eca Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Hi, my boyfriend is away for a month for xmas. I still have contact with him, just not as often. We talk every 2-3 days, and I usually feel awkward during the convos, cause I feel like I'm taking up time when he could be with his family. (Which is why he's away) So, the conversations always get awkward, end on a bad note, and then we argue through texts. But even before he went away, we've always had petty arguments. For example, if skype drops a call, he'll assume it's me and get so mad. And when one of us is tired, so we're snappy with the other one. It's all small things, that probably wouldn't happen if we weren't in a long distance relationship. But, yesterday we had one of our stupid arguments. And, for once, I just didn't want to talk about it. (which i always do--straight away) I just left, and didn't respond to any of his texts, and he got madder and blah blah. But it felt good to just leave the house and not start crying over this dumb argument. So, I finally answered him and we talked it over and solved it as usual, but it's been a day..and I'm left with this feeling of something being wrong. He tells me he loves me all the time, and I'm pretty sure I believe him, it's just..I don't feel it anymore. He always says it, but things he does are just disrespectful towards me. For example, today he talked to multiple other girls on facebook, & i've told him this makes me jealous before. I didn't even mention it to him this time, cause i've told him before how it makes me feel, and yet he still did it today. I think I'm just confused. It's really, really hard on me when he's not at his own place, cause I feel like I can't be myself in the conversations in case his brother and friends, and parents, and relatives are listening. It's really hard, and I can't help but count down the days til hes back. The relationship is only 5 months old, very close to 6, and I'm jsut wondering if anyone else has arguments over really, really stupid things at this early of a stage in their relationship? I'm at my breaking point of not caring anymore, I just need to know if this relationship is worth it anymore? Or, I guess the fightings just going to continue isn't it?
Rollercoasterr Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Uh...no. It's not normal. You're 5 months in. Couples should NOT have problems like this 5 months in. The relationship is still so new. Too new to be fighting. Does no one go through the honeymoon stage anymore??? Geez, Mathew and I were moony over each other for at least a year. We still are, immigration just makes us crabby.
Phateless Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Hi, my boyfriend is away for a month for xmas. I still have contact with him, just not as often. We talk every 2-3 days, and I usually feel awkward during the convos, cause I feel like I'm taking up time when he could be with his family. (Which is why he's away) So, the conversations always get awkward, end on a bad note, and then we argue through texts. But even before he went away, we've always had petty arguments. For example, if skype drops a call, he'll assume it's me and get so mad. And when one of us is tired, so we're snappy with the other one. It's all small things, that probably wouldn't happen if we weren't in a long distance relationship. But, yesterday we had one of our stupid arguments. And, for once, I just didn't want to talk about it. (which i always do--straight away) I just left, and didn't respond to any of his texts, and he got madder and blah blah. But it felt good to just leave the house and not start crying over this dumb argument. So, I finally answered him and we talked it over and solved it as usual, but it's been a day..and I'm left with this feeling of something being wrong. He tells me he loves me all the time, and I'm pretty sure I believe him, it's just..I don't feel it anymore. He always says it, but things he does are just disrespectful towards me. For example, today he talked to multiple other girls on facebook, & i've told him this makes me jealous before. I didn't even mention it to him this time, cause i've told him before how it makes me feel, and yet he still did it today. I think I'm just confused. It's really, really hard on me when he's not at his own place, cause I feel like I can't be myself in the conversations in case his brother and friends, and parents, and relatives are listening. It's really hard, and I can't help but count down the days til hes back. The relationship is only 5 months old, very close to 6, and I'm jsut wondering if anyone else has arguments over really, really stupid things at this early of a stage in their relationship? I'm at my breaking point of not caring anymore, I just need to know if this relationship is worth it anymore? Or, I guess the fightings just going to continue isn't it? Controlling and jealous - who cares if he has female friends? He's with YOU, don't you trust him?! Insecure - Skype drops a call and he assumes you hung up on him? Psycho.... Insecure - you assume you're taking up his time instead of him wanting to talk to you - why put yourself through all of that? CHILL OUT. You guys both need to just calm the hell down and relax.
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