2much4-1person Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 OK like ima try to make this long story short. Im in a realtionship of 3 years now we have a daughter of a year and well lets jst say days could be better. I really dont have any complains with my boyfriends its jst that he dont trust me. Well i never had any intentions on cheating on him bt when I started thinkin about an ex of mine i ws so ditermened to get ahold of him. The reason we broke up was because the guy that i was talking to was getting out of jail and i didnt want no problems between them for the simple fact that they ar in the same gang. Now its been 4 years since i last talked to my ex. Now that ive got ahold of him ive found out that he also has a daughter and hes going out wit someone that i sure ass hell dont approve of, shes always wit other random guys. So i told him about and well they broke up and i was happy about it. Now we hung out and all u knw we would talk and talk and talk for hours text each other like we were going out. Now we decided that nothing would happen because of the fact that we were bother in a very wierd relationship's. No one knew about us i mean no one we were wat u can say secret lovers. Now i never cheated on my man and well i wasnt gonna start bt what started happenig what that i started having all these feelings agoing and well i couldnt hide them. But i ws still determinded to do nothing. I love our relationship cause its was good. Untill well idk we jst u knw and well after that it was like i did something super bad to him like key'd his car or slashed his tiers or something. Now its been about 2 months since ive last talked to him he changed his number and everything. Im confused about it. Well now all i can do is jst drive by his house think about him all day everyday and well ive even had dreams about him and i dont jst mean a dream here and there its everyday. Sometimes i have to catch myself before i talk to my boyfriend so i dont say something that shoulnd be said. So idk what i should do. i need some advice!
FryFish Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 So you cheated on your Boyfriend, whom you have a kid with, with an ex and now you obcess over the person you cheated with and you dont want to tell your boyfriend? What should you do? Start by rereading and retyping your first post because its barely legible.
Javelin Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 What should you do? Start by rereading and retyping your first post because its barely legible. While I'm no journalist, I'll have to agree with FryFish... Your post is atrocious.
lostsunsets Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Your ex just figured you out. You're a cheater. And he knows that if he got with you, you would cheat on him too. Thank goodness your boyfriend isn't marrying you.
Author 2much4-1person Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 Well let me jst say that i had to type it real fast since im at work. Let me jst say that im not trien to think about him. I dont see it as a bad thing for the simple fact that it was done out of passion. My boyfriend dont trust me for the simple fact that he knows that guys are always looking my way. It not my fault and well lets jst say that its a mistake that im trien to forget.
Bryanp Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 How would you feel if your boyfriend was doing to you what you have been doing to him? How would you feel if your boyfriend has a secret love affair and did not feel bad about it because it was done out of passion? You have no respect for your boyfriend and your relationship. Does your boyfriend really deserve this?
Author 2much4-1person Posted January 2, 2010 Author Posted January 2, 2010 Well ok i understand everything that everyone is sayng. Bt let me jst say this the only reason my boyfriends is ever nice to me is to have SEX other than that its jst like any order lame ass marriage, and were not even married. Im what 22 and hes 20 we dont do nothing we stay home every damb day of our lifes. We dont hang out with none of our friends and none of our friends really want to hang with us. This is sad and for a person that has always been around her peers its kindda depressing. Im not allowed to be more than 5 min to be late geting home from work cause then im ***ing someone...... Im not allowed to talk to none of my friends or let alone hang out with them. I caint even go to the store with my sister with out him getting all possesive. I had never ever thought of cheating on him never but when he started doing things like suggestiong going out i ws getting suspecious for the simple fact that he never wants to go out. Then i realized why he wanted to go out. He would think that i wasnt looking while he was all over some other girl, n i knew he was thinking about her in that way cause she was hispanic and thats the only ethnicity hes really into. Now after that i was confused cause he never gave the inpression that he would do that to me for the simple fact that his father walked in on his mom with another man. So what was i going to do? Well lets jst say that he dosent trust me because he dosent trust him self........ I do feel bad for going somewere else for thelove and affection that i was suppose to get from him but he wasnt whilling. I didnt go at my ex in the chance of having something with i was just looking for my old friend and its not like we ***ed right awayit took like what 4 or 5 months after u knw n well its was only once and once only. Now can someone please tell me what im suppose to do about this situation that i caint stop thinking about him. Its not like i love him or need him or nothing like that i jst caint seem to stop thinking about him. In a way im very supersticious and well hes greek and well they have been known to mess with peoples dreams so idk if im jst been idk over exaggerating or idk!
RedDevil66 Posted January 2, 2010 Posted January 2, 2010 you're very young so what you should do is take the focus on this young man, put the focus on you, your child and your future. You can't stop thinking about him simply because you're obsessed. It happens to the best of us. What is the one thing you can do TODAY to put the focus on you?
Author 2much4-1person Posted January 5, 2010 Author Posted January 5, 2010 Thank you for the advice bt i wish it would work its not that simple for some reason. I do focus on my daughter and my self but like everyone else in this coutry works is number on priority besideds my daughter but its jst every once and awhile that im not doing anything like a min. break and there he is in my head. So i just try to ignore it and all bt u knw later on it jst happens again. I even had a dream that he didnt want me but i still left my boyfriend for him. Now thats just not right, i knw how dreams work an all im not some immature lil girl and i knw the only way to stop dreaming about him is to stop thinking about him. But how can i when i dont even notice sometimes. Idk i guess i jst need someone to tell this to cause i feel like its eating my up inside..... Thank you everyone for the comments, even though some werent nicebut they were the truth.
boogieboy Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 You have emotionally checked out of you relationship. Your bf can sense this. He knows you arent really in love with him anymore, thats why he doesnty trust you all of a sudden. What you need to do is admit that you arent happy, you dont want to make it work, or he doesnt, and you need to break up with your boyfriend. Not necessarily for the ex youre fantasizing about, but to find someone else that you will be happy with. You dont really want to stop obsessing about your ex, so you might as well give him a try. (after you break up with your BF). You enjoy thinking about your ex, make it happen. Youre 22, theres no reason to stay in a committed relationship unhappy at your age.
JustLooking123 Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I'm impressed that you guys can read and interpret her posts; I got a line or two into each post then gave up.
lostsunsets Posted January 7, 2010 Posted January 7, 2010 Obviously, your bf is completely justified in not trusting you. I mean you did your ex. And now you actually talk like its your bfs issue here.
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