Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 The word keeps spinning round my head. It's stuck but it doesn't feel right to let it out... nor does it feel right for it to go unsaid. Does it ever go away?
skywriter Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 I'm (((sorry))) hazy, but I'll have to get back to you, when I've made it there.
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 Thanks Sky. The to-ing and fro-ing of the 'have to try NC' messages don't really leave much room for it. I know I have said it... in the past, but this time I didn't and ironically it's the only time I've actually believed it is.
hopeless4u Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Just thinking it reduces me to tears....again!!
NEVERINTENDEDTHIS Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 I have been on LC since my initial post and I feel like I'm drowning. I haven't said the "goodbye" yet but I'm like you I feel it deep down this is truly goodbye. I'm so glad to have found this site to see that I'm not abnormal and everyone else is going through the same things. It's one of the worst pains to go through is the end of an A. Hugs to everyone!!
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 LC is horrible because it's like waiting for the 'goodbye', and in some respects that's worse - as if waiting for an infection to pass. Hugs to you too, NIT. I can't say it though. I'll have to just keep it with me and hope that I soon start thinking of something else.
stampdaddy Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 why do we have to be so "dramatic" about it? (and remember, I have been there, writing poetry, love letters, chalk boards, etc..) But why? What's the point? Did you say "goodbye" to the boyfriends in school as a teen? Did you say "goodbye" to a friend that used to be your "bestfriend" that you havent talked to in years because you moved away? Why do you "need" to say goodbye? C'mon girls, let's do this thang!!! Say goodbye to heartbreak! Say goodbye to feeling like sh*t! Say goodbye to being unhappy! Say goodbye to anxiety! andn tomorrow, say goodbye to ME..... So, let's have a GREAT DAY TODAY!
NEVERINTENDEDTHIS Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Hazyhead you are so correct in that. The LC only keeps the pain the thoughts the everything of the affair still alive even though I know it's not. I feel so weak when it comes to my xMM. There are days I just want to wake up and prentend this never happened. But it did and I have to move forward. Goodbye would be a final word I think maybe I need to hear. Thank you for your reply! Hugs to you.
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 I'm bumming everyone out aren't I? I think the need to say 'goodbye' might come from not being ready to let go. But at the same time... I don't want to be miserable anymore! But I don't know how to say goodbye to that either! God, how tragic
skywriter Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Not saying goodbye to ya Stampdaddy... Hmmmm...I'm thinking someone said something about stalking???? We'll follow you around and haunt you....... Boo!
Confused4Now Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 why do we have to be so "dramatic" about it? (and remember, I have been there, writing poetry, love letters, chalk boards, etc..) But why? What's the point? Did you say "goodbye" to the boyfriends in school as a teen? Did you say "goodbye" to a friend that used to be your "bestfriend" that you havent talked to in years because you moved away? Why do you "need" to say goodbye? C'mon girls, let's do this thang!!! Say goodbye to heartbreak! Say goodbye to feeling like sh*t! Say goodbye to being unhappy! Say goodbye to anxiety! andn tomorrow, say goodbye to ME..... So, let's have a GREAT DAY TODAY! Seriously you make me laugh all the time SD!!! I'm with you.....just walk away you don't have to say Goodbye I mean do they really deserve it? I mean they've disrespect you all this time and you want to give them a formal Good bye? Puhlease....say Good bye in you heart and walk away....
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 F*** this misery! This isn't me. I'm a happy person. I am! Right... how to get the happy back... I'm gonna think on it and be back... Any suggestions? :-/
GreenEyedLady Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Come on people: TAKE YOUR POWER BACK! FIND YOURSELF! Stop the pity parties, it's really quite unattractive. How do you say you goodbye? Shoulders back, head up, mouth open, voice clear. It really is quite easy. You know when it is time for goodbye. Then simply choose your method: over the phone, email, text, whatever is your method for contact. And then do it. No: only if you weren't married, I love you so much, if I had met you before you met her, NONE OF THAT> Maybe all things come to an end and this is the end. Don't give these men power over you, take it back. No one wants to end up with a doormat. Maybe if you raise your expectations, they might rise to it. And if they don't, someone else will. They really aren't the end all, be all. GEL
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 They really aren't the end all, be all. GEL Thanks GEL - you're right.
stampdaddy Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 I sounded just like RICHARD SIMMONS..... **in my gay voice** "c'mon ladies, let's do this thang!! Say goodbye to laziness, say goodbye to fast food, say goodbye to soap operas and SAY GOODBYE TO FAT!! YES!! C'MON, LET'S DO IT.... ONE,TWO, THREE, WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE"
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 I'm English and even I know who he is! Brilliant. I'm imagining you as him now SD and everything you say from now on will be accompanied in my head by your huge grin and ginormous hair bouncing up and down through star jumps. Hey! There's the happy!
hopeless4u Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 I sounded just like RICHARD SIMMONS..... **in my gay voice** "c'mon ladies, let's do this thang!! Say goodbye to laziness, say goodbye to fast food, say goodbye to soap operas and SAY GOODBYE TO FAT!! YES!! C'MON, LET'S DO IT.... ONE,TWO, THREE, WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE" Ha Ha!! You're the MAN!! You got my smiling again!!
stampdaddy Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 This outta help you get through the day... Just keep replaying it when you seem a little blue
Author Hazyhead Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 This outta help you get through the day... Just keep replaying it when you seem a little blue I'm still laughing Is it bad that it warms my heart when he says that he loves me?
WhereToGoFromHere Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Good bye is really hard. I haven't been able to say it either. SD will tell me to "grow a pair", just watch. I think SD needs a ((HUG)) more than all of us.
WhereToGoFromHere Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 This outta help you get through the day... Just keep replaying it when you seem a little blue Yeah, now thats funny !!! That will help!
summerautumn Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 This outta help you get through the day... Just keep replaying it when you seem a little blue LMAO, Nice!!! You got me watching Richard Simmons on youtube. Here's another one - when in doubt, breakdance!
Fallen Angel Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 This outta help you get through the day... Just keep replaying it when you seem a little blue I swear I am making that my new homepage!!! So everytime I go to log in to see if MM has sent me a new email, IM whatever, i see that another man CAN love me!! I LOVE YOU, TOO, RICHARD!!!!!
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