missmay Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Why is ex sex always such good sex? It annoys the hell out of me. This is the one last thing Im having problems letting go of.
LovelyDaze Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Why is ex sex always such good sex? It annoys the hell out of me. This is the one last thing Im having problems letting go of. OH NO! Don't have ex sex. It is a physical version of breaking NC. Talking to your ex is one thing after a breakup but hoping back into bed is another. Having sex with our ex has all the illusions that "all is forgiven" and whatever you broke up about...is squashed. No, it just makes it worse and even harder to let go. You obviously don't feel too good about it...you're posting on LS, right?
carolinawanderer Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Sex is either #1 or #2 on the things I miss about our relationship as well. Ex sex feels good because you're aware of what you're losing, and you know that "this could be the last time." Plus you want to hold onto them, making your affections and desire for them even stronger. Sex was always good with my ex, but after she dumped me, we had sex a few times and it was awesome. During our relationship, we could go a couple days without it, it did have a tendency to get mechanical sometimes. This is really common. If they're not going to take you back, stay away. If they're serious about leaving, they won't allow you to have sex with them for too much longer. After that last good time, my ex distanced herself from me quickly and what was left of our relationship deteriorated very fast. We're now on NC, and she's banging someone else down the street from me.
madrugada Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Oh, missmay, I'll agree with LovelyDaze on this one. I made an agreement with my ex that we would get back together for sex after she moved out, but it's an agreement I never honored because I realized it would be too hard. To move on, you have to give up on all that. Yeah, it's good. It's like gorging on all the great food you know is bad for you. Sure it's great while you're eating it but in the end it's not healthy. That piece of cake looks so good, and feels so good, but eventually, to borrow from Tom Robbins, it rots the teeth of the soul. Your best bet is to find someone to share yourself with who will make it a healthy meal. It's not easy, I know, but you deserve better.
HLP234 Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Its just that you have been emotionally and physically attached to the person and you got used to only being with them..so going back of course its going to feel good. Once our break started, we haven't had any sex although we both wanted to she didn't want it to confuse her since she needs space to figure herself out or watever..but she would do other stuff with me..which at all doesn't help me because its just teasing and giving false hope in a way. But if there is a complete drop in sex than that's pretty much when you know its going to end..I'd like to do that with my ex but she doesn't have sex with anyone she is not in a relationship which is probably why we haven't done it at all on our "break."
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