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Is it ok to ask a girl out by txt message?


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If it's for something casual like NYE and first date sort of speak, either would probably work fine. The more casual approach would probably be text.

 

As for a regular situation with someone you really want to take out on a date, I think most women would prefer a phone call. To each their own, some women hate talking on the phone and only like texting.

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UPDATE: so i ended up texting her about NYE then she called me back and left a msg.

 

I just called her and we are all set for NYE.

 

How 'bout them apples?

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That is great! Happy NYE!!! Glad it worked out. :)

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UPDATE: so i ended up texting her about NYE then she called me back and left a msg.

 

I just called her and we are all set for NYE.

 

How 'bout them apples?

 

Indeed. Nice Apples Alpha.

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UPDATE: so i ended up texting her about NYE then she called me back and left a msg.

 

I just called her and we are all set for NYE.

 

How 'bout them apples?

 

 

 

 

 

maybe you should ask maggie if she wants to go also!

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dudes the lesson here is that if a chick likes you then you could ask her for a date using smoke signals and she would say yes :laugh:

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Now you have a decision to make. Are you going to be a nice guy to her or a jerk? I think being a jerk is probably the way to go. Women don't really dig nice guys.

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no, i'm asking her out by text for NYE with no particular outcome in mind. if she says yes that is great, if she says no that will be great too. keep in mind that this would be a 1st date for NYE, thats a pretty precarious dating situation since you haven't gone out with the person before...she could turn out to be another wacko nut job (but thats unlikely)

 

why do you want to text her rather than call? seems kinda wimpy to me... especially for an alpha male like you ;)

 

edit: ok, I didn't read the whole thread... sounds like the texting thing worked for you. Me... probably not... not for a first date especially, but whatever... maybe I'm behind the times too ;)

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nowadays everyone textes and emails. i would ask a girl out thru a text and i've done it before and everything turned out well lol. but try to switch it up sometimes. call her for the 2nd or 3rd date next time.

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nowadays everyone textes and emails. i would ask a girl out thru a text and i've done it before and everything turned out well lol. but try to switch it up sometimes. call her for the 2nd or 3rd date next time.

indeed .

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dudes the lesson here is that if a chick likes you then you could ask her for a date using smoke signals and she would say yes :laugh:

 

 

yeah that's true... but if it seems like you're not really putting too much effort into it after awhile we lose interest.. just FYI

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What is interesting Alpha is that you texted and she called..

 

She put more effort into it than you did..

Your text would not have worked to ask her out if she wasn't already interested in you.

 

The trick will be to decide when to text and when to call..

You're in your 40's.. do more calling than texting.. texting is pretty light for asking someone out.

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dudes the lesson here is that if a chick likes you then you could ask her for a date using smoke signals and she would say yes :laugh:

 

 

From all your posts about dating.. that should not concern you.. :p

and a 'lazy' potential date would be a huge turn-off.. I would also NOT bother.

 

I think you're too old for 'kids' stuff '...

 

After a few dates.. I think texting is just as good and sometimes more convenient than calling.. ;)

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What is interesting Alpha is that you texted and she called..

 

She put more effort into it than you did..

Your text would not have worked to ask her out if she wasn't already interested in you.

 

The trick will be to decide when to text and when to call..

You're in your 40's.. do more calling than texting.. texting is pretty light for asking someone out.

 

I think texting is ok once you have been dating for a while... but when I first meet a guy I expect him to call me... just to talk or to ask me out or whatever... I'm big on communication though. :p

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The trick will be to decide when to text and when to call.

 

Generally, deciding when to text or when to call is always going to be a challenge for anyone...I think it depends on what feels most right at a particular time.

 

I personally wouldn't text a request for a date. Like Art_Critic said it is pretty light on and the person you're asking might not take you seriously. I would usually call and at the most ask through IM like MSN because you're still having a conversation. Of course it depends on the person, what's appropriate and the situation between the two people. If the other person is more likely to answer a text than a call, maybe do that and vice versa. But it all depends really.

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Your text would not have worked to ask her out if she wasn't already interested in you.

yea i guess you're right but i already sorta knew she was into me....a few weeks ago when we first me she was giving me "the eye" and then gave me her cell number.

 

but i do agree that asking someone out by txt is riskier than calling

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Yes. Sounds like she really likes you. :love:

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Call her Alpha.

 

Have you ever asked out a gal by txting?

 

Probably not, so why would you start now? ( unless ur uninterested in her and really don't care if she goes or not )

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Call her Alpha.

dude we've already got a date for NYE....and i did ask her by text. i posted it on the previous page

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Cool..:bunny:

 

Hope it works out for you!!!!:)

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Hope it works out for you!!!!:)

trust me brother, it'll work out :)

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