singlemom19 Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 my ex n i have been broken up for 6 months n for 3 months we have tried working things out but last nite it all hit the fan...i found out he was wit this girl but i decided it was nothing to fight about n just picked up my daughter witout saying a word...he calls me 10 mins later n i ignore him but curiousity got the better of me n i ended up calling him back....we talk then start fighting n he tells me its over n no use in trying....my heart was broken so i said tht he couldnt see our daughter n now he is taking me to court...i have tried reaching him to talk bout it since last nite n nothing back....i dont knw wht to do-just want to stay in bed all day...i have meet this wonderful guy but i cant let go of my ex....
nobmagnet Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 er forget the new chap my love!......goodness what a mess. I implore you to consider your childin this when you calm down? However you must feel so let down. Take a deep breath......in...........out. Look at her and relax a little. You are not in danger physically but you are emotionally. Thats why you ran. Tell her its ok. Forget you (you can youre a mum!) ok if you have the means get a family member of a joint freind to call him but be sure and calm about what you want. Just to see how he is? just to explain how you were frightened? im sorry it must have hurt but you seem to have moved on and I dont know your story neet x
deux ex machina Posted December 28, 2009 Posted December 28, 2009 The most important thing is your child's well-being. I understand your desire to call your ex, but this appears to make things worse. At least right now, emotions are running high. So it is in the Court's hands now, and in the long run it will probably be for the best to defer the matter to the neutral third party. This is part of what it is designed to do. It's going to be difficult, I can't say that it won't be. But just look at the big picture, stay as calm and measured in your response to all of this as you can, and as nobmagnet pointed out - find the support you will need to get you through this. You sound so anxious, with the question, "What will happen?" The answer to that is that it will take time for everything to come to some kind of resolution. In the meantime, focus on what you can do to take care of you and your daughter well, minimize disruptions and arguments, and let things play out as they will. I really think it will be okay. Time is a great healer. Have faith in yourself - you really are stronger than you think you are at the moment. I'm so sorry things are so hard for you right now. *hugs*
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