thatguy100 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I have looking around on this website, and well it gave me a few idea's for how to deal with my situation. I had dated a girl for a year and a quarter, she broke up with me 2 months ago, tired being friends but we constantly talked about the past and the relationship, it has only been just recently where I have stopped talking to her about the relationship to her. Because I realized that I was doing no good (Its been 2 weeks since we talked about it). I have decided to go with NC, because I need to get my thoughts straight, I am currently on day 5, and wow it has been tough going this far without talking to her. But I have to say I have been having fun and enjoying myself, but I find myself thinking about her. I have started to do different things, stuff which I usually would not do just trying different things. But again she still is on my mind, I am fine if she goes out and date another guy like I won't stay home and cry, I will just go out and live my life. I just don't know, she was my first serious relationship. Like apart of me wants her back and to try and win her back, but the other part of me just wants to let her go because it was her choice not to be with me anymore, yes certain things did happen between us but ... she wants to be friends and maybe if she see's what she is missing she might come back. I don't know what are some suggestions?
J dub Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 She already knows what she is "missing". The only missing that should be happening right now, is her "missing" you in her life, ie: fall off the face as she knows it. If anything, its something you havent tried yet and you know what they say about insanity...
Malenfant Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I have looking around on this website, and well it gave me a few idea's for how to deal with my situation. I had dated a girl for a year and a quarter, she broke up with me 2 months ago, tired being friends but we constantly talked about the past and the relationship, it has only been just recently where I have stopped talking to her about the relationship to her. Because I realized that I was doing no good (Its been 2 weeks since we talked about it). I have decided to go with NC, because I need to get my thoughts straight, I am currently on day 5, and wow it has been tough going this far without talking to her. But I have to say I have been having fun and enjoying myself, but I find myself thinking about her. I have started to do different things, stuff which I usually would not do just trying different things. But again she still is on my mind, I am fine if she goes out and date another guy like I won't stay home and cry, I will just go out and live my life. I just don't know, she was my first serious relationship. Like apart of me wants her back and to try and win her back, but the other part of me just wants to let her go because it was her choice not to be with me anymore, yes certain things did happen between us but ... she wants to be friends and maybe if she see's what she is missing she might come back. I don't know what are some suggestions? i think considering it was your first serious relationship you're handling it very well. 5 days isnt long, and its totally natural to still be thinking about her. be prepared for that to continue. it doesnt mean you cant get over it, just that these things take time. true, she may come back, but remember, the relationship ended, for whatever reason. if you did give it another go, chances are it could end up the same. you're getting on fine, just take each day at a time and soon you'll find you're thinking about her less. you're doing 100% the right thing by getting out and enjoying yourself.
Author thatguy100 Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 J_dub: That is what I am trying to do. Malenfant: Thanks, I know its not that long 5 days, but it feels like its been 2 weeks. "true, she may come back, but remember, the relationship ended, for whatever reason. if you did give it another go, chances are it could end up the same." I know that is what I worry about, and that is why I have gone with NC because I need the time to get some space between us, to accept the facts, to get myself back to who I am, to try and enjoy single life, I know what happened between us, where the relationship did fall apart, and why she left me. If she does ever find out I am posting on here ... I still do care about you and I trust your words a lot.
Author thatguy100 Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 true, she may come back, but remember, the relationship ended, for whatever reason. if you did give it another go, chances are it could end up the same. I just need to say ... if she came back to me ... I know our relationship would be different in some ways, but I would take the chance, because we only live once, you never know what will happen, she did nothing wrong, our relationship ended on good terms so to say, I was emotionally unstable at the time because what I had been dealing with, but I have gone past the issues I had and understood how to deal with certain emotions better. I also just need this month to my self to go out and try different things, improve my self. Its just I need to be without her in my life for that period, its not to be mean, honestly it will give both of us time apart to think to do anything we want without having the other person there, for say, like it will give us both perspective.
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