monkey00 Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 So anyway this girl I've been seeing just returned to the city after being gone 2 weeks visiting her family. We had a nice chat and we both have plans for NYE, though I didn't really include her in my plans/invite her. And neither did she. But nonetheless we're both going to separate parties. Since we both had plans on NYE, we scheduled for a date on Saturday instead. Although I would like to have a date for NYE, it's fine either way if I don't. Would it be too abrupt to ask her to be my date when I talk to her tomorrow? I get the vibe that she would decline because she's declined other similar invites a couple of weeks ago, if she already has plans made. She doesn't seem to type to drop plans for me.
MyNameIsJonas Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I would just let her do her thing, then go out with her sometime over the weekend or something. By what you have described, she appears to want to go through with her own plans, and suggesting that she change/cancel those plans for your personal benefit may upset her.
Author monkey00 Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 (edited) I would just let her do her thing, then go out with her sometime over the weekend or something. By what you have described, she appears to want to go through with her own plans, and suggesting that she change/cancel those plans for your personal benefit may upset her. You do make a valid point. A part of me feels like I'm doing some kind of injustice by not asking her to join me on NYE, seriously who wants to not be with someone on that night? However I was the one that brought it up and asked if she had plans for NYE - she did and told me what her plans were. If she left an opening such as not having plans, or being undecided then I would've jumped the gun and would've been more inclined to invite her. I pretty much said "Well since we both have plans for NYE, how about we get together this Saturday?" And so we scheduled for this weekend to hangout. I think going backwards on my word would likely upset her and even come off as selfish on my end as you said. However it would also be messed up if she me some other guy or another dude asked her to be his date on NYE, then I would be annoyed. Edited December 31, 2009 by monkey00
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