keisha2412 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Okay, so it's been 3 months since my ex broke up with me, and it's been 1 month of NC. We were together for 2 years but left me for another woman who he is still with. I don't want to be back with him, but I can't seem to stop thinking about him every day. I miss him, I feel the need to call him and talk to him, I still love him. I HATE feeling this way! I just want it to stop. I want to be over him! Why does it still hurt so bad, like it just happened yesterday. Shouldn't it be getting better by now! I hate that I still care, he's moved on and I'm trying so hard to move on too. I know it varies for each person, but is there a ballpark time frame when the hurting finally stops and you are able to go through the day without thinking about the ex? PLEASE tell me it will get better....
HLP234 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I have heard that it will get better, we are all in the same phase. My ex left me for no reason because she figured she needed time to get her head straight. But you need to get out and do other things, sitting inside won't help. I have been hanging out with friends, trying to do what I did before I was in a relationship so that kind of helps. The thoughts and stuff are always still there because I love her and still have feelings for her, but I have noticed it does seem to get better if you tell yourself you need to move on. You just have to keep busy, meet new people, and go out as much as possible so you are not stuck wondering about them.
HLP234 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 But sometimes even after so long if you still have feelings for them and you go and talk to them..if they don't have the same feelings you can't just get back together because one of you is feeling miserable. Usually if you left them, and still have feelings after a while than I would get in contact with them to let them know. That way you have at least tried and given your last shot so no regrets. But if they left you and you still have feelings than its harder..because even though you may be mad or upset with them..you will still miss them and love them. So if you contact them it will look like you are desperate and most of the time if they have left you, changing their mind is tough.
Heartbrokenandinlove Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 This is a tough one. I guess it depends on whether you REALLY want it it end or not? For me, I broke up with my ex and stayed away for six months. At first I was fine, I kept myself very busy. However, a few months into it, I was missing her like crazy. Every song and every movie reminded me of her and us. I kept waiting for the pain and longing to go away - it never did. That's when I realized, deep down I wanted her back. I called and we talked and talked and talked. Amazingly after a six month separation we were able to rekindle our relationship. If you really want it to end, try to keep yourself busy - learn a new language or take a second job. Or maybe you should date other people to restore your confidence. If after all that, you still feel lingering pain, and desire for him, you may have unresolved issues of wanting to give your relationship one last try. Kind of me is hoping for this to happen with me and my Ex - does it work? can you get over the pain of separation?
hrtbrk hotel tenant Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 yo itz been 6 months and my ex already has another man..i am extremely hurt and itz gonna no doubt about that but it will slowly lessen i dont know if i will ever really get over my ex we were together for 3yrs and she left abruptly. just stay busy and live life...
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