JohnnyBoy213 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Well, long story short, im 15 (male). Never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. and im starting to feel really depressed about it. Im not really ugly or anything, Im 5"6 I have a slim, fairly strong build, tan skin, and very little to no acne or skin problems. Im not particulary popular or unpopular (Im in 9th grade), and im not even really awkward around girls, quiet sometimes, but usually pretty cool. Anyway I just want to know what your opinions or advice is. I feel like total crap right now, and havent done much for the last few days, just been really depressed, and I dont really know anybody in real life to talk to about something like this (Again im 15, people arent really mature about this stuff)
Yukikazi Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Dude you're 15.. don't sweat it and don't fall for the media. Relax and enjoy life. When you are 20ish and still in the same boat.. then come complain about lack of female companionship.
cognac Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Yeah I'm 21 and in your boat OP, don't start complaining yet. Only thing i can see women would take issue with is the fact that you're 5'6. Don't make the same mistake I did and start smoking and stuff at your age, make sure to eat well and exercise you may hit a growth spurt in high school. A large portion of guys your age don't have girlfriends .
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 I just turned 15, I dont think 5'6 is really short... Looking at the other guys in my school i'd say im somewhere near the middle or maybe slightly on the short side. Only physical feature of me that im not confident about is my body hair, I have ALOT of it on my legs, theighs, and ass, it feels like it may be a deal breaker later on in a relationship... Also, im shy, im not too bad at hiding it if a girl approaches me, but I cant find it in me to approach a group of girls I dont really know and start talking to them. I dont think I come off as shy or awkward, but maybe uninterested, whats the simplest way to show interest? And I dont smoke, never tried cigarettes (never would) and ive only tried marijuana once, socially.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Dude you're 15.. don't sweat it and don't fall for the media. Relax and enjoy life. When you are 20ish and still in the same boat.. then come complain about lack of female companionship. this^^^ I had only one GF by this time....and that wasnt even real now that I look back. Just be you, be confident, dont be afraid to talk to girls...they'll notice you. confidence is the #1 thing for a dude your age. DONT BE DEPRESSED about it....it will come, I promise you that.
boogieboy Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 What have you done actively to get yourself a girlfriend?
Derek Longley Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 You have only 15 years old, his whole life ahead. A few years later, you will be remembered with a smile their problems. I am 15 years old not even think about girls:cool: All will o.k.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I just turned 15, I dont think 5'6 is really short... Looking at the other guys in my school i'd say im somewhere near the middle or maybe slightly on the short side. Only physical feature of me that im not confident about is my body hair, I have ALOT of it on my legs, theighs, and ass, it feels like it may be a deal breaker later on in a relationship... Also, im shy, im not too bad at hiding it if a girl approaches me, but I cant find it in me to approach a group of girls I dont really know and start talking to them. I dont think I come off as shy or awkward, but maybe uninterested, whats the simplest way to show interest?. 1. dont worry about body hair. that will not be a deal killer in most circumstances 2. Showing interest? Get involved in school activities, talk to girls in your class, just communicate. 3. I know I said this already, but CONFIDENCE. Just carry yourself like you are sure of yourself. Make eye contact, smile, say hi to the hot girls in the hallway. own yourself. Confidence is the single most important trait when wooing women. My buddy is 5'-5", 29 years old, and has tagged more chicks than anyone of our group of friends. probably 200. he is the most confident dude i know.
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 But how can I go about meeting girls? I have a few pleutonic girlfriends, but other then that I rarely meet girls outside school.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 But how can I go about meeting girls? I have a few pleutonic girlfriends, but other then that I rarely meet girls outside school. 2. Showing interest? Get involved in school activities, talk to girls in your class, just communicate. 3. I know I said this already, but CONFIDENCE. Just carry yourself like you are sure of yourself. Make eye contact, smile, say hi to the hot girls in the hallway. own yourself. Confidence is the single most important trait when wooing women. My buddy is 5'-5", 29 years old, and has tagged more chicks than anyone of our group of friends. probably 200. he is the most confident dude i know.
sagetalk Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 You're 15, lay off romance. Just ask them out to do fun things no strings attached. No girlfriend at 15 is more of a blessing than a curse, one day you will understand. I'll just say one word, College. College my friend, college .
littlebittle Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 I know how hard that can be. I'm a girl, but I remember feeling the same way when I was your age. I wasn't like a loser or anything in high school, but I wasn't popular and I was kind of quiet. I didn't start to really get noticed by boys until I was a junior, and then I didn't have a serious boyfriend until i was a senior. Meeting people is tough in high school. I know it's annoying to hear, but it will get easier as you get older. At least, it did for me and most people I know. Do your friends have girlfriends?
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 Ok, but never having even made out with a girl is really killing my ego...
