Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 I've actually managed 3 days of NC as I haven't contacted him since we met on sunday
Author HeavenOrHell Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 Can I just say a huge heartfelt thanks to all of you for your support, today would have been a million times harder without you
mickleb Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 I've actually managed 3 days of NC as I haven't contacted him since we met on sunday This kind of post is all the thanks we need, hon. x
Taucher Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 I have lost count of how many days NC I have gone now. She has emailed me and I bumped into her (tried to walk away but she called me). I still love her, seven months after she left. But NC is quite a precious thing. I value my dignity and like the way I have handled this. It was hard at the start but does get easier. I did the begging thing at the beginning - she knows how I feel. Now, NC is all I have and it feels kind of good - like I am doing the right thing. There are no games; this is what is best for me. Same for you too I think. Take care T
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) Well I'm hopeless, he came for dinner tonight. And you know I thought he sounded a bit unsettled 2 weeks ago when he was persistently asking me about who I'd met lately and I'd hoped he was a bit jealous, well we had a lovely eve tonight and I was feeling happy, until he left and he said it was good to see your fb status recently the one about looking forward to cuddles (I'd put something like looking forward to new beginnings, excitement and cuddles-I don't know who with but it's a nice thought), and my heart sank as it sounds like he would be happy if I met someone doesn't it? And I was holding a letter from a friend and he said that's not for me is it, (as in not another heartfelt letter, although I've only sent 2 since we split 5 months ago, the last one was 2 weeks ago), so I thought god he really hopes I'm over all that. Crushed. But, I also have a inkling somehow that I will be able to be friends with him, I could be wrong and it might be that I wont be able to fall for anyone else if I still see him, but for now at least I want to give it a try. That could change tomorrow. Edited January 3, 2010 by HeavenOrHell
Author HeavenOrHell Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 Can't stop crying, again. I just can't cope with this anymore. Of course he wouldn't want me back, who in the f*** would want me.
GrayClouds Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 The title of this thread: NC starts now I really hope you do .
curiousnycgirl Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 HOH - you need to be happy with you first, regardless of anyone else wanting you - how do YOU feel about YOU? Now is the time to focus on YOU, and only YOU. Time to heal which as you know means NC. Do it for YOU because YOU are so worth it! Peace
sedgwick Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 (edited) his new woman friend (probably just a friend but how do I know) on fb is the last straw. Why on earth would you still be looking at his fb? I haven't looked at ANYTHING on the web about my ex since he left me 2.5 years ago. I know it would hurt too much and choose not to do that to myself. I hope you will make the same choice. put some slap on, Nobmagnet (best username ever), as an American, I love reading your slang! What does this one mean? Edited January 3, 2010 by sedgwick
Howitzer Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Can't stop crying, again. I just can't cope with this anymore. Of course he wouldn't want me back, who in the f*** would want me. HeavenOrHell, think of all the encouraging things you've said to many members on this forum. Think about how you've left them feeling better. You need to apply this to yourself now. You WILL get over this. You WILL find someone else. You WILL find happiness again. We're all in the same boat here. Unless you think we're all going to sink, you'll find happiness eventually. One last thing: You survived five or so months without him right? You can do this.
TaraMaiden Posted January 3, 2010 Posted January 3, 2010 Nobmagnet (best username ever), as an American, I love reading your slang! What does this one mean? Yup, that name is cool....! 'Slap' is slang for make-up..... you slap on the foundation, slap on a bit of blusher, slap on the eye shadow.... All in a 'devil-may-care' attitude...look at me, ain't I the hottest? just 'put some slap on'....
mickleb Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 HoH YOU are in the driving seat here. And YOU are driving yourself crazy. If you want to carry on feeling like this, carry on doing exactly what you're doing. What went through my mind when I read your post about how he was happy you were looking forward to cuddles? 'OWWWW'. That is a slap in the face and a very hard one but doesn't that mean it's time for self-preservation? What you are doing is NOT doing yourself ANY favours. No-one else is doing them for you, either, honey. So you better start. Quick. Playing games with him on New Year's Eve? Having dinner with him a couple of days later? Crying that he won't want you back when he's expressed how happy he is that you're moving on and how scary the thought of another heartfelt letter is from you? Bang. Bang. Bang. Show him, us and YOURSELF: that you are not some doormat. That you are in control. And that you're GOING to start taking that back. x
Howitzer Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 Ditto to mickleb. Be strong and fight through this.
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