am i the bad guy here?

[rakez]

hi guys i was just really confused on this situation...well actually many occasions where me and my gf of 5 years have fought about something and i just don;t know if i'm the right one or if she is and i just wanted to know a third persons view. i'm 21 and my gf is 20

 

well an example is actually what just happened today. i work at a department store and have finished a 5 hour shift from 7am-12pm. i am pretty tired after this shift as it was early in the morning and not a usual time i have work as i always have work in the afternoon/night. and my manager said that he wanted me to come in at 12am the next day and work till 8am to fix up the store as the store has been trashed from christmas. now i accepted reluctantly.

 

i called up my gf to tell her about the shift and she said she wanted to watch a movie tonight with me after her shift at work where she finished at 5 but i told her i'd probably be sleeping cause i am super tired + have a shift at 12am and i just need sleep. she got abit like "ohh...o.k why can't you just sleep straight after ur shift and pick me up at 5?" and i said that it wasnt enough time to sleep cause by the time i got home from the movie i wouldn't be able to sleep again and i need my sleep. like many of us i feel like **** if i don't have sleep and i ahve a 8 hour shift + being at 12am-8am makes it worse.

 

i told her i couldn't and said why don't i come and have lunch with you on her break so i can go home and sleep after that she said no thats ****. so pretty much i wanted her to explain that i was tired and needed rest but she really wanted me to come and pic her up. main reason was that she wanted to see me before new years cause after today she'd be with her family the whole time and one of the reason why i said i'd eat lunch with her.

 

and we had a bit of a fight because of me "wanting to sleep rather then see her". now you guys probably think thats pathetic...and so do i but thats my reality. although i don't know if i'm the one in the right or not? ebcause i try to compromise and she didn't liek it and i didn't get angry with her btu when i said no to what she wanted she got angry with me?

 

its been like this with alot of our fights. can some one shed some light on this.? thanks

[D-Lish]

Listen, there is nothing to justify here. You needed to sleep before your night shift. Your gf is acting selfish- plain and simple.

[Alimac]

Sounds like your gf is a tad on the selfish side . No way are you in the wrong, but you also said that you are doubting the two of you being together at all due to these petty arguments. The advice from this female ten years older than both of you is to either continue with her as if you aren't at all phased by her attitude, or sit her down and explain that the two of you may just not make it unless she grows up. That's brutal, I know, but you both are so young, it really breaks my heart to see people suffer for a relationship that may not make it...good luck! Maybe she'll grow up?