Woody1 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 As others have said you're 15 so don't worry about it yet. If you do want a bit of female attention just remember that you have to make an effort towards girls, they very rarely make any moves it's usually up to the fella. If you're desperate enough you'll give it a shot.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Well, long story short, im 15 (male). Never had a girlfriend, never kissed a girl. and im starting to feel really depressed about it. Im not really ugly or anything, Im 5"6 I have a slim, fairly strong build, tan skin, and very little to no acne or skin problems. Im not particulary popular or unpopular (Im in 9th grade), and im not even really awkward around girls, quiet sometimes, but usually pretty cool. Anyway I just want to know what your opinions or advice is. I feel like total crap right now, and havent done much for the last few days, just been really depressed, and I dont really know anybody in real life to talk to about something like this (Again im 15, people arent really mature about this stuff) You have way too many things in the future to worry about than this at this age. CHRIST JOHNNY! RELAX. I won't even try to explain what it means to have a gf at age 15, because kids don't listen to me. Come back in 6 - 7 years.
littlebittle Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 But how can I go about meeting girls? I have a few pleutonic girlfriends, but other then that I rarely meet girls outside school. When I was in high school I met guys (and my guy friends met girls) at local shows. We liked punk music then, but maybe see if there's a local music scene and you can meet girls from other schools at shows. Also, another good way to meet girls (and new people in general) is to join a club at school. Just make sure it's something you're genuinely interested in.
boogieboy Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Work on making friends. Friends help set you up with girls, or at least bring you to social gatherings. Work on learning how to not be awkward around other people. Girls will be around when you are at friends gatherings, thats the best way. You want to make friends now, you dont want to have no one to hang with when you graduate.
Simply Sarah Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 Your young so don't sweat this to much. Someone will come along one day. I'm 24 and I've only had 2 boyfriends.
datingsites Posted December 29, 2009 Posted December 29, 2009 Asking a 15 year old to wait 6-7 years.....do you know how long that is to a 15 year old !!! Johnny - simple answer is school ain't that great for the dating business. Things last a couple of weeks at best, see each other occassionally, fizzles out etc... - I remember being the same when I was your age. Anyone in school you have your eye on, she shown any interest? As I said school ain't the best for dating, but wait until you hit college (if you're going, which would only be just over a year away) completely different ball game entirely my friend.
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 (edited) Okay... Im just going to revive this thread because I dont feel like this deserves a new one... Pretty much the day after I made this thread and started to feel better from your responses, I met a girl hanging out in town, got her number, ect. We started texting and talking online alot for like a day. It was pretty much obvious that she liked me (She told my friend that I was cute, nice, funny, ect, and she told him she wanted to go out with me), and I really liked her, so I asked her out. She said yes and got really excited and everything, We pretty much talked/texted all the time for the next couple days, went on a few dates, ect. Whenever we talked she went on and on about how she loves being with me, im such a nice guy, shes so happy with me, im cute, ect, and I usually responded with the same stuff. Shes not slutty or anything, I casually kissed her a few times, and shes kind of shy (so am i) so I didnt try to get anything. Yesterday, she comes out with, I think we should just be friends, she says I like you and I know you like me but "my dad doesnt want me having a bf,". WTF, she brought this up before but never seemed to care (Her dad didnt know about me). I dont even know what happened now, I dont buy any of this crap about her dad, and to make it even worse, I THINK SHES HITTING ON MY FRIEND (The one who she talked to about me) He obviously wont go out with her out of respect for me. And I also feel like I got way to emotionally attached since I only went out with her for like a week, but son of a bitch I mean she was talking to me like she was in love with me, and I wasnt settling for this girl either, she was hot, fun personality, and pretty much perfect for me and I dont score like that often. So... Single again. Ill add this to the original post. Edited January 4, 2010 by JohnnyBoy213
lostwithafuture Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 You have loads of time, but if you really want a girlfriend I would suggest trying outside school. I found that in school it was a bit more difficult to talk to girls just because they would be around friends consistently. Find a part-time job or find some outside activities where you can start meeting girls. The more you try the more chances you will have. Also don't be scared of rejection, its part of life
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Thanks but im kind of looking for opinions on my last post.
lordWilhelm Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 Well, the excuse "my dad doesn't want me to have a bf" is just that, an excuse. If she liked you enough, she wouldn't let that get in the way. So just let her go, there's plenty of other girls. Texting/chatting to her all the time may make her think of you as being too needy or available; you need to be able to control your distance to her, sometimes you have to connect to her, flirt with her (especially in person!), and sometimes you have to disconnect and show her you've got your own life. Speaking of that, the most important thing you can do is to really make an effort set your own goals in life, be sociable and get involved in activities in and outside school. If you seem like you're enjoying yourself in life girls will find that much more attractive than the insecurity you're probably projecting right now about never having had a girlfriend. Just relax, you're shooting yourself in the foot right now.
Author JohnnyBoy213 Posted January 4, 2010 Author Posted January 4, 2010 Well, the excuse "my dad doesn't want me to have a bf" is just that, an excuse. If she liked you enough, she wouldn't let that get in the way. So just let her go, there's plenty of other girls. Texting/chatting to her all the time may make her think of you as being too needy or available; you need to be able to control your distance to her, sometimes you have to connect to her, flirt with her (especially in person!), and sometimes you have to disconnect and show her you've got your own life. Speaking of that, the most important thing you can do is to really make an effort set your own goals in life, be sociable and get involved in activities in and outside school. If you seem like you're enjoying yourself in life girls will find that much more attractive than the insecurity you're probably projecting right now about never having had a girlfriend. Just relax, you're shooting yourself in the foot right now. She texted me constantly, sometimes 5 times a day (I mean 5 conversations a day, sometimes 30mins to an hour long), pissed me off sometimes, but I liked talking to her so I didnt bring it up. And she never bitched about me not giving her attention or being too clingy, literally earlier that day she was telling me how much she liked me. I just really want to know why she broke up with me... Im starting to think I was too much of a "nice guy" but I dont freaking know. She had 3 bfs prior to me, and I have no experience.
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