xerofate Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Hey all- So my ex and I have a kid together, the light of my life, our daughter. She's 18 months old, and has had ear issues since she was born. They eventually had to put tubes in, but one has fallen out, and she's gotten two ear infections so far. So, she might have to have tubes put back into her ears. I refuse to not be there for my daughter. I also know my ex will be there. it's a ways out still: she has a follow up in two weeks, then probably another round of antibiotics, then she'll need a check up with the ent, then the surgery... but I'm freaking out already! What the hell should I do?!?!?!?!
Ronni_W Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I'm sorry to hear about your daughter's health issues. Hopefully the next surgery will resolve it. What the hell should I do?!?!?!?! I think, really, all you can do is act like a grown-up around your ex, and a loving, caring and concerned Dad around your daughter. Which, you are both those things, right? Perhaps try seeing and treating your ex as you would any other person who also loves your daughter -- say, like your daughter's aunt or somesuch. Alternatively, try treating your ex like one of the doctors or nurses. In any case, be civil and polite, offer whatever information is necessary regarding your daughter's medical stuff, progress, etc. You'll be doing it ONLY for yourself and your daughter...and you're both worth staying on the 'high road' for, don't you agree? So, just be the best man and Dad that you can be, and try not to let the ex pull you away from that. (Don't give her the power to do that.) Wishing your daughter best of health.
nobmagnet Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 hear hear. hey I dont like my errant ex but as far as the children go I will always be civil. You need to consentrate on your lovely baby. She needs both of you to be there for her. Maybe you and your ex should make it easy for each other and do shifts? I know I would appreciate it and It means the time you spend togather will be limited and you can help each other? just a thought x hope she gats well soon ear ache is horrid poor thing x
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