sally4sara Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Ad hominem, "your views and opinions are invalid because you suffer from histrionic personality disorder." She gets overly offended, but it wasn't because everyone wanted to offend her - it is because she struggles with reading comprehension (many do, but I'm sure it will offend her further) and thinks what she is reading is much, much more negative than anyone intended. It doesn't mean she has HPD. One can have histrionic tendencies without being HPD. And one can say someone else is histrionic without being a professional therapist. So what was said was more "I can't get my point across to you because you have more talent in being offended than you have in understanding what I type and it is getting exhausting. I give up." Hell, I'm starting to feel histrionic just reading YOUR posts. I'd send you a PM, but you are not capable yet. Isn't it weird that going off topic is a no no but not everyone can contact others to avoid it? Didn't read the other thread, but the above is a good example of a "tuo quoque" fallacy on your part. I really don't think my initial advise to her that she should decide for herself who she should date and not bother with the opinions of others had anything at all to do with getting even. But if you wish to take it that way - you obviously won't be the first in this thread. I DO think her telling me to get out of this thread to be "tuo quoque" or rather "Oh YEAH? Take THAT!" on her part though.
Author jw90063 Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 Boy oh boy, and I may potentially have some sort of personality disorder,as well as reading comprehension problems..... I honestly don't even know where you, Sally, came up with me not reading something correctly, because it's not being unreasonable to realize some of the posts could easily be taken offense to,especially after a certain amount of time. If you look back, I wasn't even that offended or defensive until later on in this thread. As far as comprehension issues, you must have a dilemma as well, because I never told you personally to get out of this thread. While I may have took offense to some of the comments provided, I believe there were other people who took offense way too easily to my thoughts on a male being a nurse. All I said was I may be hesitant to date a guy who does Nursing, and I find it a bit feminine, and it just seems odd. I tried to explain it the best I could. I think it's reasonable to understand, due to the fact that Nursing is in general known to be a feminine field. I also understand Nursing is a respectable field, and what not. Kind of obvious, a couple characters completed misinterpreted what I said and turned it into SHE DISRESPECTS THE FIELD OF NURSING, SHE WILL NOT DATE A GUY JUST BECAUSE OF THIS FACT.... And I'm overly sensitive, easily get offended, and lack comprehension skills. Happy New Years. My resolution is to use the ignore button more....
Chubbi Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 This thread is so funny lol No, I have no problem dating a male nurse.
Author jw90063 Posted December 31, 2009 Author Posted December 31, 2009 This thread is so funny lol No, I have no problem dating a male nurse. Just out of curiosity, have you dated a male nurse?
Chubbi Posted December 31, 2009 Posted December 31, 2009 Just out of curiosity, have you dated a male nurse? I'm the wrong person to ask. I haven't really dated anyone. I'm just saying I wouldn't mark a guy off because he's a nurse. In my family, that would be odd not the fact that he's a male nurse.
Throne Of Lies Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I'm guessing you haven't met a whole lot of corpsmen and medics in your life. Like Corpsman Fonseca, who won the Navy Cross. A Marine tank was knocked out in the middle of a bridge, he ran across the bridge, pulled out 5 Marines who where still alive, and dragged them back to the safe end of the bridge. While under withering machine gun, mortar, RPG, and anti-tank gun fire. Once they were on the other side he quickly stabilized two men with amputations, and administered advanced life support to the others, who were also terribly wounded. Or the Navy SEAL corpsman who won the Navy cross for killing 40+ terrorists personally and treating 4 other dying SEALs before he himself was killed defending and exposed mountain top, awaiting rescue. Really effeminate guys, definitely.
Pink Cupcakes Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 A year ago I visited my Grandma in the hospital after her hip surgery and the male nurse was cute! I wouldn't mind - nurses have to pass a rigorous course of study to get where they are. They have to have brains.
gypsy_nicky Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I think the reason being the op asked this question is because nursing is/was traditionally woman's work which involved emotional labor. Stigmas still persist, its like asking would you date a male secretary? Are there even any of those... From a guys perspective, I think it will bother women to what extent IDK.
Pink Cupcakes Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I see her point. While I wouldn't discriminate against dating a guy who was a male nurse, I do not date guys who do not have 4-year college degrees. I have never had to do so, so why should I? So if I did date a male nurse, he would at least have to have a 4-year nursing degree, not one just from a community college. I don't care what he majored in, just has to have a 4-year degree. I can see how that would offend some people, so I can't really hold the fact that jw is turned off by male nurses wrong, because I know guys who have less than a 4 year degree might be offended. However, the guys I dated also don't want to date women less educated than that.
D-Lish Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I see her point. While I wouldn't discriminate against dating a guy who was a male nurse, I do not date guys who do not have 4-year college degrees. I have never had to do so, so why should I? So if I did date a male nurse, he would at least have to have a 4-year nursing degree, not one just from a community college. I don't care what he majored in, just has to have a 4-year degree. I can see how that would offend some people, so I can't really hold the fact that jw is turned off by male nurses wrong, because I know guys who have less than a 4 year degree might be offended. However, the guys I dated also don't want to date women less educated than that. I don't find it offensive, I value education and intelligence also. My father is a Doctor and my mother has no post secondary education- and their relationship is mutual, unwavering and they are incredibly happy. She's very intelligent, despite not having gone to university. I also dated a mechanic a few years ago- and he was just a fountain of intelligence. A very smart man. He read a lot and he "fixed" everything. That was a first for me, dating someone that could fix anything he put his hands on. I was just as impressed by that as any academic I have dated. I wouldn't date a dumbass- but I am 100% open to dating someone in trades or someone that is self taught and successful.
Mary3 Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 In this time of severe unemployment its better to embrace the fact that your potential date has a JOB at all...and a pretty decent paying one at that...
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