PlumPrincess Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I didn't really expressed interest though, I'm the kind of guy which makes flirty jokes with girls all the time and she knows that. Another thought that popped into my head is a conversation I had with a friend a day before. She was there too and somehow love came into subject, and he asked me if I had my eye on a girl, another friend instantly said a random name I brought up some time ago, and I wen't in on it, making stuff up how she has beautifull eyes and all that. Now it could be my imagination but during and after that convo she was very quiet, had a hard time smiling. This is a girl who laughs at the sound of a fart, so it was very noticable. Maybe she was interested but now thinks I'm a player or something? That would have created the same reaction from me during the conversation. And I would also withdraw and distance myself from a guy who I liked and who didn't seem to be interested in me. I think you should muster some courage and ask her out on a date. If she's like me, she's not going to do anything anymore and is more likely to start preparing to move on. Just go and ask her if she wants to go out on a date with you. If she's not interested, you can move on and find someone else. If she does like you, she will appreciate it.
start-fresh Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 I didn't really expressed interest though Why? Another thought that popped into my head is a conversation I had with a friend a day before. She was there too and somehow love came into subject, and he asked me if I had my eye on a girl, another friend instantly said a random name I brought up some time ago, and I wen't in on it, making stuff up how she has beautifull eyes and all that.Again, WHY? Dude, you're kinda blowing it here. She gave you all the positive signs and you've done these things to sabotage it. You have to do something like kiss her or get her out on a proper date real soon. This girl was yours to lose. I've been here once before. It's easy to get lazy when a girl is showing a lot of interest early on, but what you don't realize at the time is that interest is finite. Eventually, something will click to make her change her mind and then there's nothing you can do to get it back again.
Author Woaah Posted January 1, 2010 Author Posted January 1, 2010 Why? Again, WHY? Dude, you're kinda blowing it here. She gave you all the positive signs and you've done these things to sabotage it. You have to do something like kiss her or get her out on a proper date real soon. This girl was yours to lose. I've been here once before. It's easy to get lazy when a girl is showing a lot of interest early on, but what you don't realize at the time is that interest is finite. Eventually, something will click to make her change her mind and then there's nothing you can do to get it back again. It's hard to act interested and cheery around someone who is obviously abit annoyed at you for something. And yes talking about someone else was a very stupid mistake, maybe I can find someway to let her know that it ment nothing...
start-fresh Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 It's hard to act interested and cheery around someone who is obviously abit annoyed at you for something. And yes talking about someone else was a very stupid mistake, maybe I can find someway to let her know that it ment nothing... I know it's easier said than done when you're with all of her family and stuff, but I think it's best to make a graceful exit if she's giving you the cold shoulder. When she's acting like that around you, you sticking around is not helping your case one bit. I think she's put off by the comments about the other girl.
PlumPrincess Posted January 1, 2010 Posted January 1, 2010 It's hard to act interested and cheery around someone who is obviously abit annoyed at you for something. And yes talking about someone else was a very stupid mistake, maybe I can find someway to let her know that it ment nothing... I like my men to have some drive and be able to make a decision. It's either stay or leave. I may find a bit of insecurity cute in the beginning, but if it prevents things from moving on, I find it off-putting.
Author Woaah Posted January 3, 2010 Author Posted January 3, 2010 Hey everyone a small update: Sunday night went very well, I asked her out to come with a friend of mine and we had a great time, talking all the time etc. And I kind of asked her out on a date, we we're talking about the new movie avatar and she said she wanted to see it really bad, I was talking about how it was in my mind for awhile too, and said we should go together and we agreed and aranged a date, we're going to amsterdam (15 min's from where I live) at 16:00, just have fun then go to the movie's and just go to a club or bar after. I'm just glad that I have this negative view of new years eve out of my mind. Yay.
PlumPrincess Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Hey everyone a small update: Sunday night went very well, I asked her out to come with a friend of mine and we had a great time, talking all the time etc. And I kind of asked her out on a date, we we're talking about the new movie avatar and she said she wanted to see it really bad, I was talking about how it was in my mind for awhile too, and said we should go together and we agreed and aranged a date, we're going to amsterdam (15 min's from where I live) at 16:00, just have fun then go to the movie's and just go to a club or bar after. I'm just glad that I have this negative view of new years eve out of my mind. Yay. Sounds good! Yay! I think you really should move to the next step by asking her, "How about if we turn this into a real date?" You're doing all this half-hearted steps and it's making me nervous. Can't you just jump and do it, please? I mean, be bold.
Phateless Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Sounds good! Yay! I think you really should move to the next step by asking her, "How about if we turn this into a real date?" You're doing all this half-hearted steps and it's making me nervous. Can't you just jump and do it, please? I mean, be bold. This is great advice! Woah, it's time for you to grow some balls and BE A MAN! Hug her, hold her hand, put your arm around her, kiss her! If you don't make a move soon she will lose interest. Ask me how I know.
PlumPrincess Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 A guy once asked me out (I wouldn't really say we were friends at that time, because we only knew each other so briefly). We were standing on the balcony at night and he asked me out and I said ok. It was a sweet moment. He was standing next to me, leaned against me and asked casually, "Let's call it a date?" and I said yes. The rest of the story I won't tell, because it sucks. I'm just saying, it works and he was quite good with women. It seems she already likes you, so it won't matter anymore, if you do it with an air of confidence or if you look her in the eyes and stammer your question, she'll be thrilled that you're asking her at all.
Author Woaah Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 This is great advice! Woah, it's time for you to grow some balls and BE A MAN! Hug her, hold her hand, put your arm around her, kiss her! If you don't make a move soon she will lose interest. Ask me how I know. All those things happen quite often, when I walk her home I I always have my arm around her, we hold eachother's hand while talking etc. And I asked her out on a date, I can't think of many ''moves'' left I could be doing. Except for the kiss, which I'm going for on saturday, I'll keep you updated.
Phateless Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 All those things happen quite often, when I walk her home I I always have my arm around her, we hold eachother's hand while talking etc. And I asked her out on a date, I can't think of many ''moves'' left I could be doing. Except for the kiss, which I'm going for on saturday, I'll keep you updated. Good. If you don't kiss her on Saturday, I WILL yell at you. Not even kidding, lol.
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