggling, the only way to have any kind of a level playing field is to date multiples yourself, and to quit worrying about being "picked" by any of them. This strategy may have the added of advantage of making you more attractive the one ones you really like. Some women judge men by the other women he dates.
carhill Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 OP, it's just rejection. It doesn't matter what the 'reason' is. Deal with it as that. If you go in with the mindset you'll be rejected, you're halfway to rejection. Why promote such a negative? Numbers lessen the potential and the emotional component, IME. More options equals a bigger smile on one's face, regardless of rejection. Life goes on
meerkat stew Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Some women judge men by the other women he dates. This is so true, or more specifically, some women judge men by the fact that he is dating other women, and this has never turned out badly in my experience. They may claim not to like it, but it adds to your social value immensely. They get uncomfortable when they come across a guy with the same options they have. Uncomfortable woman = woman who is challenged and not bored, always a positive in creating attraction.
Author bwidger Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 I still think if a girl likes you because other people like you then that's a red flag and she has issues. I mean, come on guys, think about it... You may argue that men like the women that most men like. Well, if a girl is hot but annoys me or has the personality of a 5 year old then of course I'm not going to want her...
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