Vintage79 Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 I'm lost in Minnesota on a lingering wintering break, so I'm just generally thinking about relationship stuff to kill some time. That said, here's a situation from a while back, and I was hoping I could get some expert insight. Basically, I dated this girl for 2 years. In the beginning we had sex often enough (almost every time we saw each other). Honestly, she was awful, but I didn't have the heart to tell her, as she was at least kind of trying to get better. Well, that said, as things went on, I became less interested in having sex with her - it's always sad when a self gratification trumps the bona fide act, but it was that bad. About 6 months into the relationship we essentially stopped having sex, so much so that she even stopped taking the pill as she didn't see the point...at that point, I wasn't going to give her crap about it. Don't get me wrong, things still occasionally, and I mean very occasionally happened - think on the 1-2 month time frame...and when we finally got things going, it seemed like more work than fun. I think I just kept hoping that things would get better, but they never did. She was always very affectionate, and clearly cared about me deeply - to the point that she always called me "Love" and crap like that. ? Was this situation a glimpse of our eventual failure, or what does stopping having sex indicate about the relationship? Can a relationship survive if the sex almost, but not entirely, stops? If I end up in another relationship like this, how should this signal be interpreted? Should I talk to her about it, or is telling a girl she's attrocious in the sack not the way to do things? Or are my sexual requirements unrealistic (although I don't think they are), as they've definitely been met in the past?
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